Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 16:29     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
I am extremely jealous and annoyed. My kid is just as smart if not smarter. Why should your kid get in over mine?

TRUTH!
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 16:09     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
How to quell the disappointment/jealousy/sadness/curiosity when other kids who may or may not seem to have lower stats etc get in to much better schools than your DC?
I know they might have had something "else" in their application that we don't know about, but still...comparison is hard...




I'll let you know when I figure it out LOL.

Love (not) about all the people launching on here about how you are probably wrong that your kid had a stronger creds. They never rest with it. A lot of us know how the kids stack up and are seeing this this happen over and over so I am right there with you.

My only advice at this point is to find the bright point of options - cheaper? (ivy's are expensive, invest the extra money into a spdr fund to launch your kids), closer? has friends there? lower stress ie: big fish in small pond? maybe a good football team/campus life? there is always grad school....


Maybe you are right but the point is the colleges didn't accept the kids with the stronger creds (I assume you mean GPA/test scores) and went with someone else that had something else that they thought was more desirable.


This poster is right. By definition, the other kid had “stronger creds” according to the college, so your opinion about the relative strengths and weaknesses is just that, an opinion (and not the one that matters).


Reading comprehension is lacking— I didn’t state an opinion about strengths and weaknesses. I said that the college decided to pick someone else that had lower creds because for whatever reason, the college decided that another student had something else that they wanted. That is not an opinion, that is a fact. Arguing on a forum why colleges should accept students with stronger stats is an opinion that doesn’t matter.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 15:38     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:I am happy for the kids who got into more elite schools with one exception: the superstar kids who apply to all the top schools (even though many bear no resemblance to each other other than rank which suggests the kid wasn’t looking for fit at all) just to collect acceptances as a vanity project.


With the exceptions of service academies and geography, there are many similarities between top schools. Yeah, there are some looking to rack up admits, but most students are not necessarily going about it that way. I know a few kids who did not get into their EDs/REAs, etc. They are just hoping to hear favorabily from at least one school over the next few weeks, not all the schools.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 15:38     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
How to quell the disappointment/jealousy/sadness/curiosity when other kids who may or may not seem to have lower stats etc get in to much better schools than your DC?
I know they might have had something "else" in their application that we don't know about, but still...comparison is hard...




I'll let you know when I figure it out LOL.

Love (not) about all the people launching on here about how you are probably wrong that your kid had a stronger creds. They never rest with it. A lot of us know how the kids stack up and are seeing this this happen over and over so I am right there with you.

My only advice at this point is to find the bright point of options - cheaper? (ivy's are expensive, invest the extra money into a spdr fund to launch your kids), closer? has friends there? lower stress ie: big fish in small pond? maybe a good football team/campus life? there is always grad school....


Maybe you are right but the point is the colleges didn't accept the kids with the stronger creds (I assume you mean GPA/test scores) and went with someone else that had something else that they thought was more desirable.


This poster is right. By definition, the other kid had “stronger creds” according to the college, so your opinion about the relative strengths and weaknesses is just that, an opinion (and not the one that matters).
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 15:28     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
How to quell the disappointment/jealousy/sadness/curiosity when other kids who may or may not seem to have lower stats etc get in to much better schools than your DC?
I know they might have had something "else" in their application that we don't know about, but still...comparison is hard...




I'll let you know when I figure it out LOL.

Love (not) about all the people launching on here about how you are probably wrong that your kid had a stronger creds. They never rest with it. A lot of us know how the kids stack up and are seeing this this happen over and over so I am right there with you.

My only advice at this point is to find the bright point of options - cheaper? (ivy's are expensive, invest the extra money into a spdr fund to launch your kids), closer? has friends there? lower stress ie: big fish in small pond? maybe a good football team/campus life? there is always grad school....


Maybe you are right but the point is the colleges didn't accept the kids with the stronger creds (I assume you mean GPA/test scores) and went with someone else that had something else that they thought was more desirable.


That is so funny!! I literally referenced people who cannot stay on topic but insist on how your kid is not that special and then to prove my point, you responded with how my kid is not desirable. Do you not see the context or do you not see the irony? Hysterical!!!!


I didn’t say your kid isn’t desirable— I said that the schools picked someone else they thought was MORE desirable. That is what happens in admissions decisions. How would your describe what is happening? Btw, my kid included.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:59     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
I can promise you that if you look at college confidential you will find kids outright denied from the same schools your DC got into, even those kids have better stats than your kid.

My DS and all his friends ended up at the perfect school for them, except for one who is trying to transfer. Everyone else very happy.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:57     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
How to quell the disappointment/jealousy/sadness/curiosity when other kids who may or may not seem to have lower stats etc get in to much better schools than your DC?
I know they might have had something "else" in their application that we don't know about, but still...comparison is hard...




I'll let you know when I figure it out LOL.

