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Anonymous wrote:No, not lazy about school and grades - his scholarship and college demands top grades his last semester. But he’s totally checked out of family life. I told DH that I feel invisible most times around him. He just stopped talking to any of us. It’s awful.

Hugs. We are experiencing the same thing. It's absolutely heartbreaking, but totally normal. Everyone says your old kid returns from college around Thanksgiving, so I'm hanging onto that hope.

No, not really. What tends to happen is they come home excited to see their friends from HS. Then realize they don't really have much in common with those people anymore and also are shocked to find out that their family carried out without them. It can cause some acute depression.

Not my experience, but I can see how that could happen. For many kids, just being away from family helps them appreciate them a bit more.

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Anonymous wrote:No, not lazy about school and grades - his scholarship and college demands top grades his last semester. But he’s totally checked out of family life. I told DH that I feel invisible most times around him. He just stopped talking to any of us. It’s awful.

Hugs. We are experiencing the same thing. It's absolutely heartbreaking, but totally normal. Everyone says your old kid returns from college around Thanksgiving, so I'm hanging onto that hope.

No, not really. What tends to happen is they come home excited to see their friends from HS. Then realize they don't really have much in common with those people anymore and also are shocked to find out that their family carried out without them. It can cause some acute depression.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, not lazy about school and grades - his scholarship and college demands top grades his last semester. But he’s totally checked out of family life. I told DH that I feel invisible most times around him. He just stopped talking to any of us. It’s awful.

Hugs. We are experiencing the same thing. It's absolutely heartbreaking, but totally normal. Everyone says your old kid returns from college around Thanksgiving, so I'm hanging onto that hope.

Haven't heard this but please be true!

I hope so too! I just wish our DC didn't treat us with such disdain right now.

Oh, hon. I hear you. The disdain is cutting. It's not just you going through it, though. There are a bunch of us out here wondering what the hell happened to our sweet kids. Let's normalize graduating seniors being assholes so we don't feel like parenting failures in the homestretch.

I'm glad this club isn't just our family. I will bring the wine.

+18 (for the years we spent devoted to these a holes)

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, not lazy about school and grades - his scholarship and college demands top grades his last semester. But he’s totally checked out of family life. I told DH that I feel invisible most times around him. He just stopped talking to any of us. It’s awful.

Hugs. We are experiencing the same thing. It's absolutely heartbreaking, but totally normal. Everyone says your old kid returns from college around Thanksgiving, so I'm hanging onto that hope.

Haven't heard this but please be true!

I hope so too! I just wish our DC didn't treat us with such disdain right now.

Oh, hon. I hear you. The disdain is cutting. It's not just you going through it, though. There are a bunch of us out here wondering what the hell happened to our sweet kids. Let's normalize graduating seniors being assholes so we don't feel like parenting failures in the homestretch.

I'm glad this club isn't just our family. I will bring the wine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, not lazy about school and grades - his scholarship and college demands top grades his last semester. But he’s totally checked out of family life. I told DH that I feel invisible most times around him. He just stopped talking to any of us. It’s awful.

Hugs. We are experiencing the same thing. It's absolutely heartbreaking, but totally normal. Everyone says your old kid returns from college around Thanksgiving, so I'm hanging onto that hope.

Haven't heard this but please be true!

I hope so too! I just wish our DC didn't treat us with such disdain right now.

Oh, hon. I hear you. The disdain is cutting. It's not just you going through it, though. There are a bunch of us out here wondering what the hell happened to our sweet kids. Let's normalize graduating seniors being assholes so we don't feel like parenting failures in the homestretch.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, not lazy about school and grades - his scholarship and college demands top grades his last semester. But he’s totally checked out of family life. I told DH that I feel invisible most times around him. He just stopped talking to any of us. It’s awful.

Hugs. We are experiencing the same thing. It's absolutely heartbreaking, but totally normal. Everyone says your old kid returns from college around Thanksgiving, so I'm hanging onto that hope.

Haven't heard this but please be true!

I hope so too! I just wish our DC didn't treat us with such disdain right now.

Anonymous wrote:No, not lazy about school and grades - his scholarship and college demands top grades his last semester. But he’s totally checked out of family life. I told DH that I feel invisible most times around him. He just stopped talking to any of us. It’s awful.

Exactly the same with DD after us always being so close especially through the college process. She got EA at a top school across the country and is still very involved with her classes (currently studying for 5 AP exams) but has been so distant from me. Your description is right - I feel invisible to her!

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Anonymous wrote:No, not lazy about school and grades - his scholarship and college demands top grades his last semester. But he’s totally checked out of family life. I told DH that I feel invisible most times around him. He just stopped talking to any of us. It’s awful.

Hugs. We are experiencing the same thing. It's absolutely heartbreaking, but totally normal. Everyone says your old kid returns from college around Thanksgiving, so I'm hanging onto that hope.

Haven't heard this but please be true!

+1. Please!