Anonymous wrote:My DH knew I wanted a nice ring. I waited and waited. I said nothing even after he proposed without one. Eventually I let him know I really wanted one. He was angry. Then one day he took me ring shopping. He took me to Fifth and Madison in NYC. We visited Cartier, Tiffany, Harry Winston; he had me try on rings there. Then Kwiat, and then lesser and lesser stores. Finally he took me to the diamond district, picked a $1000 ring with visible flaws and haggled over it with the orthodox Jewish jeweler. He hadn’t had any intention of buying it was just to hurt me. He said he couldn’t afford the kind of ring I wanted and I was a terrible person for expecting him to spend money on a ring. He never did it even when he started making over $300k. It was about hurting me.

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Anonymous wrote:I still resent my husband for not getting me a ring even once he could afford to. He makes so much money now and knows it was and is important to me and he still won’t do it.

Why don’t you buy your ring? Isn’t it all marital money anyway? If “he” can afford it, “you” can afford it. Make it a birthday or Christmas present and call it a day.

It means nothing giving it to myself.

If it’s just about wearing something on your hand that you love and makes you feel good, then sure it does. If you’re really trying to assign a dollar value to your husband’s love for you, however, you have way bigger issues than a ring will solve.

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Anonymous wrote:I still resent my husband for not getting me a ring even once he could afford to. He makes so much money now and knows it was and is important to me and he still won’t do it.

Why don’t you buy your ring? Isn’t it all marital money anyway? If “he” can afford it, “you” can afford it. Make it a birthday or Christmas present and call it a day.

It means nothing giving it to myself.

Anonymous wrote:My DH knew I wanted a nice ring. I waited and waited. I said nothing even after he proposed without one. Eventually I let him know I really wanted one. He was angry. Then one day he took me ring shopping. He took me to Fifth and Madison in NYC. We visited Cartier, Tiffany, Harry Winston; he had me try on rings there. Then Kwiat, and then lesser and lesser stores. Finally he took me to the diamond district, picked a $1000 ring with visible flaws and haggled over it with the orthodox Jewish jeweler. He hadn’t had any intention of buying it was just to hurt me. He said he couldn’t afford the kind of ring I wanted and I was a terrible person for expecting him to spend money on a ring. He never did it even when he started making over $300k. It was about hurting me.

Anonymous wrote:My DH knew I wanted a nice ring. I waited and waited. I said nothing even after he proposed without one. Eventually I let him know I really wanted one. He was angry. Then one day he took me ring shopping. He took me to Fifth and Madison in NYC. We visited Cartier, Tiffany, Harry Winston; he had me try on rings there. Then Kwiat, and then lesser and lesser stores. Finally he took me to the diamond district, picked a $1000 ring with visible flaws and haggled over it with the orthodox Jewish jeweler. He hadn’t had any intention of buying it was just to hurt me. He said he couldn’t afford the kind of ring I wanted and I was a terrible person for expecting him to spend money on a ring. He never did it even when he started making over $300k. It was about hurting me.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd resent it too if he could have afforded more.

I have a guy friend who made 300k, but he wanted to "test" his girlfriend. He gave her a .75ct ring in a shape she didn't even like and it was white gold when she wanted yellow or rose gold. He said that if she really wanted to marry him, that she would still accept the proposal even with a small ring. She dumped him. She thought his test was just nasty and bitter. A proposal shouldn't be a test or designed to deceive someone. She said she would have preferred to receive no ring rather than a ring he knew she wouldn't like.

Good for her. What he did was super shitty and an omen for how their marriage would have been.

Yes but SO many men say things like this. The ring shouldn't matter, she should be happy with a small ring and it's a test of how much she loves me, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd resent it too if he could have afforded more.

I have a guy friend who made 300k, but he wanted to "test" his girlfriend. He gave her a .75ct ring in a shape she didn't even like and it was white gold when she wanted yellow or rose gold. He said that if she really wanted to marry him, that she would still accept the proposal even with a small ring. She dumped him. She thought his test was just nasty and bitter. A proposal shouldn't be a test or designed to deceive someone. She said she would have preferred to receive no ring rather than a ring he knew she wouldn't like.

Good for her. What he did was super shitty and an omen for how their marriage would have been.

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Anonymous wrote:Those rings are a waste of money. Actual value of a $5k ring is $500 (or less). Only fools are about them.

Only a fool buys a 4 figure item without understanding the secondary market for it. I assure you I could sell my ring for more than I paid, because 1) it’s high quality 2) it has a GIA grading 3) I didn’t overpay in the first place.

Hey, want to buy some oceanfront property in Nebraska too?

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Anonymous wrote:I still resent my husband for not getting me a ring even once he could afford to. He makes so much money now and knows it was and is important to me and he still won’t do it.

Why don’t you buy your ring? Isn’t it all marital money anyway? If “he” can afford it, “you” can afford it. Make it a birthday or Christmas present and call it a day.

Anonymous wrote:I'd resent it too if he could have afforded more.

I have a guy friend who made 300k, but he wanted to "test" his girlfriend. He gave her a .75ct ring in a shape she didn't even like and it was white gold when she wanted yellow or rose gold. He said that if she really wanted to marry him, that she would still accept the proposal even with a small ring. She dumped him. She thought his test was just nasty and bitter. A proposal shouldn't be a test or designed to deceive someone. She said she would have preferred to receive no ring rather than a ring he knew she wouldn't like.