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Anonymous wrote:DH was like this as he’s Indian and was raised by authoritarian parents. When they said “jump” he “jumped”.

I showed him studies on Janet Lansbury’s site that concluded that interrupting play or conversation without warning had a negative effect on the child’s ability to concentrate later in school. No idea if that true but it made DH stop doing it immediately and we had far fewer tantrums.

I just think what our husbands were/are doing is so disrespectful to our kids.

I think what you did to your husband was more disrespectful. Kids can learn that different adults have different expectations. One parent shouldn’t assert their way is “correct”.

You think it’s disrespectful to share a study with your spouse???

Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s actually more damaging to a child to abruptly interrupt them then it is to an adult.

Team OP here.

Some perspective here. There are kids being killed in Afghanistan and Ukraine and DCUM over here worried about the effects of a toddler being interrupted. Please tell what awful horrible effects result from being interrupted…will said child not feel like the center of the universe? Having to interrupt a child to move on to the next task isn’t disrespectful. You can interrupt someone with “excuse me, it’s time to XXXX”. That’s not rude or disrespectful.

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Anonymous wrote:DH was like this as he’s Indian and was raised by authoritarian parents. When they said “jump” he “jumped”.

I showed him studies on Janet Lansbury’s site that concluded that interrupting play or conversation without warning had a negative effect on the child’s ability to concentrate later in school. No idea if that true but it made DH stop doing it immediately and we had far fewer tantrums.

I just think what our husbands were/are doing is so disrespectful to our kids.

I think what you did to your husband was more disrespectful. Kids can learn that different adults have different expectations. One parent shouldn’t assert their way is “correct”.

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Anonymous wrote:Do it to DH for a full day and ask him how he likes it.

Do you believe adults and children should be treated as equals? I mean, this is silly. It’s ok to act like an adult. It’s called parenting.

Parenting involves respecting your children, PP. And teaching by example. NP here. And acting like an adult means avoiding interrupting anyone.

Make sure you give your dh a transition warning also and let him finish anything he’s been doing! It’s no wonder so many men don’t want to participate in parenting when micromanaged.

Yeah, discussing and agreeing on the best way to parent is micromanaging. /s

Never, ever challenge Daddy.

I can’t get dh to do it my way isn’t a “discussion” no matter if you keep saying it is. Go back to the Op and point out the discussion, please.

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Anonymous wrote:Do it to DH for a full day and ask him how he likes it.

Do you believe adults and children should be treated as equals? I mean, this is silly. It’s ok to act like an adult. It’s called parenting.

Parenting involves respecting your children, PP. And teaching by example. NP here. And acting like an adult means avoiding interrupting anyone.

Make sure you give your dh a transition warning also and let him finish anything he’s been doing! It’s no wonder so many men don’t want to participate in parenting when micromanaged.

Yeah, discussing and agreeing on the best way to parent is micromanaging. /s

Never, ever challenge Daddy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH was like this as he’s Indian and was raised by authoritarian parents. When they said “jump” he “jumped”.

I showed him studies on Janet Lansbury’s site that concluded that interrupting play or conversation without warning had a negative effect on the child’s ability to concentrate later in school. No idea if that true but it made DH stop doing it immediately and we had far fewer tantrums.

I just think what our husbands were/are doing is so disrespectful to our kids.

I just read that JL article today! Came up on my News feed.

Since Indians and Asians outperform whites on nearly every academic metric, maybe you should listen to your spouse instead of lecturing on how your way is better.