Anonymous wrote:Yes. A neighbor left a note in our mailbox complaining that sometimes she/he got stuck behind our disabled child's bus in front of our house in the afternoon (child had to be detached from a harness and buckled in to a wheelchair-it never took more than a few minutes), and could we move the bus stop to the corner? For ten years, I have wondered which neighbor is the a-hole.

this is infuriating and so hurtful. I am so sorry that someone did that to you

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I had a neighbor, a single dad that had money problems. I got a gift card and wrote a note but didn't identify myself, I wanted to remain anonymous. Then I dropped it in his mail slot.

I did something similar after meeting a family with money problems. I mailed it from the post office.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. To the parents of my kid's bully. The kid bullies many kids in the school. I've talked to the parents already, other parent have talked to them. The parents haven't done anything about it. The school hasn't done anything about it. I think everyone is a little too "nice" about it and don't convey how awful that kid is because everyone is afraid that the bully will come down harder on their kids for tattling.

Maybe in this case because I understand what you mean there are consequences for those that tell.

I posted something anonymously in my office 35 years ago. The city had passed a no-smoking ordinance in offices and it wasn't being enforced. My cubicle was next to an office with a smoker and shared two walls with smokers. It had been horrible and I was so looking forward to a smoke-free workplace, but the leadership team punted on it. So I photocopied newspaper articles on the ban as well as enforcement of it and hung them on the central bulletin board as well as in the office kitchen. A few were ripped down and one of the people near me would complain about the postings. Finally, they announced the ban was going into effect. I was so, so happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, once in 3rd grade I sent an anonymous letter to the boy down the street calling him a booger. I cut all the letters out of newspaper clippings.

LOL. How did you deliver the letter? Went down to his house and hand-delivered?

Yes, 9 year old me marched down the street and stuck it in his mailbox. Which I now realize is probably illegal and i would be mortified if my own child behaved this way

ha ha. good stuff PP. at least you didn't knock on the door and gave it to him personally.

One time a mom emailed me about my sons behavior towards her son. I was mortified by what she shared, and apologized. Then we talked with my son about it, he agreed to stay away from the other kid. Don’t send an anonymous note, talk openly with the parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, once in 3rd grade I sent an anonymous letter to the boy down the street calling him a booger. I cut all the letters out of newspaper clippings.

LOL. How did you deliver the letter? Went down to his house and hand-delivered?

Yes, 9 year old me marched down the street and stuck it in his mailbox. Which I now realize is probably illegal and i would be mortified if my own child behaved this way

Anonymous wrote:Op again. The school has been notified, many times. The parents have been notified--many times. By me and by others. I don't know why this kid keeps getting away with it. That's why I thought a different tactic may help.

Maybe the kid has SN the school is aware of or lives in a family environment particularly challenging. If that’s the case an anonymous letter from you would really not accomplish anything

Anonymous wrote:Op again. The school has been notified, many times. The parents have been notified--many times. By me and by others. I don't know why this kid keeps getting away with it. That's why I thought a different tactic may help.

An anonymous letter won't get results. The person will throw it away.

Have you reached out to a mental health specialist? Police? (If reaching out to police, use the non-emergency number. Say "I don't know who I should talk to. What do you recommend? I don't want this to escalate and be something far worse." Tell them school principal/staff hasn't been responsive.)

Have you escalated this within your school system?

I anonymously wrote a letter to a down the street neighbor that had piles of yard sale stuff on their front porch that they were buying and hoarding. I pointed out taht no one else on the block had a front porch like that and please clean it up. Left it in their mailbox one night and within 2 days, voila, clean porch.
That was 20 years ago and it's never returned.

The bullying sounds quite different, though.

Op again. The school has been notified, many times. The parents have been notified--many times. By me and by others. I don't know why this kid keeps getting away with it. That's why I thought a different tactic may help.

Yes. I had a neighbor, a single dad that had money problems. I got a gift card and wrote a note but didn't identify myself, I wanted to remain anonymous. Then I dropped it in his mail slot.

I sent an anonymous letter Reporting my one annoying neighbor to police for running an illegal business out of home and excessive cars in street, I also sent a copy to zoning board.

Same day I send letter reporting the other neighbor for bushes too high.

The two idiots thought that ratted each Other out.

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Anonymous wrote:no but I've received one.
We were in the newspaper for refinancing our house about 20 years ago, with it pictured behind us. Obvi we were too young to have such a great house.
Someone send a note with the clipping that said something weird that I don't remember but the implication was that they were super jealous.

Is this a thing??

No I think rates were going down and it was a story about refinancing. I can barely recall. They just picked the next person who came into the bank to do it and asked if we’d like to be featured as an example.

Talk to the school Principal and guidance counselor. Do not send an anonymous letter.

Kids who bully are usually bullied themselves (likely at home) and need help.