I can’t believe people are giving OP diet advice. This truly is a hellsite.

OP, worse than his rudeness is his inability to take responsibility for hurting you and blaming it on your “sensitivity”. He cares more about his ego than your feelings. That’s a problem.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No the joke was stupid and not acceptable.

The better thing is for him to say you are big and then help you achieve your goals.

However have you made it your number 2 goal (behind your kids) to get fit?
Are you getting proper sleep, eating healthy, working out 2x a day?
Has your husband talked to you about what he can do to help/support the above?

Instead of jokes, he needs to find constructive ways to make you stop eating so much and get in shape.

To put it bluntly, you are eating your way to an early death. You’ll leave your kids motherless if you don’t do something about your obesity.

This is simply a matter of health. If your husband won’t make you reduce your food intake, you’ll just have to take personal responsibility and do the right thing for your children.

Sorry if the truth is harsh, but you are an adult and you have kids. Live for them.

It is inappropriate for an adult to manage another adult's eating habits. It is not the husband's job to make op "stop eating so much". You do not make another person stop eating. This is horrible advice.

It is virtually impossible for OP to exercise her way out of morbid obesity. That leaves essentially 2 options:

- eat less, or

- gastric ban surgery, which will force OP to eat less.

Ugh! WHY does everyone not get it? EAT LESS!

There is no magic pill. There is no “miracle diet.”

And yes - you will die a much earlier death if you ignore your morbid obesity.

But PP - you are right; you’re right. It’s entirely OP’s choice and not up to her husband; he should butt out.

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Please point out where OP said anything about “morbid obesity,” which has a clinical definition unrelated to your opinion of what it should be.

Hint: “my belly touched the countertop” does not meet the criteria.

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Anonymous wrote:No the joke was stupid and not acceptable.

The better thing is for him to say you are big and then help you achieve your goals.

However have you made it your number 2 goal (behind your kids) to get fit?
Are you getting proper sleep, eating healthy, working out 2x a day?
Has your husband talked to you about what he can do to help/support the above?

Instead of jokes, he needs to find constructive ways to make you stop eating so much and get in shape.

To put it bluntly, you are eating your way to an early death. You’ll leave your kids motherless if you don’t do something about your obesity.

This is simply a matter of health. If your husband won’t make you reduce your food intake, you’ll just have to take personal responsibility and do the right thing for your children.

Sorry if the truth is harsh, but you are an adult and you have kids. Live for them.

Anonymous wrote:No the joke was stupid and not acceptable.

The better thing is for him to say you are big and then help you achieve your goals.

However have you made it your number 2 goal (behind your kids) to get fit?
Are you getting proper sleep, eating healthy, working out 2x a day?
Has your husband talked to you about what he can do to help/support the above?

HAHA absolutely not. The “better thing for him to do” is keep his rude trap shut about other people’s bodies.

I gained a lot of weight from a medical condition that made it hard to lose for years. Once I finally got the condition under control, I went on a strict diet. Working out was tough at my weight, but I did a lot of walking. I started off slowly and was able to pick up the pace and go longer as I started losing weight. Swimming also helps because it puts less weight on your joints but you can still move around. There are also workouts now for obese people. As I lost weight, I started doing more cardio and strength training.

As for diet, I cut unnecessary calories from my diet. I don’t drink coffee but I drank a lot of pop. I cut pop and went with water ( you can also do flavored water to keep it interesting). I focused on eating a whole foods diet. Lean protein, fruits, veggies, complex carbs, and healthy fats. I switched up produce depending on what was in season and on sale. I made sure to eat the “ hunger crushing combo” or protein, fat, and fiber for every meal. I ate 5 times a day with three meals and two snacks. I calorie counted using an app. I lost 80lbs in 6 months. I also had a friend doing the same and she lost 120lbs in a year.

You can do it. Clean out the junk food, make a plan, and hold yourself accountable. Don’t let kids or cooking for family be an excuse. Either cook healthier for everyone, or have your husband take over cooking. You have to be dedicated.

Op do a whole 30 or join sharny and Julius fit mom. You can lose weight but not by eating whatever you want.

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations genius. You figured out how to lose weight. Just eat less. If it was that easy then everyone would be at a healthy weight. Over 50% of America is overweight. The formula is simple, but far from easy.

Our bodies evolved to keep weight on to survive. By eating less, you are working against thousands of years of evolution. People don’t generally eat less, because it sucks living in perpetual hunger. Also, decision fatigue. People make better choices in the morning. By the end of the day, after making good food choices many times, they break down and make the choice that is easiest and brings comfort.

