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Anonymous wrote:Not OP, but I wish we could also withdraw. Mostly bc we got zero merit from the school my DD was accepted to ED. And plenty of merit aid from the other schools she was accepted to -- but I realize that is the risk we took, but still sucks. We thought there would be a little merit at least and now we will need to take out a loan.

The one loophole is financial. You are not forced to take out loans. If you cannot afford this school without loans but something that you can afford without loans has come through, you can turn down the ED. Before I did that, though, I would call the ED financial aid office and see if they can offer you something.

That loophole only applies to need-based aid.

No one is paying attention other than a few hall monitors on DCUM. He will go to ED. No one has explained why it makes any difference if he just sees whether he gets in and then immediately declines. He’s not going to any of these other schools - he’s not even interested in most of them (other than 1 which I’m sure he won’t get into). So calm down dcum. He’s not taking a spot. He’s simply competitive like everyone else.

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m still not seeing how it hurts anyone if you still go to the ED school.

YOU ARE TAKING UP SPOTS AT OTHER SCHOOL AND FORCING YOUR HIGH SCHOOL INTO A REALLY CRAPPY SITUATION.

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Anonymous wrote:DS got ED. We haven’t withdrawn any applications. We want to see what other schools he gets into. We do intend to promptly notify of declination if he gets offers.

According to a PP, the ED school expects you to withdraw your other applications as soon as you received their acceptance.
Failing to do so could jeopardize the ED acceptance and if your school refuses to send transcripts to the other schools your child could end up without any options. Perhaps I misunderstood something but it sounds like a big risk.

NP. What risk? The high schools send transcripts to all of the other applicant schools weeks/ months ago.

Before an applicant can matriculate, the high school sends a "final" transcript to the college verifying the final coursework and grades. The High School is bound to send that to the ED school. So YABTAH here and may be jeopardizing your kids acceptance.

Anonymous wrote:DS got ED. We haven’t withdrawn any applications. We want to see what other schools he gets into. We do intend to promptly notify of declination if he gets offers.

You son is being incredibly unethical. Is this really the life lesson you are teaching? Your kid is into an ED. He needs to pull his applications so other kids can get an acceptance that your son may be receiving. WTF.

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m still not seeing how it hurts anyone if you still go to the ED school.

Because schools only take so many students from each high school. If you were accepted to ED and then didn't pull your applications from other schools, someone else in your school will get denied (maybe waitlisted) because they give you an offer. I guess if you and your kid don't care about other kids in your high school, then this isn't a reason. For most of us, it is.

It's very possible that no guidance counselors are watching all that closely, esp at public schools. But why take the risk at all if your kid is not going to accept any offer except the ED offer?Just so you or your kid can brag about acceptances? And for sure it's a risk - what happens when you ask the counselor to send midyear reports to RD apps? My kid got in ED and no matter how curious we were about the outcomes elsewhere, I can't believe anyone would be so stupid or so selfish to push their luck like this.

Already teaching a fledgling adult not to honor their commitments.

Great

For one thing you will get your school's guidance counselor and possibly the school blacklisted from that university for a period of time. Its a terribly dishonest thing to do and I have absolutely heard that the schools will only send the final transcript to the school you were accepted ED, it's all part of the contract.

super bad idea and unethical to the max.

Hoping a guidance counselor chimes in, anonymously of course. Hard to believe a public school guidance office keeps track of all the non ivy/T 20 schools and their ED results. I am not even sure if the college alerts the high school of acceptances and rejections.

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Anonymous wrote:DS got ED. We haven’t withdrawn any applications. We want to see what other schools he gets into. We do intend to promptly notify of declination if he gets offers.

According to a PP, the ED school expects you to withdraw your other applications as soon as you received their acceptance.
Failing to do so could jeopardize the ED acceptance and if your school refuses to send transcripts to the other schools your child could end up without any options. Perhaps I misunderstood something but it sounds like a big risk.

NP. What risk? The high schools send transcripts to all of the other applicant schools weeks/ months ago.

Right. I don’t understand why everyone doesn’t do this. We aren’t going to accept any offer.

Most people aren't as selfish as you.

Anonymous wrote:Whether or not you get away with it, does anyone not think this is a lousy thing to do?

People don’t really care if it’s lousy though. They just want the highest prestige school for their kid.

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m still not seeing how it hurts anyone if you still go to the ED school.

It's just a generally dishonest thing to do. If you have no intention of going to the school, why apply and take the potential spot from someone else?

I guess I’m still not seeing how it hurts anyone if you still go to the ED school.

Whether or not you get away with it, does anyone not think this is a lousy thing to do?