Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 20:00     Subject: Re:Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
I would say the most insecure man with the smallest package I was ever with was the most insecure. I ended up with a pretty “manly” man…a man of few words who will throw down for me if needed and changes my oil for me etc. not jealous at all.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 19:35     Subject: Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Anonymous wrote:From the other side, it’s pretty satisfying to have your ex eye fu** you over drinks and only remember she’s married when you have her husband pay your bar tab.


right? And have him grovelling to get your approval. Now THAT is a power position to be in. lol
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 19:34     Subject: Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Yes!
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 10:06     Subject: Re:Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a pretty alpha man. He gets jealous, and I like it.

He doesn’t tell me not to talk to other men or get angry if someone is flirting with me, but he will walk up and put his arm around me if he sees me talking to another man. I think in the OP of the other thread, her husband asked the old boyfriend to get a beer. I could see my husband doing that, but his arm would be around me the whole time, and if we all went out together, he would sit right next to me and make it obvious that we are a couple.


Your husband sounds incredibly insecure. Do you have a promiscuous history that would lead him to act like that?


You see it as insecure. I see it as romantic.
If you interpret your husband’s actions as insecure or assume he thinks you are promiscuous whenever he puts his arm around you in public or sits next to you when you go out to dinner, is there a way that your husband can be near you without you seeing him as weak or critical of you? No wonder half of the people on this forum aren’t having sex.


NP- the arm around you thing would bother me. Mostly because I see this behavior as he is clearly "marking" you as 'his." I am no one's but my own. I'm not property to be marked. In a similar situation, my husband has whispered to me, "Sure I'll be nice to that guy. He can come around and flirt with you and make you smile, but you are going home with me." It was less obvious and still made me feel wanted without needing to physically mark me as "his."


Pp here. That seems a lot more obvious to me, and the whispering thing would kind of creep me out. I think that lot of my DH’s behavior is largely unconscious. I would never say anything to him about it, but I like it when he does it.

Are you never ok with your husband touching you in public? Do you always feel “marked?”
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 09:11     Subject: Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Anonymous wrote:My alpha DH is never jealous. I thought that was the characters of an alpha…confident etc


exactly. the incels on the other thread, on reddit, really have zero understanding of the term and what it means.

many women too don't know what it means either, but PP (who I am assuming is a woman) get it. true confidence =/= the jealous type.

false confidence (braggadocio), overtly behaving in a way the says saying "I'm alpha is not real confidence.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 09:06     Subject: Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Anonymous wrote:No, jealousy is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Jealous men may as well be women.

+1
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 09:02     Subject: Re:Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Anonymous wrote:I’ve realized that what I thought was “alpha man” is not what men think is “alpha man.” I thought the alpha man was strong, kind of stoic, and cool headed. But actually it’s a preening baby. That’s why they picked Trump.


White women did, too.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 08:59     Subject: Re:Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
I’ve realized that what I thought was “alpha man” is not what men think is “alpha man.” I thought the alpha man was strong, kind of stoic, and cool headed. But actually it’s a preening baby. That’s why they picked Trump.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 08:56     Subject: Re:Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a pretty alpha man. He gets jealous, and I like it.

He doesn’t tell me not to talk to other men or get angry if someone is flirting with me, but he will walk up and put his arm around me if he sees me talking to another man. I think in the OP of the other thread, her husband asked the old boyfriend to get a beer. I could see my husband doing that, but his arm would be around me the whole time, and if we all went out together, he would sit right next to me and make it obvious that we are a couple.


Your husband sounds incredibly insecure. Do you have a promiscuous history that would lead him to act like that?


You see it as insecure. I see it as romantic.
If you interpret your husband’s actions as insecure or assume he thinks you are promiscuous whenever he puts his arm around you in public or sits next to you when you go out to dinner, is there a way that your husband can be near you without you seeing him as weak or critical of you? No wonder half of the people on this forum aren’t having sex.


NP- the arm around you thing would bother me. Mostly because I see this behavior as he is clearly "marking" you as 'his." I am no one's but my own. I'm not property to be marked. In a similar situation, my husband has whispered to me, "Sure I'll be nice to that guy. He can come around and flirt with you and make you smile, but you are going home with me." It was less obvious and still made me feel wanted without needing to physically mark me as "his."
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 08:51     Subject: Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
I consider an "alpha" to be quietly confident. Jealousy is insecurity.... insecurity is a weakness.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 08:49     Subject: Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
From the other side, it’s pretty satisfying to have your ex eye fu** you over drinks and only remember she’s married when you have her husband pay your bar tab.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 08:43     Subject: Re:Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Anonymous wrote:dmv is land of the beta male.


+1
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 07:16     Subject: Re:Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
dmv is land of the beta male.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2021 00:48     Subject: Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am totally secure in my relationship with my attractive wife. I have no fears of her running off with some other guy, or even cheating on me. I'm not about to show any jealous behavior around other clumsy guys, or even former lovers of hers. Guys that are inappropriate are a different story and I will put them in their place, as diplomatically as possible depending on the situation. I get a kick out of seeing a guy trying to get a good look at her, while not being too obvious (he always is) with me. Hey, that is guy is jealous of me. I have her, he doesn't. I'm sure he's thinking, why the hell is SHE with THAT GUY. I'm sure as hell not going to get jealous over any man who is delusional enough to think he has a shot.


ETA, I could see myself buying her former lover a beer, after being introduced. That's Beta behavior? No, Beta behavior is feeling threatened by that guy, or any man, and thinking you show your manliness by puffing out your insecure chest and making a scene, or taking it our on her later. The PP poster is right. A true Alpha man never even uses that word. It's ridiculous. I'll be the one laughing with her about that guy later on, or even asking about their relationship if I'm curious.


You and your wife both sound kind of mean. I’m glad you found each other.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2021 23:51     Subject: Re:Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a pretty alpha man. He gets jealous, and I like it.

He doesn’t tell me not to talk to other men or get angry if someone is flirting with me, but he will walk up and put his arm around me if he sees me talking to another man. I think in the OP of the other thread, her husband asked the old boyfriend to get a beer. I could see my husband doing that, but his arm would be around me the whole time, and if we all went out together, he would sit right next to me and make it obvious that we are a couple.


Your husband sounds incredibly insecure. Do you have a promiscuous history that would lead him to act like that?


You see it as insecure. I see it as romantic.
If you interpret your husband’s actions as insecure or assume he thinks you are promiscuous whenever he puts his arm around you in public or sits next to you when you go out to dinner, is there a way that your husband can be near you without you seeing him as weak or critical of you? No wonder half of the people on this forum aren’t having sex.