Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:46     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.


I think you’ll feel differently when your kid is that age. It’s so fraught for the kids and such a source of stress for them. It’s just polite not to post something you know will make “friends” feel bad. And it’s really the kid’s news, so there’s the extra ick of the parents being over invested in the outcome.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:43     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
I've seen a lot of "decision" posts on facebook and never thought it was tacky. Same with "acceptance" posts--I've always only seen one per student (their first choice)--I don't know anyone that makes separate posts for each school acceptance.

A couple years ago my son was going through a rough period, and he got accepted at his first choice school (which actually isn't a hard school to get into or anything) and I was happy for him and posted it on facebook. It's a good memory of a happy moment during a very difficult time.

My other son has been accepted at several schools and is still deciding, but I had planned to post something when he makes his decision.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:43     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
I’m curious where friends’ kids are going but almost all the posts I’ve seen rub me the wrong way (is, “Layla’s hard work paid off!”). A drop off photo is fine. Otherwise it’s just bragging. Don’t brag.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:42     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
When you are dropping them off in the Fall OP. That's when you post.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:42     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:41     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The kids are all posting the minute they get it. Maybe leave off it’s a full ride.

I was not going to post my DC's acceptance on FB. But DC posted it, so I did too. Take the lead from your kid. Its their news.


If your kid posted, you don't need to. I told anyone who asked where DS was going. I did not post it on FB. Some asked, many did not.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:41     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. Don’t. It’s really tacky. If you want, post a sweet picture on drop off day in the fall.


This. And even at drop off day, no need to mention the school name.


I mean, this is taking it too far. You don't have to hide where your kid goes to school. There is a big difference between a mention of the school and bragging.


Seriously. I mean, maybe you shouldn't mention that you even have children. That might come across as bragging that you had sex 18 years ago.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:39     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. Don’t. It’s really tacky. If you want, post a sweet picture on drop off day in the fall.


This. And even at drop off day, no need to mention the school name.


I mean, this is taking it too far. You don't have to hide where your kid goes to school. There is a big difference between a mention of the school and bragging.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:38     Subject: Re:Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s the bed party trend?

OP? -NP


Those bed parties are bonkers. I think it may be a southern thing. Basically, kid sits on their bed and is surrounded by a pile of school swag, balloons, etc. It's gross.

https://grownandflown.com/bed-party-college-decision/



This is so embarrassing. I've seen the photos of "decorated" beds but had no idea that the student's "contact" actually solicited money and other people come decorate the bed! I just figured the parents bought the kid a bunch of gear as a "congratulations" gift and they took a photo.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:38     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:I don't see the issue with saying where your kid is going. It's basic, factual information. And likely everyone will find out later anyways. Definitely nothing about ALL the acceptances the kid got, merit aid or "honors college". Don't brag.


We’ll merit scholarships etc are “factual information” too. I think posting these sorts of facts are telling people more than the poster might have intended. The posts say a lot more about the poster than about the info.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:37     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. The people who post their kids' ED results are especially annoying given that most still have not heard.


Agreed - OP if you choose to post, do it after everyone knows where they are going in June. Definitely not early if they got in ED.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:37     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. Don’t. It’s really tacky. If you want, post a sweet picture on drop off day in the fall.


This. And even at drop off day, no need to mention the school name.


Weird. I’m FB friends with people from my past whom I don’t regularly talk to. And with a couple of them, we discovered that our kids go to the same college thanks to Facebook, and we re-connected that way. How can that be a bad thing or tacky?
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:35     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Don't do it. The people who post their kids' ED results are especially annoying given that most still have not heard.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:33     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Anonymous wrote:No. Don’t. It’s really tacky. If you want, post a sweet picture on drop off day in the fall.


This. And even at drop off day, no need to mention the school name.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2022 11:32     Subject: Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No
Don't use Facebook. Find another way to share this info if you must.