Anonymous wrote:I’d rather be the person who makes the call because then I control the timing and can make it convenient for me. And I do find it intrusive for people to call when I’m in the middle of something or to have the task of having to call back over my head if I missed the call. Don’t understand your complaint, OP.

You really don’t understand why it’s annoying to hear “We miss you/we thought the grandkids would forget us/you don’t call enough” when the people saying those things literally NEVER call? You really don’t understand that the phone rings both ways, so if you miss someone and want to talk to them, you can pick up the phone and call them instead of whining about it and being passive aggressive?

Interesting. So you don’t see how it’s ironic that the people who are whining about someone “never calling” are themselves actually guilty of NEVER calling? I don’t see what’s hard to grasp here.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they were trying to be funny. My parents say weird things like this and I think they think they are being clever or cute. Its like they're just not capable of saying we miss you or we want to know how you and the kids are doing.

This. Also my MIL does the same thing. We always have to initiate. Just how it is.