Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 15:21     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
I have three but not sure I ever gushes about babies to my kids. She can articulate she wants you all to herself because she is developmentally designed to be selfish at this point. Not a good way to make life decisions.

This is the part I don’t add IRL but wish I could: if your kid is that into being an only, they need a sibling. Because they need to learn the world doesn’t revolve around them, and they haven’t picked it up yet.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 15:16     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What would I do?

Seek out some serious therapy to figure out why I’m considering the whims of a 4 year old when planning my family. I’d also look into working with a parenting coach.


Do you always rely on an army of therapists and coaches to figure out things?

And do you always consult a 4- year old before making key life choices?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 15:14     Subject: Re:When your kid does not want asibling
My DS never wanted a sibling. That was a good thing since I was a single parent and had him 24/7/365. I think he's a bit of an introvert like me so that might be why.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 15:05     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What would I do?

Seek out some serious therapy to figure out why I’m considering the whims of a 4 year old when planning my family. I’d also look into working with a parenting coach.

Do you always rely on an army of therapists and coaches to figure out things?


Wow that went over your head. The point is that basing your family planning decisions on the opinion of a 4 year old is so ridiculous that you definitely need therapy. This whole post is a red flag.

Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:57     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
People really get over-the-top with the snarky replies.

I read it as OP is hitting pause so that they can be prepared about how to handle, not because they're jumping to the whims of their kid.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:53     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DD (4) does not want a baby sibling at all. All her friends have baby siblings, but DD is not impressed. She does not want to play with them and actively avoids little kids on the playground. She is never aggressive or mean to the babies and gets scared when they cry. When I gush about the babies, she gets upset and feels she has to fight for my attention. We wanted another kid, but her behavior made us pause. WWYD?


When did four year olds start making family decisions? Never in my home.



I have said the same thing about teens. Too many parents want to be their children’s friends instead of their parents.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:51     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What would I do?

Seek out some serious therapy to figure out why I’m considering the whims of a 4 year old when planning my family. I’d also look into working with a parenting coach.


Do you always rely on an army of therapists and coaches to figure out things?


Actually no. I was able to figure out whether to have a second kid or not without soliciting the opinion of my 4 year old. I didn’t even need to come to a parenting board. I know of no one that would actually center their family planning around the whims of a 4 year old or any child, for that matter. And I was able to figure out that 4 year olds can quickly change their feelings on things. OP seems truly unable to get this. That’s why I suggested professional help. These issues are overwhelming to OP and seem to require some specific work with a qualified professional.


DP. You should keep your unhelpful opinions to yourself. You sound like a miserable person.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:46     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 5 y/o loves his younger siblings. In fact, he says he wants 10 more little brothers. While we appreciate his input, it will not be taken into consideration moving forward.


😂


Sounds like you better get to work!
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:43     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Never occurred to me to ask my 4 year old about it. When the time came, We just brought her to the hospital and introduced her baby sibling. Stop asking her if she wants a sibling.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:41     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Anonymous wrote:Why does your 4 year old get to vote?


+1. This is absolutely not true for all only children but this type of post really does show how parents can spoil their only kids and give them too much authority over what should be parental decisions. Your 4 y/o shouldn’t be getting a say in if you have another baby.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:37     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Anonymous wrote:My DD (4) does not want a baby sibling at all. All her friends have baby siblings, but DD is not impressed. She does not want to play with them and actively avoids little kids on the playground. She is never aggressive or mean to the babies and gets scared when they cry. When I gush about the babies, she gets upset and feels she has to fight for my attention. We wanted another kid, but her behavior made us pause. WWYD?


When did four year olds start making family decisions? Never in my home.

Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:31     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Anonymous wrote:My 5 y/o loves his younger siblings. In fact, he says he wants 10 more little brothers. While we appreciate his input, it will not be taken into consideration moving forward.


😂
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:28     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
Why does your 4 year old get to vote?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:24     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
It's not her call. WTH?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 14:22     Subject: When your kid does not want asibling
My 5 y/o loves his younger siblings. In fact, he says he wants 10 more little brothers. While we appreciate his input, it will not be taken into consideration moving forward.