"Jesus H Christ!

I went to CUNY. It's not community college, but it is a commuter school, and there are no dorms. People still met each other, had relationships, and had sex. People also had good friendships, meaningful schooling, excellent mentors, research experience, and went on to have good employment and post grad schooling. I have nothing but fond memories of my time spent in college, and don't feel I missed out on anything by not having a traditional college experience (per DCUM)."

You had sex in your bedroom in your parent's house?

Anonymous wrote:Here's what nobody ever talks about. A 18-yr-old is developmentally at a stage where they are interested in romantic/sexual relationships. It's totally normal for them to want to meet and spend time with partners. But who wants that going on in their kid's bedroom? I'm sure some people can make that switch, but I don't want to wake up one morning a find a 20-yr-old stranger in my bathroom after his night with my daughter or son. Once they're a bit older and are past that stage, I could see having them live with me as two adults. But there's a huge transition period that the young adult needs to go through, and that the parent-child relationship needs to go through. And that's much easier to do with them in a dorm someplace where you don't have to sit and hear it.

Jesus H Christ!

I went to CUNY. It's not community college, but it is a commuter school, and there are no dorms. People still met each other, had relationships, and had sex. People also had good friendships, meaningful schooling, excellent mentors, research experience, and went on to have good employment and post grad schooling. I have nothing but fond memories of my time spent in college, and don't feel I missed out on anything by not having a traditional college experience (per DCUM).

Anonymous wrote:Here's what nobody ever talks about. A 18-yr-old is developmentally at a stage where they are interested in romantic/sexual relationships. It's totally normal for them to want to meet and spend time with partners. But who wants that going on in their kid's bedroom? I'm sure some people can make that switch, but I don't want to wake up one morning a find a 20-yr-old stranger in my bathroom after his night with my daughter or son. Once they're a bit older and are past that stage, I could see having them live with me as two adults. But there's a huge transition period that the young adult needs to go through, and that the parent-child relationship needs to go through. And that's much easier to do with them in a dorm someplace where you don't have to sit and hear it.

Hotel rooms, basements, cars, the SO’s house, an apartment (later on)…lots of possible locations.

Anonymous wrote:Here's what nobody ever talks about. A 18-yr-old is developmentally at a stage where they are interested in romantic/sexual relationships. It's totally normal for them to want to meet and spend time with partners. But who wants that going on in their kid's bedroom? I'm sure some people can make that switch, but I don't want to wake up one morning a find a 20-yr-old stranger in my bathroom after his night with my daughter or son. Once they're a bit older and are past that stage, I could see having them live with me as two adults. But there's a huge transition period that the young adult needs to go through, and that the parent-child relationship needs to go through. And that's much easier to do with them in a dorm someplace where you don't have to sit and hear it.

What a strange post. You’re basically saying the college experience is all about sex?? Believe it or not, but for some kids, the academics are more important and if it means living with mom and dad to afford it, then so be it.

my husband started with military service post HS, then did an associates through the military while serving, then came back here (to marry me) and had to do MORE community college as not all his military associates translated into actual college classes , THEN finally went to Mason to get his degree in electrical engineering.

He is bright, but was a screw up in his teenage years. He did all his schooling while working FT.

He makes about 3X what I make with my normal 4 year school bachelors and the masters I got while working.

LOTS of kids in this area start at NVCC. My child might do that because she might need to ease in to college. I am looking at 4 year schools for her, but I am also realistic about her challenges (ADHD and mental health). If she needs to do a year or two at NVCC, that's fine. In all honesty, they offer a pretty good certificate program in something she is interested in pursuing, so that might BE her path in the end.

In the US, college is about having a 4-year sleepaway camp/drinkfest/vacation on either daddy’s dime or non-dischargeable student loans.

OP, you won’t find the prudent ones on here.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with community college is it's not a real college experience. While their peers are rushing frats, going to football games and participating in freshman dorm hijinks, community college kids are still living a high school life -- complete with the bedroom in mom and dad's basement -- but one that's far less fun since most of their friends are off at actual college.

