OP. I did drive the babysitter home. Her parents are our friends and neighbors and it was dark/cold enough I wouldn’t have wanted to walk. I have not the slightest concern about DH in this regard, but I also thought this was a norm and I think it’s important to follow norms regardless. Then I second guessed whether it was a norm!

Anonymous wrote:Also funny that everyone assumes the sitter is a girl. When my boys were younger we had a male babysitter that they adored and my 12 year old boy is starting to work as a mom/dad helper and is looking forward to babysitting when he’s a little older.

I'd never hire a boy sitter. You'd have to be insane.

I am hesitant to allow my daughters to spend the night at homes with older brothers. Do you have any idea how many grown women I know that were molested by a friend's older brother or father?

Anonymous wrote:Did any former babysitters have any incidents with Dad?

Not me

Anonymous wrote:I usually try to find walking distance or driving babysitters.

Thought not because my husband couldn't drive one home - just easier this way.

I usually try to find walking distance or driving babysitters.

Anonymous wrote:Dad does but always runs into late night traffic somehow

Highly sus

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Anonymous wrote:When I was the babysitter, it was always dad. Never had an issue and I find this discussion depressing.

+1 why are people so paranoid?

The concern on our part is that we wouldn’t ever want the girl to fee the slightest bit uncomfortable which young girls can in the presence of a grown man no matter how nice but also to protect my husband from allegations that something untoward took place.

Our babysitter started with us when she was 17 and drove herself.

Yes, it’s a sad world where a man can’t drive a young woman home but it’s the reality.

Anonymous wrote:Also funny that everyone assumes the sitter is a girl. When my boys were younger we had a male babysitter that they adored and my 12 year old boy is starting to work as a mom/dad helper and is looking forward to babysitting when he’s a little older.

I thought that was interesting too. I have a daughter and a son and their favorite babysitter was always a teen boy from the neighborhood that we met through a local camp. My husband always drove him home.

Anonymous wrote:Always the mom.

I've babysat and had the dad drive me home ( this was the 80;s) and nothing happened!

Anonymous wrote:Uber/Lyft

But doesn't that eat into the kids profits from baby sitting? I usually drive my teenage sitter home. It's a reflection of the times we live in.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a sitter within walking distance. If we are going out ion a (rare) date we want to have a couple of glasses of wine.

Yep. I am a lightweight who won't drive even after 1 glass, it just doesn't feel safe.

Wrong. Not going to let a teenage girl walk home alone at night, unless it’s under five houses away.

Anonymous wrote:Also funny that everyone assumes the sitter is a girl. When my boys were younger we had a male babysitter that they adored and my 12 year old boy is starting to work as a mom/dad helper and is looking forward to babysitting when he’s a little older.

Not really. Most sitters are in fact girls. I wouldn’t hire a male sitter ever, personally.

When my daughter babysits for other kids, we always drive her home. She is usually babysitting in the evening for a couples who have gone out to dinner. I assume, correctly or incorrectly, that both of them may have been drinking. Especially now that people go out and just Uber home if they are going to have a few glasses of wine. I want my daughter to understand that under no circumstances can she ever get into a car with anyone who has been drinking so we make a point to pick her up. It’s not a big deal and it also lets the couple she is babysitting for not have to worry about it. Win-win when

Also funny that everyone assumes the sitter is a girl. When my boys were younger we had a male babysitter that they adored and my 12 year old boy is starting to work as a mom/dad helper and is looking forward to babysitting when he’s a little older.