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Anonymous wrote:Op your husband is right

Your sibling is a POS

Your mother deserves better from you what are you thinking?

OP - what am I thinking? I'm not driving the train here. Even if I were to hypothetically drop out, my sister would find a way for my mother to get there (likely with the unvaxxed sibling). I am trying to be a good sibling in helping out, as she will be occupied with wedding planning stuff.

But you can use any leverage you have to push for responsible safety precautions, for goodness's sakes. Unless this is crazy Trumpland, surely people will be fine with a vaccine requirement.

Good lord, you're an awful person. It's not OP's role to decide who can attend the wedding, or pressure her family. She can discuss it with her sister, but she'd be way out of bounds to use any sort of "leverage" to influence the process. I have a sister who feels fine telling me what to do, even though we aren't close, and it has significantly, adversely impacted our relationship.

OP here is what I would do:
You and your mom go to the wedding.

Kids and DH go to visit his parents.

You all meet back up at home, test before seeing each other.

Problem solved. You can keep attention on making sure your mom can see all the family members she wishes without nagging from the kids or your DH being angry.

Anonymous wrote:I know several vaxxed people who got Covid at family weddings. If family does care enough about us to require vaxxination and have some sort of Covid protocol they I would politely decline or say it's too early to tell. The one person I know with long term covid had a mild case. I am not willing to risk that because some knuckleheads won't get vaxxed or wear a mask or whatever.

Agree. It's the new normal. People need to be vaxxed to go. It's not like any event should have to accommodate the unvaxxed, right? Why would that happen?

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you all go, but completely avoid the unvaccinated sibling at all times?

You know respiratory things don't work like that, right? It literally takes just one to spread.

Invitations should indicate " vaccinated only." I've received several this year with that caveat.

Why can't you all go, but completely avoid the unvaccinated sibling at all times?

We are dealing with a similar situation, OP. I have a child getting married in April and a child getting married in October. AND, my oldest child and his wife have a baby due in August. I have just kinda let go of trying to control this. We have no way of knowing what Covid will do this summer. Everyone in my family is fully vax’d. Even the old folks are very healthy. Both weddings are outdoors. I’m officiating. Just trying to go with the flow at this point.

Oh FFS go to the wedding.

I know several vaxxed people who got Covid at family weddings. If family does care enough about us to require vaxxination and have some sort of Covid protocol they I would politely decline or say it's too early to tell. The one person I know with long term covid had a mild case. I am not willing to risk that because some knuckleheads won't get vaxxed or wear a mask or whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:By telling your sister now that you will not attend without a vaccine requirement you are doing her a BIG favor. You won’t be the only potentially canceling at the last minute because vaccines are not required. By making her deal with this now, she will have a much more predictable guest list. Unvaxxed scum sibling should bow out if h or she won’t get vaccinated. Don’t let your other unvaccinated sibling trash all your summer plans.

It's not her sister's wedding.

It's the bride and groom's wedding. They decide. I am as pro-vax as they come but bullying a couple into a vaccine mandate for their wedding, especially via their parents, is not appropriate.

It’s incredibly rude to demand others implement a vaccination requirement to appease OP’s untreated anxiety. If she’s not comfortable with the wedding, she should politely bow out. If her mother is of sound mind, she can make her own decision.

The sense of entitlement from some people on this thread is shocking.

Anonymous wrote:By telling your sister now that you will not attend without a vaccine requirement you are doing her a BIG favor. You won’t be the only potentially canceling at the last minute because vaccines are not required. By making her deal with this now, she will have a much more predictable guest list. Unvaxxed scum sibling should bow out if h or she won’t get vaccinated. Don’t let your other unvaccinated sibling trash all your summer plans.

It's not her sister's wedding.

It's the bride and groom's wedding. They decide. I am as pro-vax as they come but bullying a couple into a vaccine mandate for their wedding, especially via their parents, is not appropriate.

Anonymous wrote:Go to the wedding. If DH’s parents are uncomfortable with your visit after that event - and it should be their decision, not your husband’s - then don’t visit them.

This.

Also, if your husband is concerned, have everyone in your family take rapid tests before visiting his parents. If everyone in your family and his family is vaccinated and boosted (if eligible), and it's an outdoor wedding in the summer (when there will likely be less community spread), I think the risk is very low.

At a certain point you are going to accept that not everyone is going to be vaccinated and get on with your life. I wish it were not the case but that's the reality we're living in.

I agree that this is your nephew's area of responsibility

Anonymous wrote:one unvaccinated person is going to kill you and your iILS?
and you and your dh are not on prozac?

It would take something far stronger than prozac to address this level of paranoia. There are unvaccinated people everywhere - what are you supposed to do? Stay in a protective bubble. People who are vaccinated and boosted mask-up and get on with life and work.

Pandemic is over outdoors