Anonymous wrote:Mo money, mo problems

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, OP. Do you also feel jealous that my husband married rich?

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Anonymous wrote:Be happy for your own advantages in life and the things you enjoy about your spouse. Sure, I wish my spouse earned more but he probably wishes I looked like a Victoria’s Secret model (I don’t.)

Also, my dad is a retired big law partner and the grueling number of hours he worked put an enormous strain on my parents marriage. Though we had a nice life and a loving home, it was a sad relationship dynamic to be around growing up, and my dad missed a lot of his kids milestones working at a job he loathed.

Haha, you don’t care if your spouse makes much because YOU come from a rich family. How can you miss that? I’ll bet you had DP help, fully funded education, and don’t have to worry about paying for your parents elder care?

Yes, and? I said to be grateful for your advantages. My husband and I both came into adulthood debt free. We were each given a great head start. But our parents don’t support as adults (nor should they.) therefore- and I can’t believe I have to spell this out for you- our income determines the lifestyle we live. My dh does fine, but my income is necessary, and because he’s not “an investment banker or in big law” I don’t particularly have flexibility to stay at home with our young kids during this point in their lives, like my mom did and many spouses married to high income partners do. Instead, I’m burnt out parenting young kids while performing mediocrely in my corporate job. I’m not complaining and some people have it FAR worse than that, but others have it better, whether it’s through a high earning spouse or a lot of family money. It doesn’t help my life to be jealous of theirs, and I’m very grateful for everything I do have.



So my answer to OP is the answer to anyone who finds themselves jealous of anything- be grateful for what you have and change what you can. If OP wants to be rich, she should go to law school or get an MBA and go into finance herself. Or maybe she’ll meet her spouse at those schools, but hopefully they don’t realize she’s a gold digger.

Jaysus-H-Christ you are incredibly obtuse! You really don't realize how whiny,out of touch, and privileged you sound. You have NO idea of what it's like not to be financially secure. But, hey, we can all just go to law school and marry rich if we didn't want to be poor .... . I'm not saying being envious of women who marry rich is a good thing, but I do understand what it may feel like to wonder about it. FWIW - I grew up MC, married someone who is UMC and we live a decidedly comfortable UMC life.

You sound like you have a chip on your shoulder. Nothing about the prior post is whiny- only agreeing that coming from financial security takes a lot of pressure off, but it doesn’t necessarily mean one doesn’t have to work for the rest of their life, or that they aren’t in the daily grind like everyone else. OP is whining about how not to resent people who have wealthy spouses, and really the only options are stop being jealous, attract a rich spouse (by being in the same circle, being equally impressive, not being a gold digger, and/or being pretty) or get rich yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Be happy for your own advantages in life and the things you enjoy about your spouse. Sure, I wish my spouse earned more but he probably wishes I looked like a Victoria’s Secret model (I don’t.)

Also, my dad is a retired big law partner and the grueling number of hours he worked put an enormous strain on my parents marriage. Though we had a nice life and a loving home, it was a sad relationship dynamic to be around growing up, and my dad missed a lot of his kids milestones working at a job he loathed.

Haha, you don’t care if your spouse makes much because YOU come from a rich family. How can you miss that? I’ll bet you had DP help, fully funded education, and don’t have to worry about paying for your parents elder care?

Yes, and? I said to be grateful for your advantages. My husband and I both came into adulthood debt free. We were each given a great head start. But our parents don’t support as adults (nor should they.) therefore- and I can’t believe I have to spell this out for you- our income determines the lifestyle we live. My dh does fine, but my income is necessary, and because he’s not “an investment banker or in big law” I don’t particularly have flexibility to stay at home with our young kids during this point in their lives, like my mom did and many spouses married to high income partners do. Instead, I’m burnt out parenting young kids while performing mediocrely in my corporate job. I’m not complaining and some people have it FAR worse than that, but others have it better, whether it’s through a high earning spouse or a lot of family money. It doesn’t help my life to be jealous of theirs, and I’m very grateful for everything I do have.



So my answer to OP is the answer to anyone who finds themselves jealous of anything- be grateful for what you have and change what you can. If OP wants to be rich, she should go to law school or get an MBA and go into finance herself. Or maybe she’ll meet her spouse at those schools, but hopefully they don’t realize she’s a gold digger.

Jaysus-H-Christ you are incredibly obtuse! You really don't realize how whiny,out of touch, and privileged you sound. You have NO idea of what it's like not to be financially secure. But, hey, we can all just go to law school and marry rich if we didn't want to be poor .... . I'm not saying being envious of women who marry rich is a good thing, but I do understand what it may feel like to wonder about it. FWIW - I grew up MC, married someone who is UMC and we live a decidedly comfortable UMC life.

