Get a plush toy replica. Rehome his dog and replace with the plush toy. See how long it takes him to notice.

Anonymous wrote:Your husband either 1 - does the work himself, 2- pays for outsourcing, is 3- rehomes the dog.
He has until next week to make a decision and after that one will be made for him.

OP, this comment sums everything up into one reasonable plan. I’m an NP, but repeating it in case you missed it. Do this!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you dog proof one room (ours is the kitchen)? That’s where doggie sits most of the day, or wanders over to our work area. Anything not dog proofed is gated off.
Fenced yard would also be perfect- we have a tiny townhouse backyard but it’s fenced and dog loves to go out, lie in the sun, dig, etc and then come back in.

Fenced yard is not perfect if the dog barks.
Signed,
Neighbor of fenced dog.

Yes that is true. Pp here. My dog doesn’t bark unless she wants to come back in (we work on that floor so don’t let her keep Barking)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, your thread has brought out the dog crazies. People, it is a dog and not a child. Calm down. If you have nothing constructive to say please be quiet.

That being said, I think the suggestion to really talk to DH and question whether he would be ok telling people the dog is crated 24/7. This is not a life for a dog but the good news is the dog is young and could easily be rehomed. Can you find a really great family to rehome the dog with so DH would feel more ok with it?

NO! This is abusive behavior. OP needs her eyes opened—this is not the time to be “constructive”.

OP literally came here and acknowledged it in her post. She doesn’t “need her eyes opened”.

And yet she’s dithering here on the internet while her dog lies in his crate.

Anonymous wrote:I would drop the dog off at a farm.

That is a horrible suggestion if you’re being literal. If you meant that you would take the dog to a no kill shelter and then feed your husband the old “our dog went to live on a big farm with a nice family and lots of animal friends” story (wink, wink), then yes, OP should do that.

Anonymous wrote:I would drop the dog off at a farm.

DO NOT DO THIS, this is the dumbest cruelest idea yet.

As a farmer, that is a ticket to certain death. I have no idea why some people think it's acceptable to dump their dogs and cats "at a farm" but we get a lot of dumps. Those animals will usually succumb to the elements/disease or get eaten by a coyote (DH has put down several dogs that were dumped here that were caught chasing calves; and yes it is legal to shoot dogs chasing livestock). The latest one was someone who left a kennel by the side of the road, opened the crate door and left. Neighbor and i found it - inside was a tin of water and some food. We left it for a few days hoping whatever was in it would come back so we could get AC out to pick it up, but nothing ever showed up. Whatever it was was probably a meal for fox or coyotes. Farms have their own animals, we don't want any of your cast off problems. Do the adult thing and take it to a shelter, find a rescue, or rehome it.

Anonymous wrote:Can you dog proof one room (ours is the kitchen)? That’s where doggie sits most of the day, or wanders over to our work area. Anything not dog proofed is gated off.
Fenced yard would also be perfect- we have a tiny townhouse backyard but it’s fenced and dog loves to go out, lie in the sun, dig, etc and then come back in.

Fenced yard is not perfect if the dog barks.
Signed,
Neighbor of fenced dog.

I would drop the dog off at a farm.

You and your husband are equally at fault for neglecting the dog. Sit down with him and give him the come to Jesus talk. You either BOTH step up to take better care of this dog finding real solutions to raise him properly, or you rehome. Who cares if it leads to a fight? You owe it to the dog to fight for him. And yes, in this case, I’d absolutely go behind DH’s back to find a rescue group if he refuses to step up. Be an adult…hell, please try being a decent human being…and take care of this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, your thread has brought out the dog crazies. People, it is a dog and not a child. Calm down. If you have nothing constructive to say please be quiet.

That being said, I think the suggestion to really talk to DH and question whether he would be ok telling people the dog is crated 24/7. This is not a life for a dog but the good news is the dog is young and could easily be rehomed. Can you find a really great family to rehome the dog with so DH would feel more ok with it?

NO! This is abusive behavior. OP needs her eyes opened—this is not the time to be “constructive”.

OP literally came here and acknowledged it in her post. She doesn’t “need her eyes opened”.

Anonymous wrote:Op, your thread has brought out the dog crazies. People, it is a dog and not a child. Calm down. If you have nothing constructive to say please be quiet.

That being said, I think the suggestion to really talk to DH and question whether he would be ok telling people the dog is crated 24/7. This is not a life for a dog but the good news is the dog is young and could easily be rehomed. Can you find a really great family to rehome the dog with so DH would feel more ok with it?

NO! This is abusive behavior. OP needs her eyes opened—this is not the time to be “constructive”.

This is animal abuse. If I knew you, I would report you to the ASPCA. Surrender the dog to a rescue group. You are doing irreparable damage to that poor dog.

Op, your thread has brought out the dog crazies. People, it is a dog and not a child. Calm down. If you have nothing constructive to say please be quiet.

That being said, I think the suggestion to really talk to DH and question whether he would be ok telling people the dog is crated 24/7. This is not a life for a dog but the good news is the dog is young and could easily be rehomed. Can you find a really great family to rehome the dog with so DH would feel more ok with it?

Anonymous wrote:I actually question why OP keeps having kids? Seriously the dog is not a issue. I am being brutal but honest. I always see situations where one spouse is constantly trying to get rid of a dog they never wanted. FYI you are teaching your kids that things are disposable. Get it together. Your dog is in the teen phase. The fenced in yard will help but going for a walk is a good thing for everyone so do it. We work from home and our dog goes out on our breaks with whatever kid is around.

Serious question - why should she be the one to do this and not her husband? He gets a pass because he has a penis?

Anonymous wrote:I actually question why OP keeps having kids? Seriously the dog is not a issue. I am being brutal but honest. I always see situations where one spouse is constantly trying to get rid of a dog they never wanted. FYI you are teaching your kids that things are disposable. Get it together. Your dog is in the teen phase. The fenced in yard will help but going for a walk is a good thing for everyone so do it. We work from home and our dog goes out on our breaks with whatever kid is around.

Man I have a completely different read on the situation. To me I see a husband who got a dog she didn’t want and then pushed the work to her. She is the only responsible one here.