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Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.

She sees no contradiction in doing this after divorcing you for cheating?

We weren’t married, but I did this with a boyfriend in college. He cheated on me for a long time before I knew anything. He finally broke up with me to concentrate on the other woman, but after a couple of months he started cheating on her with me.

Normally, I wouldn’t go near a guy with a girlfriend, but I made an exception in this case. I figured, she was okay with knowing he was cheating on me, she must not care if he was cheating on her with me.

A friend of mine who knew the other woman recently told me that she thinks that the other woman never knew that he was cheating on her with me, which I actually find kind of annoying. I thought at the time that I would like it if she knew so she would know how I felt. I also thought that she should have expected him to cheat on her because she was aware that he had a girlfriend he was cheating on when he was with her.

DP. How do you know she was aware he had a girlfriend?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m more compatible with my former Ex-wife of 20 years than current wife.

We had the same sense of humor and interests and still will laugh like crazy. She is also very intelligent and I enjoy conversations.

No what you're doing is affecting your current wife's attitude toward you. If my spouse was still doing that stuff with his ex I would grow to hate him. Yes he wouldn't like my personality at that point. What you are doing is self defeating behavior. Instead of putting 100% into your marriage you messed it up. You should have cut your ex out of your life after the divorce.
Also, you aren't married to her and if you were you'd once again have the same problems. Grow up Mr.

Oh the sweet irony. This is exactly what happens to the marriage during an affair. The person having the affair becomes a complete jerk and no longer gives anything to the marital relationship.

He's one of those people that idealizes the one he's NOT with.

Grass is greener syndrome.

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Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.

This makes me laugh. Power dynamic switched.

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Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.

She sees no contradiction in doing this after divorcing you for cheating?

We weren’t married, but I did this with a boyfriend in college. He cheated on me for a long time before I knew anything. He finally broke up with me to concentrate on the other woman, but after a couple of months he started cheating on her with me.

Normally, I wouldn’t go near a guy with a girlfriend, but I made an exception in this case. I figured, she was okay with knowing he was cheating on me, she must not care if he was cheating on her with me.

A friend of mine who knew the other woman recently told me that she thinks that the other woman never knew that he was cheating on her with me, which I actually find kind of annoying. I thought at the time that I would like it if she knew so she would know how I felt. I also thought that she should have expected him to cheat on her because she was aware that he had a girlfriend he was cheating on when he was with her.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m more compatible with my former Ex-wife of 20 years than current wife.

We had the same sense of humor and interests and still will laugh like crazy. She is also very intelligent and I enjoy conversations.

No what you're doing is affecting your current wife's attitude toward you. If my spouse was still doing that stuff with his ex I would grow to hate him. Yes he wouldn't like my personality at that point. What you are doing is self defeating behavior. Instead of putting 100% into your marriage you messed it up. You should have cut your ex out of your life after the divorce.
Also, you aren't married to her and if you were you'd once again have the same problems. Grow up Mr.

Well- she is the woman I had the affair with so if I had taken that advice I wouldn’t have left my first wife. Unfortunately I was an idiot and regret it deeply. People are right when they say that it’s limerence that makes you do stupid things and it cools off quickly once real life sets in.

Got it but that ship has sailed. Move on and put everything into your current marriage. You did agree to marry her, so time to cut off the one who is now your ex. Your ex is probably laughing and playing you both knowing what it's done to you, and your current relationship. My BIL cheated on his wife of 25 years, she divorced him. He didn't want to be alone and moved in with the OW. Now it's been many years and he's still miserable. He does the same thing you do, and his gf of course has anger he still talks and sees his wife. Everyone has told him to move on, and yes the ex and the kids play him because they still have anger.

Waaaaaahhhhh, crying here . Maybe the gf will realize a cheater doesn’t make a great life partner.

Yep I agree. The current gf has rheaped what she sowed along with her bf!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m more compatible with my former Ex-wife of 20 years than current wife.

We had the same sense of humor and interests and still will laugh like crazy. She is also very intelligent and I enjoy conversations.

No what you're doing is affecting your current wife's attitude toward you. If my spouse was still doing that stuff with his ex I would grow to hate him. Yes he wouldn't like my personality at that point. What you are doing is self defeating behavior. Instead of putting 100% into your marriage you messed it up. You should have cut your ex out of your life after the divorce.
Also, you aren't married to her and if you were you'd once again have the same problems. Grow up Mr.