Anonymous wrote:I used to teach internationally. My students were mega rich. Their mothers were beautiful and seemed to have it all.

However, the moms spent their days at the gym and maintaining their looks. Lot's of plastic surgery. Many of their husbands left them for younger women.

It is easy to be envious of them based on appearances. However, once you get a glimpse into their world the jealousy fades.I think those ladies work hard for those rich husbands but it is not a secure world.

I don't judge them nor am I jealous. It is their life to lead but I don't think I would be happy.

I am sure some might have legit happy lives but they are the minority. I would rather be middle class and happy.

Anonymous wrote:If he was rich, hot, and a great dad and spouse..than yeah, I might be drooling a bit!

Anonymous wrote:Be happy for your own advantages in life and the things you enjoy about your spouse. Sure, I wish my spouse earned more but he probably wishes I looked like a Victoria’s Secret model (I don’t.)

Also, my dad is a retired big law partner and the grueling number of hours he worked put an enormous strain on my parents marriage. Though we had a nice life and a loving home, it was a sad relationship dynamic to be around growing up, and my dad missed a lot of his kids milestones working at a job he loathed.

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Anonymous wrote:Be happy for your own advantages in life and the things you enjoy about your spouse. Sure, I wish my spouse earned more but he probably wishes I looked like a Victoria’s Secret model (I don’t.)

Also, my dad is a retired big law partner and the grueling number of hours he worked put an enormous strain on my parents marriage. Though we had a nice life and a loving home, it was a sad relationship dynamic to be around growing up, and my dad missed a lot of his kids milestones working at a job he loathed.

Haha, you don’t care if your spouse makes much because YOU come from a rich family. How can you miss that? I’ll bet you had DP help, fully funded education, and don’t have to worry about paying for your parents elder care?

Yes, and? I said to be grateful for your advantages. My husband and I both came into adulthood debt free. We were each given a great head start. But our parents don’t support as adults (nor should they.) therefore- and I can’t believe I have to spell this out for you- our income determines the lifestyle we live. My dh does fine, but my income is necessary, and because he’s not “an investment banker or in big law” I don’t particularly have flexibility to stay at home with our young kids during this point in their lives, like my mom did and many spouses married to high income partners do. Instead, I’m burnt out parenting young kids while performing mediocrely in my corporate job. I’m not complaining and some people have it FAR worse than that, but others have it better, whether it’s through a high earning spouse or a lot of family money. It doesn’t help my life to be jealous of theirs, and I’m very grateful for everything I do have.



So my answer to OP is the answer to anyone who finds themselves jealous of anything- be grateful for what you have and change what you can. If OP wants to be rich, she should go to law school or get an MBA and go into finance herself. Or maybe she’ll meet her spouse at those schools, but hopefully they don’t realize she’s a gold digger.

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Anonymous wrote:Be happy for your own advantages in life and the things you enjoy about your spouse. Sure, I wish my spouse earned more but he probably wishes I looked like a Victoria’s Secret model (I don’t.)

Also, my dad is a retired big law partner and the grueling number of hours he worked put an enormous strain on my parents marriage. Though we had a nice life and a loving home, it was a sad relationship dynamic to be around growing up, and my dad missed a lot of his kids milestones working at a job he loathed.

Haha, you don’t care if your spouse makes much because YOU come from a rich family. How can you miss that? I’ll bet you had DP help, fully funded education, and don’t have to worry about paying for your parents elder care?

DP but I am much more envious of people who come from wealthy families than I am of women who marry rich guys. Graduating from school without debt is such a gift. Plus wealthy families can also often help with down payments, or they pay for nice travel, or they'll pay for your kids childcare. Hell, I'm jealous of people who have parents who provide free childcare (and are young and interested in doing so).

I'd rather have a wealthy and supportive family than a high earning spouse. With a wealthy family, you have support and protection even if you never marry at all.

Anonymous wrote:I used to teach internationally. My students were mega rich. Their mothers were beautiful and seemed to have it all.

However, the moms spent their days at the gym and maintaining their looks. Lot's of plastic surgery. Many of their husbands left them for younger women.

It is easy to be envious of them based on appearances. However, once you get a glimpse into their world the jealousy fades.I think those ladies work hard for those rich husbands but it is not a secure world.

I don't judge them nor am I jealous. It is their life to lead but I don't think I would be happy.

I am sure some might have legit happy lives but they are the minority. I would rather be middle class and happy.