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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

I don't think you are who OP is talking about.

There are SAHMs who treat spending their husband's money like it is a full time job - not just vacations (plural), but the shopping, and more.

You think they are going to admit that they like spending their husband's money??

If you think so, I have a bridge to sell you.

If they are married, it's not "the husband's money." What century are you from?

Yes it is. Don't take the "What's his is mine, and what's mine is mine" line too seriously..

Why do most of the responses sound so defensive?

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

I don't think you are who OP is talking about.

There are SAHMs who treat spending their husband's money like it is a full time job - not just vacations (plural), but the shopping, and more.

You think they are going to admit that they like spending their husband's money??

If you think so, I have a bridge to sell you.

If they are married, it's not "the husband's money." What century are you from?

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Anonymous wrote:Those are def code words. Does not mean "generosity.... of spirit, of compassion, of love, of caring" simply means "generosity... of rent, car payments, trips, etc."

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Absolutely, this. Op are you responding to women with spray tans, breast implants, false lashes and long acrylic nails?

Those are def code words. Does not mean "generosity.... of spirit, of compassion, of love, of caring" simply means "generosity... of rent, car payments, trips, etc."

If I were online dating I would use those terms to filter out the kind of men who believe they’re owed something. That attitude is so tedious, and covers an enormous spectrum of behavior from man-children who think women exist to pick up their socks to narcissists who want to be worshipped for existing. Any of these types would find the idea of being “generous” or “giving” anathema.

My husband is an extremely generous man, but I’m reasonably successful as well. He is generous in the little things, like bringing me nice coffee in bed. It’s an incredible trait in a partner and a parent and I think women should seek it out.

OP, the world has changed in that this behavior is out in the open now.
When my wife started behaving like that it ruined our marriage.
She was on social media and somehow it got into her head that she was owed things more quickly then our budget allowed.
The sad thing is there are a lot of low quality/ low self esteem men out there willing to pay women through only fans, seeking, etc.

Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

Same. I have come to think that men only value what they pay for and even if I don’t need it I expect them to show with actions that they value me.

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Anonymous wrote:Why does wanting to date someone who is generous and giving equate to a sex worker? When I think sex worker, I think envelop of cash in exchange for an act.

I know two women who dated in return for being treated "generously" they both saw it as edgy and sex work lite. One was a divorced 30 something mom and the other is the recent college grad daughter of a friend. In my armchair analysis, one was using this arrangement to work through some personal trauma and the other was lazy and raised to think of men as dumb sex robots that deserved to be used.

Or possibly it is a power trip for the woman in such an arrangement.

Definitely, that too.

Until they wake up older and still single.

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

I don't think you are who OP is talking about.

There are SAHMs who treat spending their husband's money like it is a full time job - not just vacations (plural), but the shopping, and more.

You think they are going to admit that they like spending their husband's money??

If you think so, I have a bridge to sell you.

Of course that's true. But he asked if that was some sort of code for being a sugar baby, and I don't think it is.

Anonymous wrote:Women in their 20s want to have kids so they want a man who makes good money and who will be involved with the kids and at home.

Women in their 30s have kids and realize men don’t pitch in when it comes to domestic labor.

Women in their 40s are freaking exhausted from all the years of raising kids basically solo and have learned all men are good for is money, so if you’re gonna deal with a selfish loser, better to be one with money.

Spot on. Being married has given me a newfound respect for whores. At least they're getting a fairer deal.

Anonymous wrote:What are you looking for, OP? Do you want a long-term relationship, or do you just want a sugar baby, but for free? It kid of seems like the latter based on your post

This. OP is a middle aged man who wants to hook up with 20-somethings without paying and is triggered by the terms "generous" and "giving" because he's neither. ROTFL that he's horrified that respectable moms also expect something in return because he thinks "good women" should just give and give without receiving.

Lol I don’t believe this post was written by a man.

I’m calling troll wanting to stir shit up.

Anonymous wrote:What do you want them to say? “Looking for a miserly, stingy, and penny-pinching man.” No. Women want to be romanced, not necessarily “maintained,” and yes, you have to pay to play.

I think this affirms your belief, OP, right here. At least she didn't try to deny it - which would have just made her look worse.

Anonymous wrote:I would also like to date someone generous and giving as those as personality traits I value. I won't go on a second date with a guy if he didn't pay for the first (usually just a coffee or a drink). That being said, I am not looking for a sugar daddy...just someone who can support himself and doesn't nickel and dime in relationships. I make 250k+/year, and I am also very generous.

I don't think you are who OP is talking about.

There are SAHMs who treat spending their husband's money like it is a full time job - not just vacations (plural), but the shopping, and more.

You think they are going to admit that they like spending their husband's money??

If you think so, I have a bridge to sell you.