Eating certain foods releases hormones that make one feel good. It can be an addiction. It’s fighting against that feeling when the drug (unhealthy food) is always easily available.

Stop shaming OP for not losing weight. It’s a struggle for most.

It is not easy, but there are effective strategies to overcome the issues related to hunger (eat high protein high fiber meals regularly) and decision fatigue (have a plan and allocate more calories to the evening). It is mostly a question of educating yourself and finding a reason to commit to a lifestyle change. But everyone can do it. Finding one million excuses of why it is not possible is much easier though.

Congratulations genius. You figured out how to lose weight. Just eat less. If it was that easy then everyone would be at a healthy weight. Over 50% of America is overweight. The formula is simple, but far from easy.

Our bodies evolved to keep weight on to survive. By eating less, you are working against thousands of years of evolution. People don’t generally eat less, because it sucks living in perpetual hunger. Also, decision fatigue. People make better choices in the morning. By the end of the day, after making good food choices many times, they break down and make the choice that is easiest and brings comfort.

Eating certain foods releases hormones that make one feel good. It can be an addiction. It’s fighting against that feeling when the drug (unhealthy food) is always easily available.

Stop shaming OP for not losing weight. It’s a struggle for most.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No the joke was stupid and not acceptable.

The better thing is for him to say you are big and then help you achieve your goals.

However have you made it your number 2 goal (behind your kids) to get fit?
Are you getting proper sleep, eating healthy, working out 2x a day?
Has your husband talked to you about what he can do to help/support the above?

Instead of jokes, he needs to find constructive ways to make you stop eating so much and get in shape.

To put it bluntly, you are eating your way to an early death. You’ll leave your kids motherless if you don’t do something about your obesity.

This is simply a matter of health. If your husband won’t make you reduce your food intake, you’ll just have to take personal responsibility and do the right thing for your children.

Sorry if the truth is harsh, but you are an adult and you have kids. Live for them.

It is inappropriate for an adult to manage another adult's eating habits. It is not the husband's job to make op "stop eating so much". You do not make another person stop eating. This is horrible advice.

It is virtually impossible for OP to exercise her way out of morbid obesity. That leaves essentially 2 options:

- eat less, or

- gastric ban surgery, which will force OP to eat less.

Ugh! WHY does everyone not get it? EAT LESS!

There is no magic pill. There is no “miracle diet.”

And yes - you will die a much earlier death if you ignore your morbid obesity.

But PP - you are right; you’re right. It’s entirely OP’s choice and not up to her husband; he should butt out.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No the joke was stupid and not acceptable.

The better thing is for him to say you are big and then help you achieve your goals.

However have you made it your number 2 goal (behind your kids) to get fit?
Are you getting proper sleep, eating healthy, working out 2x a day?
Has your husband talked to you about what he can do to help/support the above?

Instead of jokes, he needs to find constructive ways to make you stop eating so much and get in shape.

To put it bluntly, you are eating your way to an early death. You’ll leave your kids motherless if you don’t do something about your obesity.

This is simply a matter of health. If your husband won’t make you reduce your food intake, you’ll just have to take personal responsibility and do the right thing for your children.

Sorry if the truth is harsh, but you are an adult and you have kids. Live for them.

Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Sensitive crowd. I find that actually pretty funny.

+1.

It’s not funny unless everybody is laughing. I teach my kids not to make jokes at the expense of others. Just because a joke is clever doesn’t mean it’s okay.

If OP’s husband was fat and they both were comfortable about their bodies it would be different. Context matters.

My husband would never do this. And I have gained weight since we got married.

Anonymous wrote:Sensitive crowd. I find that actually pretty funny.

+1.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No the joke was stupid and not acceptable.

The better thing is for him to say you are big and then help you achieve your goals.

However have you made it your number 2 goal (behind your kids) to get fit?
Are you getting proper sleep, eating healthy, working out 2x a day?
Has your husband talked to you about what he can do to help/support the above?

Instead of jokes, he needs to find constructive ways to make you stop eating so much and get in shape.

To put it bluntly, you are eating your way to an early death. You’ll leave your kids motherless if you don’t do something about your obesity.

This is simply a matter of health. If your husband won’t make you reduce your food intake, you’ll just have to take personal responsibility and do the right thing for your children.

Sorry if the truth is harsh, but you are an adult and you have kids. Live for them.

It is inappropriate for an adult to manage another adult's eating habits. It is not the husband's job to make op "stop eating so much". You do not make another person stop eating. This is horrible advice.

Anonymous wrote:That fact that you are contemplating leaving over a joke seems to indicate something about you.

You are clueless.