Hopefully never, I am back in my office after having my 26th Valentines lunch with my wife.

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re a guy, you better do something nice no matter what DW says about it, or you will surely regret it later when she throws it in your face that you’re a lazy, uncaring, take her for granted, etc etc.

-1. Listen to your SO and do her the courtesy of believing her. I (a woman) do not want to celebrate Valentine's Day. My DH knows this and feels the same.

+1

It’s so annoying that my husband insists on doing something for me for valentines, likely because he doesn’t believe me when I say I don’t care, but then won’t do the things I repeatedly ask for.

Anonymous wrote:If you’re a guy, you better do something nice no matter what DW says about it, or you will surely regret it later when she throws it in your face that you’re a lazy, uncaring, take her for granted, etc etc.

-1. Listen to your SO and do her the courtesy of believing her. I (a woman) do not want to celebrate Valentine's Day. My DH knows this and feels the same.

Anonymous wrote:Married 18 years. Yesterday DH brought roses home from his grocery store run. I remembered to order a box of chocolates. We said "Happy Valentines Day! I love you!" and we're good. I think we'll go out to dinner tomorrow night because our kid is off doing something else. That's it.

This is about our level of celebrating. We have a very good marriage! I don’t understand the people who want to stop celebrating altogether. A card, a nice dinner, an extra “I love you”—none of these things are hard, and they’re a nice way to remind your spouse and yourself that you are glad to be married to him or her.

^^15 years

Hmm, I guess we are doing more than most. I got DH a truffle making class which we did this weekend — it was fun. He got me flowers and some kind of gift he has been secretly preparing in the basement over the last weeks. The kids ratted him out so I’ve heard a lot about this surprise already. We had lunch together today and talked about how many more Valentines Days we will have.

We never make a huge deal of the holiday because it is a little commercial, but just treating it like a day to celebrate something sweet is fun. I like seeing other people get into it. Pre pandemic I remember once we went to have a nice lunch and saw an older man waiting with chocolates and a card. His date showed up all dressed up and he was so sweet to her. It was heartwarming.

Anonymous wrote:We never really have, 18 years together. He (very much) surprised me with some adult toys to share. The joke was he hasn’t gotten me anything than the first year (which is true)

I got him a gift card. I didn’t win this holiday.

A gift card for a SO? Don't you share money?

Anonymous wrote:If you’re a guy, you better do something nice no matter what DW says about it, or you will surely regret it later when she throws it in your face that you’re a lazy, uncaring, take her for granted, etc etc.

I much prefer it when my husband brings me a bouquet of flowers on a random day. Valentines is for entry-level husbands. The real pros don't need to have Hallmark reminding them that they need to show love and appreciation.

Anonymous wrote:We never really have, 18 years together. He (very much) surprised me with some adult toys to share. The joke was he hasn’t gotten me anything than the first year (which is true)

I got him a gift card. I didn’t win this holiday.

I don't understand. If you have never celebrated, why did you get him a gift card?

35 years here & we've never really celebrated it - maybe an occasional card. Tonight we'll be having dinner at home with my widowed mom and our 24-year-old daughter. Looking forward to it!

Anonymous wrote:If you’re a guy, you better do something nice no matter what DW says about it, or you will surely regret it later when she throws it in your face that you’re a lazy, uncaring, take her for granted, etc etc.

Not true. DH and I have always agreed not to celebrate Valentine's Day. Tonight he will be playing music with a couple of friends and I couldn't care less.

Some people really can be taken at face value.

We never really have, 18 years together. He (very much) surprised me with some adult toys to share. The joke was he hasn’t gotten me anything than the first year (which is true)

I got him a gift card. I didn’t win this holiday.

Married 15 years and still celebrate. Mainly a nicely written card and share a good bottle of wine.

We didn't celebrate Valentine's Day when we were dating, nor did we start after getting married.

Never celebrated it married.