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Anonymous

04/16/2022 00:39 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is right. Kids can be cruel and may make fun of the kid's name. And no doubt that the teachers will continuously mispell and mispronounce his name as he grows up. It will definitely be a hassle for him. One that parents don't often realize. My kids have ethnic name based on our heritage. Although they go by more American names, their birth certificate says otherwise. They hate it as their teachers always mispronounce and mispell their names. Living in DC doesn't make a difference.

Each and every one of you can f*ck right off with this racism disguised as concern, on the same board that gushes over Aoife and Caoimhe.

Yes, I agree that the many Black educational and medical professionals and kids who would constantly mispronounce my kids Middle Eastern names and joke about it were indeed racist. It wasn't just White people who were rude.

If my husband and I had a chance to redo, we would've changed their names on their birth certificate. I spent hours having to submit and redo paperwork to prove my kids identity because staff kept misspelling their names so their IDs and medical/educational records didn't match.

It’s about $500 to change one certificate

Anonymous

04/16/2022 00:35 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it will help them get a job on NPR.

I LOLed at this!!!

Anonymous

04/16/2022 00:25 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

OP isn’t salty about the name. You’re salty at how much energy you’ve invested in your friend and her drama, and you dislike her choices around the baby’s father, and probably have some repressed jealousy that you aren’t married and having your own child. This isn’t about the name at all.

Anonymous

04/15/2022 21:33 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you think she'd name the baby after you?

$5 says that’s exactly what OP was expecting.

Then you either didn't read the originial post or didn't fully understand it.

Oh, but we did. We saw the full paragraph OP wrote about how much she did for her friend, which isn’t relevant to anything unless OP thinks it means the friend somehow owes OP special consideration as a result.

Then you missed that second paragraph that said how the OP thought the name that the mom was going to give the baby, based on the mom's side of the family, was lovely. It wasn't until the mom talked to the dead beat father that she changed her mind to a name on his side. Where exactly does the OP say she wanted the baby named after her? Of course, the baby's name is none of the OP's business and she should stay out of it..
But it doesn't help when others try to make up stuff.

Anonymous

04/15/2022 20:29 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

I hate those stupid ethnic names. The kid is American. John or Sarah will do.

Anonymous

04/15/2022 15:53 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you think she'd name the baby after you?

$5 says that’s exactly what OP was expecting.

Then you either didn't read the originial post or didn't fully understand it.

Oh, but we did. We saw the full paragraph OP wrote about how much she did for her friend, which isn’t relevant to anything unless OP thinks it means the friend somehow owes OP special consideration as a result.

Anonymous

04/15/2022 15:44 Subject: Re:Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course OP is right, unfortunately.
Are you not aware that no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And?

The President of the US can't correctly pronounce the VP's name.

That’s on him.

Anonymous

04/15/2022 13:20 Subject: Re:Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP is right, unfortunately.
Are you not aware that no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And?

The President of the US can't correctly pronounce the VP's name.

Anonymous

04/14/2022 23:17 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

Oh God

Anonymous

04/14/2022 14:17 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

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Anonymous wrote:I know this will be unpopular, and I don't care

My BFF left her (now) ex husband at ~3 months pregnant. I let her move in with me and have basically been her "husband" throughout the remainder of her pregnancy. I've driven her to appointments, spent SO many nights listening to her cry, bought her baby stuff, threw her a baby shower, and helped her move everything out of her old house into her mother's house right before the baby came. This is all to say, I have personally sacrificed a lot for my friend and her baby.

Early on in the pregnancy she was toying with giving her child a name that honors her husbands subsaharan African heritage, but decided against it and decided on a very lovely name from her side of the family. Until she started to patch things up with her ex a few weeks before the due date. He wasn't at the birth and met the child a week later. She swore she wouldn't give the baby an ethnic name. She is a smart lady and knows that as a biracial child in America, the child will have a hard time with a name that is unpronounceable or difficult to spell.

That is, until the baby was born! She has decided on a 8 character African name with silent syllables, repeating consonants, and a long vowel where most people would say a short. It's difficult to spell, say, and doesn't look like how it sounds.

I know I have no skin in the game but I'm pretty upset for her child. On top of daddy issues, they are also going to have to deal with a difficult name.

Anyway, rant over

You're an idiot if you believe this.

-Mom of biracial child

Also, mom of a biracial child. I KNEW THIS WAS TRUE, so I intentionally gave my kids easy names, similar to John.

My husband- who is AA- was the one petitioning for the most white name possible. For application purposes and no problems with roll call in school/etc. His own parents and grandparents did the same thing.

Anonymous

04/14/2022 13:51 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

I’m a public school teacher and have taught many, many students with “ethnic” names from a variety of heritages. Teachers and classmates learn to say the name and it’s not a big deal at all and/or sometimes the kids go by a nickname. I don’t think this is really about the name, OP. It’s more that it represents the weird relationship your friend has with the baby daddy. Just love on your friend and the baby. In a month you won’t be thinking about the name at all, just how much you adore that little baby!

Anonymous

04/14/2022 08:28 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

Ouch. I'm not going to read follow up comments, so I'm just responding to the original post...
I feel almost sick. Married to an African man, 2 of our 3 children have names from his first language, and yes, people have to learn from us how to pronounce them.

Of all the things in life, no one cares about how SOMEONE ELSE naming THEIR baby affects YOU.

Keep it to yourself. I bet that baby will be proud of their meaningful name in the future.

Anonymous

04/14/2022 02:45 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you think she'd name the baby after you?

$5 says that’s exactly what OP was expecting.

Then you either didn't read the originial post or didn't fully understand it.

Anonymous

04/14/2022 00:14 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

Anonymous wrote:Did you think she'd name the baby after you?

$5 says that’s exactly what OP was expecting.

Anonymous

04/14/2022 00:11 Subject: Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

Did you think she'd name the baby after you?