Anonymous
Post 01/20/2022 22:45     Subject: Is there a nice way to bring this up?
Get a plug in skillet, they are so cheap, and ask her if she could please fry the fish outside, make a joke out of it, like laughing tell her I tried to go out the other day and all i could smell was the fish from the day!

Joking makes all things better!
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2022 20:43     Subject: Is there a nice way to bring this up?
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Anonymous wrote:People on this forum are so weird and scared of their nannies! I would bring this up and not ban fish outright, but turn it into a mutual problem to solve. I did not have the same nanny for 7.5 years by ignoring things that would make having her around unbearable. If you are gagging everyday due to her meal, you have to bring it up!

Also, it is not standard to feed your nanny. I do feed our new nanny, but our old nanny had a very specific diet that it would not have made sense for us to even try to shop for. Instead we, gasp, paid her enough to afford the food she liked!


This. I can’t imagine thinking it was OK to cook fish in someone’s house every single day. I would probably feel self-conscious even doing it once. I don’t really think it is reasonable of her



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I eat fish every day. I have to assume you two are country bumpkin midwesterners to have this attitude about it.


You know we have fish in the midwest too, right?


The midwest is the only place I've ever been where it was common to reject *all* seafood.


Sounds like you need to get out more and experience other places.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 19:37     Subject: Is there a nice way to bring this up?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:People on this forum are so weird and scared of their nannies! I would bring this up and not ban fish outright, but turn it into a mutual problem to solve. I did not have the same nanny for 7.5 years by ignoring things that would make having her around unbearable. If you are gagging everyday due to her meal, you have to bring it up!

Also, it is not standard to feed your nanny. I do feed our new nanny, but our old nanny had a very specific diet that it would not have made sense for us to even try to shop for. Instead we, gasp, paid her enough to afford the food she liked!


This. I can’t imagine thinking it was OK to cook fish in someone’s house every single day. I would probably feel self-conscious even doing it once. I don’t really think it is reasonable of her



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I eat fish every day. I have to assume you two are country bumpkin midwesterners to have this attitude about it.
this is someone’s home. Not bringing stinky gross food should fall under the category of “things you shouldn’t need to be told.” I grew up near Seattle and no one who grew up near the tides eats seafood. It’s nasty.

You know we have fish in the midwest too, right?


The midwest is the only place I've ever been where it was common to reject *all* seafood.

This isn't a break room microwave situation. The nanny is preparing fresh fish. Nothing offensive about that at all, for normal people.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 10:02     Subject: Is there a nice way to bring this up?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:People on this forum are so weird and scared of their nannies! I would bring this up and not ban fish outright, but turn it into a mutual problem to solve. I did not have the same nanny for 7.5 years by ignoring things that would make having her around unbearable. If you are gagging everyday due to her meal, you have to bring it up!

Also, it is not standard to feed your nanny. I do feed our new nanny, but our old nanny had a very specific diet that it would not have made sense for us to even try to shop for. Instead we, gasp, paid her enough to afford the food she liked!


This. I can’t imagine thinking it was OK to cook fish in someone’s house every single day. I would probably feel self-conscious even doing it once. I don’t really think it is reasonable of her



+2


I eat fish every day. I have to assume you two are country bumpkin midwesterners to have this attitude about it.


You know we have fish in the midwest too, right?


The midwest is the only place I've ever been where it was common to reject *all* seafood.

This isn't a break room microwave situation. The nanny is preparing fresh fish. Nothing offensive about that at all, for normal people.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2022 15:41     Subject: Is there a nice way to bring this up?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People on this forum are so weird and scared of their nannies! I would bring this up and not ban fish outright, but turn it into a mutual problem to solve. I did not have the same nanny for 7.5 years by ignoring things that would make having her around unbearable. If you are gagging everyday due to her meal, you have to bring it up!

Also, it is not standard to feed your nanny. I do feed our new nanny, but our old nanny had a very specific diet that it would not have made sense for us to even try to shop for. Instead we, gasp, paid her enough to afford the food she liked!


This. I can’t imagine thinking it was OK to cook fish in someone’s house every single day. I would probably feel self-conscious even doing it once. I don’t really think it is reasonable of her



+2


I eat fish every day. I have to assume you two are country bumpkin midwesterners to have this attitude about it.


You know we have fish in the midwest too, right?
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2022 15:19     Subject: Is there a nice way to bring this up?
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Anonymous wrote:Let me start by saying we love our nanny, so maybe I just need to keep my mouth shut. She has only been with us for 3 months and is a very healthy eater (hope it rubs off on my kids). They problem is that she brings a piece of fish that she pan fries for lunch every single day and it really stinks up the whole house. DH and I are working from home and both really can’t stand the smell. I used to just open the windows in the kitchen since it helped a bit, but now that it’s cold that doesn’t work.

Is there any nice way to bring this up?


Why does she bring her own lunch? Of it's because you're too cheap to feed her, which you should as she can't leave house to get her lunch, then you can't ask her not to eat fish.


Nope. Nice try. It's standard for nannies to bring their lunch. Nurses do it too (and have a heck of a lot less free time to eat), teachers (also can't leave the building during lunch), construction workers, dentists, call center employees...you get it right? The only job I haven't had to bring my own food was literally in the restaurant world...of course if I wanted to eat there I had to still pay for my food. Providing a meal is for teenaged babysitters who you buy a pizza on friday night, no one else in the real world expects their employer to feed them as part of the job.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2022 21:25     Subject: Is there a nice way to bring this up?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:People on this forum are so weird and scared of their nannies! I would bring this up and not ban fish outright, but turn it into a mutual problem to solve. I did not have the same nanny for 7.5 years by ignoring things that would make having her around unbearable. If you are gagging everyday due to her meal, you have to bring it up!

Also, it is not standard to feed your nanny. I do feed our new nanny, but our old nanny had a very specific diet that it would not have made sense for us to even try to shop for. Instead we, gasp, paid her enough to afford the food she liked!


This. I can’t imagine thinking it was OK to cook fish in someone’s house every single day. I would probably feel self-conscious even doing it once. I don’t really think it is reasonable of her



+2


I eat fish every day. I have to assume you two are country bumpkin midwesterners to have this attitude about it.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2022 21:22     Subject: Re:Is there a nice way to bring this up?
Oh my word. It’s food. She’s not bringing in rotten eggs. She’s not peeing all over your house. Put out a bowl of vinegar in the kitchen during the day, and put out a bowl of activated charcoal after she leaves.