Anonymous wrote:You don’t love people because they’re beautiful, they are beautiful because you love them.

This.
I'm 40 years old, and while other men might look at me occasionally, I'm not exactly causing traffic accidents anymore. However, my husband finds me more attractive than he did when we were 25. We've been through a lot together, and we love each other. He doesn't look at me with an objective lens.

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Anonymous wrote:Take care of your body. Dress decently nice. And have a good personality. Your husband will love you. I love seeing women in their 30-40s who are in good shape and dress well.

+1. Staying fit makes a huge difference.

Oh, and I forgot to say that I agree with the previous poster that seeing a woman in her 40’s who is in shape is way more impressive than someone fit in their 20’s.

Anonymous wrote:Take care of your body. Dress decently nice. And have a good personality. Your husband will love you. I love seeing women in their 30-40s who are in good shape and dress well.

+1. Staying fit makes a huge difference.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a very easy way to keep being attractive to your DH. Women overlook the obvious

OP, if you’re still willing to sleep with him when he’s 50 he will worship the ground you walk on. Doesn’t matter what your looks or personality are at that point. Don’t forget he will be aging — have you seen any 50, 60 year old men lately?

This is true. My 48 year old wife is objectively attractive but she is totally shut down in the sex and intimacy department. Other women who are far less conventionally attractive catch my eye daily. You can't be sexually attractive to your partner without the sex part.

Anonymous wrote:As I enter my mid thirties, I worry about it my husband will continue to find me attractive and desirable as I age. How do men feel about their wives aging?

My wife is 49 and she’s objectively hot. She has definitely stayed in shape over the years. However, she cares less and less about dressing nice and mostly wears faded, baggy clothes 90% of the time. The other times, when we go out with friends, she can still turn heads.

I think much of a DH finding their wives attractive over the years relates to their wives making an effort to stay attractive and still being open to physical intimacy. Once those two things end things can go downhill quickly. It's the same for wives finding their husbands attractive.

My 59-yr-young DW works out (core power) and still has those cute dimples at the small of her back that are very triggering. Same weight as our wedding day, but stronger arms and shoulders.

My wife aging has nothing to do with my attraction for her. Her weight gain, however, I find very unattractive: but this would be true at any age.

Anonymous wrote:There is a very easy way to keep being attractive to your DH. Women overlook the obvious

OP, if you’re still willing to sleep with him when he’s 50 he will worship the ground you walk on. Doesn’t matter what your looks or personality are at that point. Don’t forget he will be aging — have you seen any 50, 60 year old men lately?

Anonymous wrote:I did but my former wife left me for her AP. Now I sleep with younger women only (20s for now, will move to 30s when I have to) and will never remarry.

Wait, are you the woman whose wife left for the nanny? If so, I would love an update. Honestly, I'm surprised you've moved on already considering how crushed you were, if it is you.

There is a very easy way to keep being attractive to your DH. Women overlook the obvious

Anonymous wrote:OP, the question is whether you going to find him attractive as he ages. Most of the women I know look fabulous going into their 50s. The men are fat and balding. Add a side of midlife attitude to that and it’s no wonder most women are no longer interested.

Please go on.

OP, the question is whether you going to find him attractive as he ages. Most of the women I know look fabulous going into their 50s. The men are fat and balding. Add a side of midlife attitude to that and it’s no wonder most women are no longer interested.

My DW is doing a full power slide into menopause with a side of turning 50; she’s a bit more uppity than she used to be but honestly my eyes still see the 24 year old girl that helped me forge a W2 for our first apartment.

Take care of your body. Dress decently nice. And have a good personality. Your husband will love you. I love seeing women in their 30-40s who are in good shape and dress well.