Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would give a Trump a bj for a million dollars. And I'm a MWM.

What’s that?

Middle-aged white man?

Anonymous wrote:Let’s say you found out that a guy who is interested in you had $1 million, say a paid-off $500,000 condo and $500,000 in savings. How much more likely are you to accept his advances (say on a scale of 1 to 5, with 1 being no change and 5 being very likely)? How old are you? The question is geared more towards younger women but for older women, the dollar amount could be adjusted to say $2 million.

I don't usually get into financial discussions with some guy who wants to meet up for dinner or something. Who does that?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 50 so if a guy hasn’t amassed 1-2m by this age it tells me he isn’t that financially responsible. But also it’s helpful to know he isn’t going to need my money either. So it’s not a criterion but I would have reservations about someone who wasn’t there yet.

DCUM is a privileged bubble. Median income for 45-54 year olds in the US is $168,000, yet this pp thinks someone without five-ten times that amount is "irresponsible"!!

I think you got your statistics wrong.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 50 so if a guy hasn’t amassed 1-2m by this age it tells me he isn’t that financially responsible. But also it’s helpful to know he isn’t going to need my money either. So it’s not a criterion but I would have reservations about someone who wasn’t there yet.

DCUM is a privileged bubble. Median income for 45-54 year olds in the US is $168,000, yet this pp thinks someone without five-ten times that amount is "irresponsible"!!

Anonymous wrote:I would give a Trump a bj for a million dollars. And I'm a MWM.

I would need at least 10 million to even consider that.

No difference, especially without other context. One million isn’t that much especially for someone mid-to-older in the DMV.
I wouldn’t care so much as a 25 year old if a 25 year old I was dating had much money at all. Work ethic and other values matter more.
If I was a 50 year old dating other 50 year olds, I might look askance at someone who didn’t have money or home equity.
I’m a single 43 year old mom. I’ve never had a high salary but by consistently saving and owning a home, I have planned for my future and I will get to these numbers within a few years. And I definitely would not be impressed with someone who felt the need to talk about things like this on the first few dates.

I'm worth almost 2 million myself at 41, so I don't really care what the guy has as long as he can take care of himself and he has some extra to have fun with me.

What about literally everything else? Personality, relationships with friends and family, value system, goals in life, etc? It's fine to take financial circumstances into consideration but they should never be the defining factor unless you are merely looking for a man to provide you a certain lifestyle and status.

I lost interest in a date because he was so proud of himself. Every conversation was like a job interview. Everything he had was better. He needed to be adored

Anonymous wrote:I would give a Trump a bj for a million dollars. And I'm a MWM.

What’s that?

Anonymous wrote:Cash on hand doesn't matter. What matters is money sense. Of course if somebody is 30 and has no cash on hand that's a red flag, but what matters in a relationship is being on the same page with spending, saving, and how much time you want to devote to a career. It's actually not that hard to blow a million dollars in a year if you start comparing yourself to millionaires. I'd way rather date somebody who was renting, had a stable job, and had a solid plan for retirement. And who valued relationships over career.

+1. 1 million is not a lot of money. I'd say most white collar professionals have at least 1 million in assets by their 40s even if they started in debt. So without debt, you'd have that in your 30s.

Even if you are a straight gold digger $1m doesn’t really matter compared to education, career, earning potential and spending.

I would give a Trump a bj for a million dollars. And I'm a MWM.

Anonymous wrote:Cash on hand doesn't matter. What matters is money sense. Of course if somebody is 30 and has no cash on hand that's a red flag, but what matters in a relationship is being on the same page with spending, saving, and how much time you want to devote to a career. It's actually not that hard to blow a million dollars in a year if you start comparing yourself to millionaires. I'd way rather date somebody who was renting, had a stable job, and had a solid plan for retirement. And who valued relationships over career.

+1 When DH and I got married we didn't have much to speak of but both had good jobs and decent money habits. Put that together and you can get somewhere pretty quickly.

When trying to find a partner you shouldn't be looking for your ship to come in, you should be looking for someone who will row in the same direction as you.

Back in my dating days it was basically like a check box - is or is not financially responsible. Someone in that situation would probably land in the “is” category.