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Anonymous wrote:You sound jealous, OP.

OP here. I totally am! I'd love to marry someone like that so I am confused when I see the kind of women they sometimes pick.

Ugh, I hate when women do this. Get jealous because the stereotypically feminine, hot woman marries a rich man. It's not fair because I'm smart and cool and not like other girls, so I deserve a man with money, too!

It's the exact same as the so-called "nice" guy who gets upset that hot women go after "Chads" or "alphas" or whatever, never realizing that THEY are the shallow one for valuing women for their looks and feeling entitled to a hot one.

I did the trophy wife thing. My mom was a trophy wife. It ain't fun. Men obsessed with money are generally awful to be with. Way happier with my current middle class H. The people obsessed with money and looks can have each other, I don't want 'em.

What are the smart and interesting but not hot women to do? They too, want the smart and educated men who tend to make good money. Its unfair that those men put prime value on beauty and looks.

Equally shallow and unfair for you to put prime value on salary.

It's fine to want someone who makes a reasonable salary, just like it's fine to want someone you're reasonably attracted to.

But when you feel entitled to the top 5% in looks/salary, but don't bring the same quality to the table, you're shallow.

It’s the “silly women” thing that gets me, as posted by another woman. Who exactly do you think you are, OP? I see so many snotty-assed women who think they’re smarter, more elite, more intellectual, when in fact they are as petty and small-minded and running-mouthed as any Friend Of on a Real Housewives franchise. How grim.

It sounds like he married someone who was fine with being a sahm or putting her career on hold for his, while taking care of everything around the house. Most men are fine with this deal.

Gee OP, I can't imagine why men don't want you - you sound like a catch!


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Anonymous wrote:If you choose a woman who is shallow and not interesting, what does that say about you? Your Mr Wonderful sounds like not a good fit for you. Maybe he is not really intellectual. Maybe he is just attracted to her. Maybe he likes having someone who doesn’t challenge his ideas. Maybe she is practical and makes their lives run smoother. Whatever the reason, even if she wasn’t around, he would not have been a good match for you.

+1

I don't understand OP's post, and like sentiment - of women who think they would be a better match for a man, just because she wants his money.

So OP, you think you are "better deserving" of this woman's life than her? Just because you think "you deserve" him, doesn't mean he would be the least bit interested in you, or that it would work out with you, OP. You can't force him to be with you. You can't make him not like her. He likes what he likes, and it is not you. Besides, he was probably with her long before he had any money - or maybe it is not his money at all. Maybe it is her family's money. Maybe he knows you are a shallow gold digger, and sees right through your feigned "interest" in him (his money).

You can reference all the boring novels you want, it doesn't make him yours.

He probably just appreciates her personality - and realizes women like you really don't have a personality, at all. You would bore him to tears. You offer him nothing.

Op, you sound very young and naive. Let this be a lesson to you that most men care about being with a woman who is physically attractive first and foremost, next someone fun and confident, not brainiacs. I suggest that you focus on you and not worry about other women’s hobbies or husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound jealous, OP.

OP here. I totally am! I'd love to marry someone like that so I am confused when I see the kind of women they sometimes pick.

Well, to start she seems opposite you, so that is surely a win.

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing special about a guy who reads books about finance, I promise you.

LOL. I work in the industry and I have to agree with you there

Anonymous wrote:Wow, OP. Are you always this judgmental and shallow?

Yes, sounds like a hater who doesn't really know this woman

Anonymous wrote:You sound jealous, OP.

And so tiresome.

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Anonymous wrote:Mrs Bennett was not as silly if you read the book carefully. She was a very practical woman, operating within the constraints of her era. Her “silliness” is representation of women’s circumstances that made them “silly”. But silly she was not.

I have a feeling you are also not looking too deep into your “friend”. Sure. There are sometimes true mismatches, but more often I find that what seems like a mismatch is actually a perfect complement.

OP here, I actually am an English major and fully understand Mrs. Bennett's situation and motivations, I was casually referencing them to make a greater point about a couple's apparent mismatch. You are correct, I do not know their private interactions or motivations. Maybe they have a lot more in common than what appears on surface.

Mr Bennett was an idiot, he liked to watch the folly of the world with detachment and without any sense of responsibility. In the end this landed his daughter in a scandal that would have destroyed their family if Mr Darcy hadn’t stepped up. The Bennetts deserved each other and likely so do this pair.

Yes, exactly!

There is nothing special about a guy who reads books about finance, I promise you.

If you choose a woman who is shallow and not interesting, what does that say about you? Your Mr Wonderful sounds like not a good fit for you. Maybe he is not really intellectual. Maybe he is just attracted to her. Maybe he likes having someone who doesn’t challenge his ideas. Maybe she is practical and makes their lives run smoother. Whatever the reason, even if she wasn’t around, he would not have been a good match for you.

Your envy is not more attractive than her interest in celebrity gossip. Should someone say, if you hopefully meet and marry a wealthy man, “I always wondered why men marry carry women?!”

Focus on yourself because her husband is not focused on you.

Anonymous wrote:It’s OK, I married a bimbo.
Someone has to.

Plenty of men like you in the outer suburbs. If you marry someone who is dumbbbb, don't be surprised if your kids are more like your wife. I've seen this again and again and the inevitable divorce by 50.