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Anonymous wrote:My kid hates any fuss, so we won’t be doing a reveal. However, the college application process is a long and arduous ordeal. Lots of kids don’t get into their top choices. I think having some fun and getting your kid excited about wherever they’re going is totally fine. I’m a little mystified about why so many people on here are so anti-celebration. Life is tough, let’s take the wins and celebrate them!

I'm not anti-celebration. I'm against turning everything into Instagram-worthy fodder, because apparently your life only matters if it's documented on social media with sufficient production value. It's so materialistic and performative. Have a nice dinner or call Grandma and Grandpa to tell them the exciting news! Buy a sweatshirt! But it's like gender reveals, promposals, smash cakes, etc. Everything is about generating the right photos to get likes. It's gross.

You can’t possibly have high schoolers!

Sorry your kids aren't close to their grandparents.

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Anonymous wrote:Man you seem to care a lot about what other people do.

I wonder why that is?

So you don’t ever care what others do? Not ever? I find that hard to believe.

Anonymous wrote:Have you all seen the college "bed party" posts?

https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/bedparty/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CbavSzmOqxs/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CP3LJwsj3SF/

https://www.instagram.com/p/Cbhz-tZOvlN/

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Anonymous wrote:My son did not do a reveal. He just told us when he got accepted to the school that he really wanted to go that was where he wanted to go. Some seniors at his high school set up a Instagram page for seniors to post their college choices. He posted his choice there. That’s where other parents found out where my kid was going. Their kids saw my kids college choice.

This is the current standard as far as I know.

Something else was mentioned by my DD where a group of friends have a little celebration for their friend and put college themed gifts in friends bedroom. But I don't believe that is an event meant to be publically consumed.

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I've heard this referred to as a "bed party." One blog I read about it said that it is initiated by the parent of the student and that the friends are expected to contribute money towards it! I guess there are variations (like your daughter's friends bringing gifts instead of contributing money.) So does everyone just buy gifts from each other's school? That's gotta sting when a student doesn't get into a school but their friend does--and now they have to go buy a t shirt or hat or whatever from the school they got rejected from and put it in their friends bedroom?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid hates any fuss, so we won’t be doing a reveal. However, the college application process is a long and arduous ordeal. Lots of kids don’t get into their top choices. I think having some fun and getting your kid excited about wherever they’re going is totally fine. I’m a little mystified about why so many people on here are so anti-celebration. Life is tough, let’s take the wins and celebrate them!

I'm not anti-celebration. I'm against turning everything into Instagram-worthy fodder, because apparently your life only matters if it's documented on social media with sufficient production value. It's so materialistic and performative. Have a nice dinner or call Grandma and Grandpa to tell them the exciting news! Buy a sweatshirt! But it's like gender reveals, promposals, smash cakes, etc. Everything is about generating the right photos to get likes. It's gross.

You can’t possibly have high schoolers!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son did not do a reveal. He just told us when he got accepted to the school that he really wanted to go that was where he wanted to go. Some seniors at his high school set up a Instagram page for seniors to post their college choices. He posted his choice there. That’s where other parents found out where my kid was going. Their kids saw my kids college choice.

This is the current standard as far as I know.

Something else was mentioned by my DD where a group of friends have a little celebration for their friend and put college themed gifts in friends bedroom. But I don't believe that is an event meant to be publically consumed.

OP here
I've heard this referred to as a "bed party." One blog I read about it said that it is initiated by the parent of the student and that the friends are expected to contribute money towards it! I guess there are variations (like your daughter's friends bringing gifts instead of contributing money.) So does everyone just buy gifts from each other's school? That's gotta sting when a student doesn't get into a school but their friend does--and now they have to go buy a t shirt or hat or whatever from the school they got rejected from and put it in their friends bedroom?

That’s life. No one is forcing them to go to the party. Part of being an adult (which is where these kids are headed) is being gracious and able to celebrate your friends’ triumphs and realize it has nothing to do with you.

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Anonymous wrote:My son did not do a reveal. He just told us when he got accepted to the school that he really wanted to go that was where he wanted to go. Some seniors at his high school set up a Instagram page for seniors to post their college choices. He posted his choice there. That’s where other parents found out where my kid was going. Their kids saw my kids college choice.

This is the current standard as far as I know.

Something else was mentioned by my DD where a group of friends have a little celebration for their friend and put college themed gifts in friends bedroom. But I don't believe that is an event meant to be publically consumed.

OP here
I've heard this referred to as a "bed party." One blog I read about it said that it is initiated by the parent of the student and that the friends are expected to contribute money towards it! I guess there are variations (like your daughter's friends bringing gifts instead of contributing money.) So does everyone just buy gifts from each other's school? That's gotta sting when a student doesn't get into a school but their friend does--and now they have to go buy a t shirt or hat or whatever from the school they got rejected from and put it in their friends bedroom?

Anonymous wrote:Any reason for fun, joy, excitement in these difficult times-I'm all for it. When my kid decides, we're going to make a party of it. Thanks for the idea!

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Anonymous wrote:My son did not do a reveal. He just told us when he got accepted to the school that he really wanted to go that was where he wanted to go. Some seniors at his high school set up a Instagram page for seniors to post their college choices. He posted his choice there. That’s where other parents found out where my kid was going. Their kids saw my kids college choice.

This is the current standard as far as I know.

Something else was mentioned by my DD where a group of friends have a little celebration for their friend and put college themed gifts in friends bedroom. But I don't believe that is an event meant to be publically consumed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid hates any fuss, so we won’t be doing a reveal. However, the college application process is a long and arduous ordeal. Lots of kids don’t get into their top choices. I think having some fun and getting your kid excited about wherever they’re going is totally fine. I’m a little mystified about why so many people on here are so anti-celebration. Life is tough, let’s take the wins and celebrate them!

I'm not anti-celebration. I'm against turning everything into Instagram-worthy fodder, because apparently your life only matters if it's documented on social media with sufficient production value. It's so materialistic and performative. Have a nice dinner or call Grandma and Grandpa to tell them the exciting news! Buy a sweatshirt! But it's like gender reveals, promposals, smash cakes, etc. Everything is about generating the right photos to get likes. It's gross.

Anonymous wrote:Any reason for fun, joy, excitement in these difficult times-I'm all for it. When my kid decides, we're going to make a party of it. Thanks for the idea!

Anonymous wrote:I didn't know this was a thing. I mean, we've been having conversations with our son throughout the whole process and his decision on which school he will go to has just come out during those conversations.

Apparently students now "reveal" their school choice to family and friends, very similar to "gender reveals" (also obnoxious) for expecting couples? I just saw a facebook post where someone's daughter "revealed" her school choice with a cake--with frosting in the school colors inside.
Siena college has a whole list of things to do, including a powder cannon! https://www.siena.edu/news/story/10-creative-ways-to-announce-your-college-decision/?msclkid=bbf81695af5511ec85b1d6ef224a9d7c