The issue as I see it is that he doesn’t think about money and you think about it too much. Both are based on your previous life experiences. You need to focus on how to accomplish all the other life stuff (household, childcare, emotional labor, etc). You have enough money, but you seem to have not enough time. It’s not about asking a non-profit for a raise. I’m a single parent with no child support and an HHI of around $175 and I’m not stretched at all. You need to focus on life planning.

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Anonymous wrote:Hey, if you’re so in love with money, you go make money.

NP- can you read? She is trying but he doesn't pick up the slack if she tries to lean in.

Stop with the lean in BS.

Some jobs don’t really have negation room. My DH has never really negotiated a salary either. He gets unsolicited offers all of the time. If it looks good he takes it, or says no. If he says no sometimes they come back with higher offers sometimes they don’t. But he doesn’t go chase them or engage in back and forth.

Since he’s at a non profit he may be as high up as he can go , and may not easily be able to find the same work somewhere else