Love (not) about all the people launching on here about how you are probably wrong that your kid had a stronger creds. They never rest with it. A lot of us know how the kids stack up and are seeing this this happen over and over so I am right there with you.

My only advice at this point is to find the bright point of options - cheaper? (ivy's are expensive, invest the extra money into a spdr fund to launch your kids), closer? has friends there? lower stress ie: big fish in small pond? maybe a good football team/campus life? there is always grad school....


Maybe you are right but the point is the colleges didn't accept the kids with the stronger creds (I assume you mean GPA/test scores) and went with someone else that had something else that they thought was more desirable.


That is so funny!! I literally referenced people who cannot stay on topic but insist on how your kid is not that special and then to prove my point, you responded with how my kid is not desirable. Do you not see the context or do you not see the irony? Hysterical!!!!
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:53     Subject: Re:how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
I went to a 'better' school than my elementary school friend who went to the state school. The state school was not even considered a 'public ivy'. But guess what? She is way more successful than me, so go figure!
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:48     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
How to quell the disappointment/jealousy/sadness/curiosity when other kids who may or may not seem to have lower stats etc get in to much better schools than your DC?
I know they might have had something "else" in their application that we don't know about, but still...comparison is hard...




I'll let you know when I figure it out LOL.

Love (not) about all the people launching on here about how you are probably wrong that your kid had a stronger creds. They never rest with it. A lot of us know how the kids stack up and are seeing this this happen over and over so I am right there with you.

My only advice at this point is to find the bright point of options - cheaper? (ivy's are expensive, invest the extra money into a spdr fund to launch your kids), closer? has friends there? lower stress ie: big fish in small pond? maybe a good football team/campus life? there is always grad school....


Maybe you are right but the point is the colleges didn't accept the kids with the stronger creds (I assume you mean GPA/test scores) and went with someone else that had something else that they thought was more desirable.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:25     Subject: Re:how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
I have five college grads. So, we’ve been through this five times. My daughter’s best friend got into three IVYs. We were thrilled for her! My daughter went to a state school as did my other kids. It honestly never occurred to me to compare or to be disappointed. Sadly, kids learn what they live. We didn’t raise kids like that.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:25     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:
How to quell the disappointment/jealousy/sadness/curiosity when other kids who may or may not seem to have lower stats etc get in to much better schools than your DC?
I know they might have had something "else" in their application that we don't know about, but still...comparison is hard...




I'll let you know when I figure it out LOL.

Love (not) about all the people launching on here about how you are probably wrong that your kid had a stronger creds. They never rest with it. A lot of us know how the kids stack up and are seeing this this happen over and over so I am right there with you.

My only advice at this point is to find the bright point of options - cheaper? (ivy's are expensive, invest the extra money into a spdr fund to launch your kids), closer? has friends there? lower stress ie: big fish in small pond? maybe a good football team/campus life? there is always grad school....
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:22     Subject: how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
I am happy for the kids who got into more elite schools with one exception: the superstar kids who apply to all the top schools (even though many bear no resemblance to each other other than rank which suggests the kid wasn’t looking for fit at all) just to collect acceptances as a vanity project.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:19     Subject: Re:how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, a little envious. Our DD punched below her weight and went for a more low stress college that, while still good, was not the most prestigious she could have gotten into.

She likes where she is, and it's a good fit but part of me wonders how much better she could have done.


🙄
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:17     Subject: Re:how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:Just remember that getting into a ‘better’ school means nothing and doesn’t mean your child will be less happier or less successful than the other kids. Better is relative. My kid had specific things they wanted in a college. So for my kid they are at the best college for them. How do you even compare that to anyone else’s choices? Yes, i get that people are blindsided by the rankings and thats what you probably mean by a ‘better’ school. But thats the wrong way to think IMO.


+100
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2022 14:16     Subject: Re:how do you feel when other kids getting in to better schools?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:GPA, Course Rigor, SAT/ACT(although supposedly optional) are the most imortant stat.
Let's not kid about it. These can be known among friends.
Also you can see their ECs and stuff faily easily.


I disagree. Just like the saying, "you can't know what goes on behind closed doors", you can not know what a student has accomplished and put on their college applications.
My DS is extremely private about his extracurricular research work. He has progressively done more and more each year and finally some research his senior year of high school at a local university. His science work is impressive but I would guess that most of his classmates do not know about it. Or if they do have a sense, they do not realize to the extent that it has become. There are thousands of kids and examples just like this.


Yes it’s entirely possible to have a hobby or an extracurricular that is not done through school. You don’t actually know everything about every other child’s life or activities


+1 My DS did very little in ECs at school but had a long involvement in a service activity out of school. He wrote a wonderful essay about that experience where that showed how important it was to him and how he connected personally with the people being served in that activity. He wasn't in an official leadership role but the essay showed how he made a real difference to people working consistently in what could be seen as a small job but was actually a front-line role. He got into schools that friends with better stats did not and I think that made a difference.