Anonymous
02/21/2022 12:09
Subject: What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He is 13 freaking years old. Let him be a kid Karen.
Completely disagree. My 13 year old would spend literally every waking minute on a screen if not given structure and boundaries. They have plenty of free time each day, but not the ENTIRE DAY. But your attitude explains so much about the behavior of some kids (and adults.)
You definitely need to let him be a kid. If screentime is that much of a problem, which it sounds like it is, it's time to cut out the screens and have a detox.
They have tons of time to "be a kid" because I force them to "go play outside" or "go play with your toys" or whatever. They have a great time when they do, but would choose screens instead if given that option. So they aren't given that option very often. Most adults are like this too if they are honest.
13 year olds don’t play with toys.
And you know what all 13 year olds do or don't do? Wow, dcum really loves to correct kids being kids.
+1
Anonymous
02/21/2022 11:19
Subject: What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He is 13 freaking years old. Let him be a kid Karen.
Completely disagree. My 13 year old would spend literally every waking minute on a screen if not given structure and boundaries. They have plenty of free time each day, but not the ENTIRE DAY. But your attitude explains so much about the behavior of some kids (and adults.)
You definitely need to let him be a kid. If screentime is that much of a problem, which it sounds like it is, it's time to cut out the screens and have a detox.
They have tons of time to "be a kid" because I force them to "go play outside" or "go play with your toys" or whatever. They have a great time when they do, but would choose screens instead if given that option. So they aren't given that option very often. Most adults are like this too if they are honest.
13 year olds don’t play with toys.
And you know what all 13 year olds do or don't do? Wow, dcum really loves to correct kids being kids.
Anonymous
02/21/2022 10:19
Subject: Re:What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Some kids don’t like camps.
Anonymous
02/21/2022 08:12
Subject: Re:What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid had always done a variety of day camps because of our work schedule and he likes to be busy. The summer he was 13 turning 14 was when Covid stopped all that and I was worried about how things would go. He ended up having a rather magical summer actually he and his buddies spend a lot of time biking in the woods, around town, down to the beach etc. etc. Obviously all the possible in a small town but he loved the independence. And he was pretty much outside all summer.
My son was in middle school and still talks about how two years ago was the best summer of his life. All friends were around, no one was traveling and there weren’t constant sports conflicts. They had an old fashioned summer and spent it biking and fishing. We are in the suburbs here and I try to remember this when we think of all of the bad of covid. That summer was perfect for DS.
Ditto. My family had the same experience. Summer 2020 was the best summer my tween ever had. It made me realize how over scheduled we had been. Summer 2020 bwas very much like my own summers and my kid matured so much. We started allowing so much more independence. I'm grateful for that time.
Meant to say 2020. Not some time traveler.
Anonymous
02/21/2022 08:11
Subject: Re:What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid had always done a variety of day camps because of our work schedule and he likes to be busy. The summer he was 13 turning 14 was when Covid stopped all that and I was worried about how things would go. He ended up having a rather magical summer actually he and his buddies spend a lot of time biking in the woods, around town, down to the beach etc. etc. Obviously all the possible in a small town but he loved the independence. And he was pretty much outside all summer.
My son was in middle school and still talks about how two years ago was the best summer of his life. All friends were around, no one was traveling and there weren’t constant sports conflicts. They had an old fashioned summer and spent it biking and fishing. We are in the suburbs here and I try to remember this when we think of all of the bad of covid. That summer was perfect for DS.
Ditto. My family had the same experience. Summer 2020 was the best summer my tween ever had. It made me realize how over scheduled we had been. Summer 2029bwas very much like my own summers and my kid matured so much. We started allowing so much more independence. I'm grateful for that time.
Anonymous
02/21/2022 07:33
Subject: What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He is 13 freaking years old. Let him be a kid Karen.