The above is complete bullshit.

Explain.

Because you have some notion of what a “real” college experience is and that it should apply to everybody (football games, frats, dorm hijinks). And you contrast that with another made up experience of the CC kid (staying in mom and dad’s basement, less fun, not “actual” college).

As I said, complete bullshit.

Sorry your kid didn't get into a four year school.

There are roughly 4,000 4-year schools in the US. About half of them could shut down tomorrow and nobody would notice or care.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with community college is it's not a real college experience. While their peers are rushing frats, going to football games and participating in freshman dorm hijinks, community college kids are still living a high school life -- complete with the bedroom in mom and dad's basement -- but one that's far less fun since most of their friends are off at actual college.

The above is complete bullshit.

Explain.

Because you have some notion of what a “real” college experience is and that it should apply to everybody (football games, frats, dorm hijinks). And you contrast that with another made up experience of the CC kid (staying in mom and dad’s basement, less fun, not “actual” college).

As I said, complete bullshit.

Sorry your kid didn't get into a four year school.

My DD is attending a four year school.

Is that the best response you can muster?

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with community college is it's not a real college experience. While their peers are rushing frats, going to football games and participating in freshman dorm hijinks, community college kids are still living a high school life -- complete with the bedroom in mom and dad's basement -- but one that's far less fun since most of their friends are off at actual college.

The above is complete bullshit.

Explain.

Because you have some notion of what a “real” college experience is and that it should apply to everybody (football games, frats, dorm hijinks). And you contrast that with another made up experience of the CC kid (staying in mom and dad’s basement, less fun, not “actual” college).

As I said, complete bullshit.

Sorry your kid didn't get into a four year school.

Most privileged average UMC kids are being propped up by their parents anyhow.

Jesus Christ.

Yes, indeed. Most of the kids that go away to college in my circles would be at CC if they hadn’t had access to tutoring, test prep and expensive sports teams.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with community college is it's not a real college experience. While their peers are rushing frats, going to football games and participating in freshman dorm hijinks, community college kids are still living a high school life -- complete with the bedroom in mom and dad's basement -- but one that's far less fun since most of their friends are off at actual college.

The above is complete bullshit.

Explain.

Because you have some notion of what a “real” college experience is and that it should apply to everybody (football games, frats, dorm hijinks). And you contrast that with another made up experience of the CC kid (staying in mom and dad’s basement, less fun, not “actual” college).

As I said, complete bullshit.

Sorry your kid didn't get into a four year school.

Most privileged average UMC kids are being propped up by their parents anyhow.

Jesus Christ.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with community college is it's not a real college experience. While their peers are rushing frats, going to football games and participating in freshman dorm hijinks, community college kids are still living a high school life -- complete with the bedroom in mom and dad's basement -- but one that's far less fun since most of their friends are off at actual college.

The above is complete bullshit.

Explain.

Because you have some notion of what a “real” college experience is and that it should apply to everybody (football games, frats, dorm hijinks). And you contrast that with another made up experience of the CC kid (staying in mom and dad’s basement, less fun, not “actual” college).

As I said, complete bullshit.

Sorry your kid didn't get into a four year school.

Most privileged average UMC kids are being propped up by their parents anyhow.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with community college is it's not a real college experience. While their peers are rushing frats, going to football games and participating in freshman dorm hijinks, community college kids are still living a high school life -- complete with the bedroom in mom and dad's basement -- but one that's far less fun since most of their friends are off at actual college.

The above is complete bullshit.

Explain.

Because you have some notion of what a “real” college experience is and that it should apply to everybody (football games, frats, dorm hijinks). And you contrast that with another made up experience of the CC kid (staying in mom and dad’s basement, less fun, not “actual” college).

As I said, complete bullshit.

Sorry your kid didn't get into a four year school.