Anonymous wrote:My friend was telling me she won’t do any of the dna testing because it could help implicate her kid in a crime one day. She said she’s obviously against her kids committing crimes and would love them no matter what, but also doesn’t want to do anything to help the process to convict.

What do you think?

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/world/how-your-dna-test-could-send-a-relative-to-jail/ar-AASaSeb?li=BBnbfcL

Have not read all the posts but this sounds like an extreme rationale to me … however the US has the highest rates of incarceration in the Western world and if her son is a POC, he is at higher risk for being jailed for trivial reasons.

So your friend may be right.

The reason I have not done DNA testing for our teen daughter is privacy. She is adopted and it will need to be her choice when she is older whether or not to have relationships with biological family.

I do not post on social media with my actual identity in order to protect privacy of myself and family.

I hate to break it to you but police have always been able to frame people or implicate people in crimes. A cop could frame your kid for coke possession today if they really wanted to.

My DH won't let anyone in the family share DNA. I think he is worried about cold cases for himself.

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Anonymous wrote:The lack of understanding and appreciation of basic privacy is frankly appalling.

Meaning what?

Go ahead and turn over your genetic identity to mega corporations and the government.

Why not; what could possibly go wrong??

Our founding fathers are rolling in their graves.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend think that she is such a bad parent that she is raising criminals?

Do you seriously think no criminals come from good parents? Good parents produce drug addicts. Drug addicts commit crimes. It’s part of the disease of needing money for drugs but frequently not having any.

Mmmmm...drug addicts are created by nurture much more than nature. Think about the behavior chain. That didn't spontaneously happen. It was nurtured from the moment of birth.

I have two cousins who are drug addicts. They were adopted as infants. At least one of their parents was an addict. Their adoptive parents raised them well, taught them how to behave, etc. They experimented with drugs in high school and that was it. Their sibling was not adopted and also experimented. She is not an addict and went to graduate from college. Nature is what got them hooked.

I am sorry but the research doesn't support any of what you're saying. I appreciate that you're trying to "protect" your aunt/uncle but you need to recognize that those kids ended up experimenting with drugs because their parents were not providing the right support and structure in their household. They also weren't monitoring the kids very well. The sibling who was not adopted (raised by another family or her birth family?) got what she needed so she stayed on the right path. If your cousins had gotten what they needed they, too, would not be drug addicts today.

Says the mother of toddlers.

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend think that she is such a bad parent that she is raising criminals?

You can be a good parent and have a child who gets into trouble. Or one who is targeted by police because they are a POC and end up in “the system”.

Anonymous wrote:If your kid commits a crime, they should obviously face the consequences.

If your kid committed a crime and the kid’s lawyer met with you and said, “Please don’t turn over your cell phone without a subpoena for it,” would you turn it over?

If your kid commits a crime, they should obviously face the consequences.

Anonymous wrote:The lack of understanding and appreciation of basic privacy is frankly appalling.

Meaning what?

The lack of understanding and appreciation of basic privacy is frankly appalling.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend was telling me she won’t do any of the dna testing because it could help implicate her kid in a crime one day. She said she’s obviously against her kids committing crimes and would love them no matter what, but also doesn’t want to do anything to help the process to convict.

What do you think?

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/world/how-your-dna-test-could-send-a-relative-to-jail/ar-AASaSeb?li=BBnbfcL

Will your friends become rapists or murderers? That’s a piss poor reason to not participate. She probably has a illegitimate child out there somewhere.

You sound cray.

Anonymous wrote:My friend was telling me she won’t do any of the dna testing because it could help implicate her kid in a crime one day. She said she’s obviously against her kids committing crimes and would love them no matter what, but also doesn’t want to do anything to help the process to convict.

What do you think?

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/world/how-your-dna-test-could-send-a-relative-to-jail/ar-AASaSeb?li=BBnbfcL

Will your friends become rapists or murderers? That’s a piss poor reason to not participate. She probably has a illegitimate child out there somewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend think that she is such a bad parent that she is raising criminals?

Do you seriously think no criminals come from good parents? Good parents produce drug addicts. Drug addicts commit crimes. It’s part of the disease of needing money for drugs but frequently not having any.

Mmmmm...drug addicts are created by nurture much more than nature. Think about the behavior chain. That didn't spontaneously happen. It was nurtured from the moment of birth.

I have two cousins who are drug addicts. They were adopted as infants. At least one of their parents was an addict. Their adoptive parents raised them well, taught them how to behave, etc. They experimented with drugs in high school and that was it. Their sibling was not adopted and also experimented. She is not an addict and went to graduate from college. Nature is what got them hooked.

I am sorry but the research doesn't support any of what you're saying. I appreciate that you're trying to "protect" your aunt/uncle but you need to recognize that those kids ended up experimenting with drugs because their parents were not providing the right support and structure in their household. They also weren't monitoring the kids very well. The sibling who was not adopted (raised by another family or her birth family?) got what she needed so she stayed on the right path. If your cousins had gotten what they needed they, too, would not be drug addicts today.

You’re wrong. Just wrong. Plenty of upper class and umc kids do drugs. You’re in la lanland.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your friend think that she is such a bad parent that she is raising criminals?

Do you seriously think no criminals come from good parents? Good parents produce drug addicts. Drug addicts commit crimes. It’s part of the disease of needing money for drugs but frequently not having any.

Mmmmm...drug addicts are created by nurture much more than nature. Think about the behavior chain. That didn't spontaneously happen. It was nurtured from the moment of birth.

I have two cousins who are drug addicts. They were adopted as infants. At least one of their parents was an addict. Their adoptive parents raised them well, taught them how to behave, etc. They experimented with drugs in high school and that was it. Their sibling was not adopted and also experimented. She is not an addict and went to graduate from college. Nature is what got them hooked.

I am sorry but the research doesn't support any of what you're saying. I appreciate that you're trying to "protect" your aunt/uncle but you need to recognize that those kids ended up experimenting with drugs because their parents were not providing the right support and structure in their household. They also weren't monitoring the kids very well. The sibling who was not adopted (raised by another family or her birth family?) got what she needed so she stayed on the right path. If your cousins had gotten what they needed they, too, would not be drug addicts today.

Your kid needs to be implicated if they commit a crime! No one should be above the law! Would you want your kid to keep getting away with murder, rape etc.? Don't worry, there will be enough people in the database to lead the authorities to her kid whether or not she puts her DNA in the database.