Oh the sweet irony. This is exactly what happens to the marriage during an affair. The person having the affair becomes a complete jerk and no longer gives anything to the marital relationship.

He's one of those people that idealizes the one he's NOT with.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure my cheating ex husband thinks we are friends, because he has no idea what it means to be a friend to someone. Friends are trustworthy, honest, can be supportive and can think of the other person’s needs. ExDH has none of these qualities.

I am friends with my Ex like I’m friends with that creepy guy at the office who keeps hitting on me but I’m too scared to report to HR because he has the power to retaliate and make my work life a mess. I am polite to my ex. I pretend to be interested in his thoughts. I am careful not to let him know anything about myself. I try to focus our conversation strictly on work (i.e. the kids), and I try to get him to do his fair share of the work while at the same time being prepared at any moment that he will do something to screw me.

He is not my friend.

Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m more compatible with my former Ex-wife of 20 years than current wife.

We had the same sense of humor and interests and still will laugh like crazy. She is also very intelligent and I enjoy conversations.

No what you're doing is affecting your current wife's attitude toward you. If my spouse was still doing that stuff with his ex I would grow to hate him. Yes he wouldn't like my personality at that point. What you are doing is self defeating behavior. Instead of putting 100% into your marriage you messed it up. You should have cut your ex out of your life after the divorce.
Also, you aren't married to her and if you were you'd once again have the same problems. Grow up Mr.

Well- she is the woman I had the affair with so if I had taken that advice I wouldn’t have left my first wife. Unfortunately I was an idiot and regret it deeply. People are right when they say that it’s limerence that makes you do stupid things and it cools off quickly once real life sets in.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m more compatible with my former Ex-wife of 20 years than current wife.

We had the same sense of humor and interests and still will laugh like crazy. She is also very intelligent and I enjoy conversations.

No what you're doing is affecting your current wife's attitude toward you. If my spouse was still doing that stuff with his ex I would grow to hate him. Yes he wouldn't like my personality at that point. What you are doing is self defeating behavior. Instead of putting 100% into your marriage you messed it up. You should have cut your ex out of your life after the divorce.
Also, you aren't married to her and if you were you'd once again have the same problems. Grow up Mr.

Well- she is the woman I had the affair with so if I had taken that advice I wouldn’t have left my first wife. Unfortunately I was an idiot and regret it deeply. People are right when they say that it’s limerence that makes you do stupid things and it cools off quickly once real life sets in.

Got it but that ship has sailed. Move on and put everything into your current marriage. You did agree to marry her, so time to cut off the one who is now your ex. Your ex is probably laughing and playing you both knowing what it's done to you, and your current relationship. My BIL cheated on his wife of 25 years, she divorced him. He didn't want to be alone and moved in with the OW. Now it's been many years and he's still miserable. He does the same thing you do, and his gf of course has anger he still talks and sees his wife. Everyone has told him to move on, and yes the ex and the kids play him because they still have anger.

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Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.

She sees no contradiction in doing this after divorcing you for cheating?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m more compatible with my former Ex-wife of 20 years than current wife.

We had the same sense of humor and interests and still will laugh like crazy. She is also very intelligent and I enjoy conversations.

No what you're doing is affecting your current wife's attitude toward you. If my spouse was still doing that stuff with his ex I would grow to hate him. Yes he wouldn't like my personality at that point. What you are doing is self defeating behavior. Instead of putting 100% into your marriage you messed it up. You should have cut your ex out of your life after the divorce.
Also, you aren't married to her and if you were you'd once again have the same problems. Grow up Mr.

Well- she is the woman I had the affair with so if I had taken that advice I wouldn’t have left my first wife. Unfortunately I was an idiot and regret it deeply. People are right when they say that it’s limerence that makes you do stupid things and it cools off quickly once real life sets in.

Got it but that ship has sailed. Move on and put everything into your current marriage. You did agree to marry her, so time to cut off the one who is now your ex. Your ex is probably laughing and playing you both knowing what it's done to you, and your current relationship. My BIL cheated on his wife of 25 years, she divorced him. He didn't want to be alone and moved in with the OW. Now it's been many years and he's still miserable. He does the same thing you do, and his gf of course has anger he still talks and sees his wife. Everyone has told him to move on, and yes the ex and the kids play him because they still have anger.