Completely disagree. My 13 year old would spend literally every waking minute on a screen if not given structure and boundaries. They have plenty of free time each day, but not the ENTIRE DAY. But your attitude explains so much about the behavior of some kids (and adults.)
You definitely need to let him be a kid. If screentime is that much of a problem, which it sounds like it is, it's time to cut out the screens and have a detox.
They have tons of time to "be a kid" because I force them to "go play outside" or "go play with your toys" or whatever. They have a great time when they do, but would choose screens instead if given that option. So they aren't given that option very often. Most adults are like this too if they are honest.
13 year olds don’t play with toys.
Anonymous
02/21/2022 07:31
Subject: Re:What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
My DS turns 13 soon. He will be doing some writing and math enrichment this summer. He will also be playing tennis and golf. He also likes art so I will put him in an art camp or two. We never have time to do art classes during the school year. I will also probably do either a business or coding type camp.
I use summer to allow him to do things he can’t do during the school year.
He will still watch YouTube and play enough video games to drive me crazy. He also would spend almost every second at home on a screen if I let him.
I use summer to allow him to do things he can’t do during the school year.
He will still watch YouTube and play enough video games to drive me crazy. He also would spend almost every second at home on a screen if I let him.
Anonymous
02/20/2022 19:14
Subject: What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Can you afford sleep away camp or another sleep away program?
Anonymous
02/19/2022 16:40
Subject: Re:What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
14 year old is going to their "last summer of sleep away camp/fun" this summer - then the on campus college programs begin the following summer.
Anonymous
02/18/2022 23:49
Subject: Re:What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Bingo!One of the best ways to do a screen detox is…camp.
Anonymous
02/18/2022 22:21
Subject: What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
DD was eight. She does a year round sport four to five days a week so that constant in the summer keeps her active enough. We also travel for two weeks. She reads a lot, hangs out with friends, goes to the pool, completes projects (last year she painted her room), etc.
Anonymous
02/17/2022 17:02
Subject: What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He is 13 freaking years old. Let him be a kid Karen.
Completely disagree. My 13 year old would spend literally every waking minute on a screen if not given structure and boundaries. They have plenty of free time each day, but not the ENTIRE DAY. But your attitude explains so much about the behavior of some kids (and adults.)
You definitely need to let him be a kid. If screentime is that much of a problem, which it sounds like it is, it's time to cut out the screens and have a detox.
One of the best ways to do a screen detox is…camp.
Anonymous
02/17/2022 16:38
Subject: What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Make sure he knows he will only get one hour of social media a day.
Realistically, how would you enforce that when you're at work and they're home?
Is TikTok still the social media of choice?
DP and not for mine. They are on Discord constantly now. Snapchat is still popular.
Anonymous
02/17/2022 16:27
Subject: What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Never stopped making them go to camp, because they both love their camps! As kids, a mix of sports camps and sleep away and something else they liked. As tweens, each assisted with younger kids at their sport camp, and continued with sleep away. Both now work 7-8 weeks at their sleep away camps (one is 7 weeks the other is 8 weeks). The rest of the time they hang out at the community pool with friends, and sleep!
Anonymous
02/17/2022 14:39
Subject: What age did you stop making g your kids go to camp?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Make sure he knows he will only get one hour of social media a day.
Realistically, how would you enforce that when you're at work and they're home?
Is TikTok still the social media of choice?
For my DD14, its the only one she's allowed to have. We have it pretty locked down, we check who she follows and who follows her, etc. She is not allowed to accept requests from people she doesn't know (and she respects this, she's a good kid.) Sometimes she talks about Instagram but the stuff I read about that one seems even scarier than TikTok which also freaks me out.
To answer the PP, you can put screen time limits on phones and other devices and you can also turn the internet on/off at your home (for computers.) Its pretty simple if you are so inclined. But I'm thankful I don't have to make DD go to camp, she wants to.
Understood.
Thx for your response, and wishing you a happy, healthy, productive, resolution to the situation (whatever his summer plan ends up being).