Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad cheated on my mom during business trips but no, I would not consider him trashy. He was more of a nerdy computer science type.

Bill Gates was a nerd cheater. I think he's disgusting and slimy. A lot of those Epstein clients were degenerates, like your dad.

Bezos and his broad are definitely trashy. Her all over Leo DiCaprio and her multiple affairs--yuck.

The married women cheaters I know were all trashy at parties (even the upscale ones). They gave off the I'll blow you under the table vibes and acted much like Sanchez if there was a ''high value' man around--even in front of their husbands or if it was a co-worker or friend's husband.

+1. Nerdy has nothing to do with being trashy. Above examples of nerds being slimy are good ones.

I think nerdy guys cheating later in life kinda makes sense to me. They’re pretty much invisible to women when they’re younger and they’re a little behind the curve socially speaking. As they age their interpersonal skills improve, plus they experience success, plus they’re smart which women start to care about later in life. Suddenly, they’re not as invisible as they’ve been all their lives and someone actually wants them. Meanwhile, their wives got to experience all the dating and sex they wanted in their younger years and were pretty much over it by the time they got married.

What about the "classy" people you know, but you just don't happen to know they are cheaters?

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Anonymous wrote:Other than the cheating trashiness, we were surprised by a friend found on the Ashley Madison leaked list several years ago. He was a professional, retired Navy Admiral, currently CEO of a large Annapolis firm. He was the perfect husband, dad, coach, church-goer, friend. Tall and handsome and witty. I guess I wasn't shocked he cheated, but he wasn't trashy in any other visible way.

Again he was the perfect "fill in the blank". People trying too hard to be perfect. Not real.

Anonymous wrote:What about people like Martin Luther King, Jr, JFK, or Bill Clinton that were cheaters but also were leaders who did things about the oppressed?

A lot of people who are overly idealistic or overly positive have a shadow behavior. This is why a lot of church leaders have these issues. They can only express their more out of control behavior in secret.

Anonymous wrote:What about people like Martin Luther King, Jr, JFK, or Bill Clinton that were cheaters but also were leaders who did things about the oppressed?

Like I said, narcissism.

No. The worst cheater we know was father and husband of the year for decades until the truth came out.

Mmmm I'd say narcissistic more than necessarily "trashy". Also prone to moral relativism, not just in sexual matters. "Yes I did x (generally frowned upon thing) but I had a reason I deemed as sufficient, regardless of the pain or damages it caused others".

Other than the cheating trashiness, we were surprised by a friend found on the Ashley Madison leaked list several years ago. He was a professional, retired Navy Admiral, currently CEO of a large Annapolis firm. He was the perfect husband, dad, coach, church-goer, friend. Tall and handsome and witty. I guess I wasn't shocked he cheated, but he wasn't trashy in any other visible way.

What about people like Martin Luther King, Jr, JFK, or Bill Clinton that were cheaters but also were leaders who did things about the oppressed?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Affairs happen all the time in the corporate world. Also in affluent communities.

I don’t think trashy is a good word. People associate trashy with Jersey Shore reality tv behavior and ergo think rich, stiff upper lip types can’t be trashy.

It's a poor conscience and poor self regulation over over regulation.

Anonymous wrote:You only think these cheaters are trashy after you find out. It’s the act that’s trashy not the person. You don’t know whose cheating and who is not. The answers might surprise you.

I think it's true that we might not know they cheated, but this would be the type of person who covers up a problem, blames someone else for a mistake, or lies about an interaction or outcome.

Anonymous wrote:Affairs happen all the time in the corporate world. Also in affluent communities.

I don’t think trashy is a good word. People associate trashy with Jersey Shore reality tv behavior and ergo think rich, stiff upper lip types can’t be trashy.

Affairs happen all the time in the corporate world. Also in affluent communities.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad cheated on my mom during business trips but no, I would not consider him trashy. He was more of a nerdy computer science type.

Bill Gates was a nerd cheater. I think he's disgusting and slimy. A lot of those Epstein clients were degenerates, like your dad.

Bezos and his broad are definitely trashy. Her all over Leo DiCaprio and her multiple affairs--yuck.

The married women cheaters I know were all trashy at parties (even the upscale ones). They gave off the I'll blow you under the table vibes and acted much like Sanchez if there was a ''high value' man around--even in front of their husbands or if it was a co-worker or friend's husband.

+1. Nerdy has nothing to do with being trashy. Above examples of nerds being slimy are good ones.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In other ways? The act of cheating in itself is a trash move but I find that the person is trashy in other ways as well.

No

Yes! If they cheat, it’s a mind set. This mindset manifests in other ways as well because it’s a way of thinking and be able to justify bad behaviors. They give themselves a reason why what they did is justifiable and that thought process carries over in other spheres in life.