Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 20:26     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Op, it's unimportant. If she's a close-enough friend that you have her over for Thanksgiving, this only make you look bad ... that you give this much thought. Whatever.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 20:21     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:Etiquette is that she takes her food back, and you are to ask if you can keep some.

Where were you people raised?


Wrong! Serious question - where were YOU raised? I was raised in a wealthy New England town where manners are important. I have literally never had someone take their food back. And since we are now in the South - it is spelled out very clearly for you tacky people in this post.

https://www.southernliving.com/culture/leftovers-etiquette
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 20:10     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Etiquette is that she takes her food back, and you are to ask if you can keep some.

Where were you people raised?
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 19:25     Subject: Re:Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:I would have expected her to take it all home.


Me too. Usually people ask.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 18:47     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Most hosts don't want the leftovers, usually they ask everyone to take their stuff home with them, at least with my family and friends.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 18:38     Subject: Re:Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
I have never had a guest do this and I would certainly not do it as a guest. Only circumstance in which I would is if the host asked me to.

To go into someone’s freezer for ice cream leftovers is strange.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 18:27     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:We hosted some friends for dinner last night. We provided the meal, one friend offered to bring a dessert. At the end of the night, she gathered up the rest of the apple pie plus the ice cream from our freezer and took it home with her. I found it so strange and it’s definitely something I would never do myself—I always leave the host with the leftovers of whatever I brought, unless they offer I take it home.


No. You do not take it home. How gauche.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 18:25     Subject: Re:Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
I would have expected her to take it all home.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 18:24     Subject: Re:Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Bad form ….

The only,good part is that it is nice when family and friends feel comfortable in your home …. But that was expressed with very poor manners.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 17:12     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
My DH had a friend in law school who brought a box of crackers over to his place when invited for drinks, then took it back with him when he went home. We still refer to him as “Crackers.”
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 16:44     Subject: Re:Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
With a big meal where others have contributed, I often suggest that they take home "their" leftovers because I usually don't have a ton of room in the fridge if I just made a bunch of food. But it's definitely impolite if you didn't specifically suggest she take it.

That said, I don't really let etiquette stuff like that bother me...I just assume people don't know better.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 16:37     Subject: Re:Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
I have a friend who does this, takes hike the leftover things that she brings over and also always requests repayment for half a meal when she pays even though I would never request she pay me back when I pay. I do think it is weird and maybe even rude, but I think she comes from a background where there wasn’t much extra and just roll with it. It’s not an actual problem unless you let it bother you.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 16:30     Subject: Re:Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We once had friends over and cooked out steaks on the grill with all of the steakhouse-type sides. They brought beer to have in addition to our wine. I was surprised when they took their unopened beers back home with them. We always leave everything with the host and I make sure to bring anything in disposable dishes to leave behind.


My BIL takes home wine he brings, even when it's opened. I was shocked at first, but now expect it. I do as you do.


BIL is cheap AF.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 16:09     Subject: Re:Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:We once had friends over and cooked out steaks on the grill with all of the steakhouse-type sides. They brought beer to have in addition to our wine. I was surprised when they took their unopened beers back home with them. We always leave everything with the host and I make sure to bring anything in disposable dishes to leave behind.


My BIL takes home wine he brings, even when it's opened. I was shocked at first, but now expect it. I do as you do.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 15:59     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Maybe someone in your family told her to take the ice cream with her pie.