Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:45     Subject: Re:Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, in your place I would worry about your potential for abuse. I wonder if this guy is a narcissist, his wife a victim who has not seen the light but would love to have your company there. The husband must see some potential in you to serve his needs. I wonder if he has detected your weak spots. He is offering that you get to have your own child. Is this what makes this worth it? What will you do, write up a contract? Suppose you get pregnant. How do you protect that child in this situation?



These are valid points. But why do you assume the woman is a victim? How do you know it wasn't the woman pushing for this?


Societal norms and experience. I can't know. It's not an assumption but a worry. Could a situation like this work? Sure! But who is generally seeking this. Not necessarily healthy people. More likely exploitative people.



But how many of these people do you actually know?
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:44     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No better way to find out than talk to the fundamentalist Mormons. I think they could talk to you about the lifestyle without dwelling on religion if you can get them to talk to you at all. Sometimes I think I want a sister wife, but really I just want a full time housekeeper and full time nanny. I can’t imagine sharing a husband or living a life that is so abnormal. I think it’d be extremely hard on the kids, especially as they get older, unless you live in a polygamist community.


What would be hard on the kids? Be specific. Lots of definitive statements with zero evidence to back it up.


DP. Everyone has the sister wife fantasy. Basically an au pair you don’t have to take care of. I’m beginning to think I might want a brother husband though… especially if both cook. If I was in love with both, all the better. I can multitask.


I could get with a different husband for different purposes.


PP here. I would place an ad, except I can think of zero guys to whom this would appeal



I can think of 3-5 categories, but true I don't know of any guys who would go for it.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:40     Subject: Re:Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, in your place I would worry about your potential for abuse. I wonder if this guy is a narcissist, his wife a victim who has not seen the light but would love to have your company there. The husband must see some potential in you to serve his needs. I wonder if he has detected your weak spots. He is offering that you get to have your own child. Is this what makes this worth it? What will you do, write up a contract? Suppose you get pregnant. How do you protect that child in this situation?



These are valid points. But why do you assume the woman is a victim? How do you know it wasn't the woman pushing for this?


Societal norms and experience. I can't know. It's not an assumption but a worry. Could a situation like this work? Sure! But who is generally seeking this. Not necessarily healthy people. More likely exploitative people.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:36     Subject: Re:Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
If you want that, trust the people involved and have a strong relationship, go for it.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:33     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No better way to find out than talk to the fundamentalist Mormons. I think they could talk to you about the lifestyle without dwelling on religion if you can get them to talk to you at all. Sometimes I think I want a sister wife, but really I just want a full time housekeeper and full time nanny. I can’t imagine sharing a husband or living a life that is so abnormal. I think it’d be extremely hard on the kids, especially as they get older, unless you live in a polygamist community.


What would be hard on the kids? Be specific. Lots of definitive statements with zero evidence to back it up.


DP. Everyone has the sister wife fantasy. Basically an au pair you don’t have to take care of. I’m beginning to think I might want a brother husband though… especially if both cook. If I was in love with both, all the better. I can multitask.


I could get with a different husband for different purposes.


PP here. I would place an ad, except I can think of zero guys to whom this would appeal
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:30     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the people. Do I love and trust them and have an interest in building our lives together? Or have I met them on Craigslist as I was searching for a date?

The former? In a heartbeat with the right paperwork and agreed upon boundaries. The latter? Batshit.



I suppose this is reasonable, but at the same time many people have met their spouse on craigslist including people who have kids from previous relationships, so long as proper vetting takes place not so sure how you meet matters.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:30     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Bless your little heart, you poor thing.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:29     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No better way to find out than talk to the fundamentalist Mormons. I think they could talk to you about the lifestyle without dwelling on religion if you can get them to talk to you at all. Sometimes I think I want a sister wife, but really I just want a full time housekeeper and full time nanny. I can’t imagine sharing a husband or living a life that is so abnormal. I think it’d be extremely hard on the kids, especially as they get older, unless you live in a polygamist community.


What would be hard on the kids? Be specific. Lots of definitive statements with zero evidence to back it up.


DP. Everyone has the sister wife fantasy. Basically an au pair you don’t have to take care of. I’m beginning to think I might want a brother husband though… especially if both cook. If I was in love with both, all the better. I can multitask.


I could get with a different husband for different purposes.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:28     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No better way to find out than talk to the fundamentalist Mormons. I think they could talk to you about the lifestyle without dwelling on religion if you can get them to talk to you at all. Sometimes I think I want a sister wife, but really I just want a full time housekeeper and full time nanny. I can’t imagine sharing a husband or living a life that is so abnormal. I think it’d be extremely hard on the kids, especially as they get older, unless you live in a polygamist community.


What would be hard on the kids? Be specific. Lots of definitive statements with zero evidence to back it up.


Kids make fun of weird AF families. Throuples are weird AF


Kids making fun of something is not really a good reason not to do it.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:27     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No better way to find out than talk to the fundamentalist Mormons. I think they could talk to you about the lifestyle without dwelling on religion if you can get them to talk to you at all. Sometimes I think I want a sister wife, but really I just want a full time housekeeper and full time nanny. I can’t imagine sharing a husband or living a life that is so abnormal. I think it’d be extremely hard on the kids, especially as they get older, unless you live in a polygamist community.


What would be hard on the kids? Be specific. Lots of definitive statements with zero evidence to back it up.


Kids make fun of weird AF families. Throuples are weird AF
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:27     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No better way to find out than talk to the fundamentalist Mormons. I think they could talk to you about the lifestyle without dwelling on religion if you can get them to talk to you at all. Sometimes I think I want a sister wife, but really I just want a full time housekeeper and full time nanny. I can’t imagine sharing a husband or living a life that is so abnormal. I think it’d be extremely hard on the kids, especially as they get older, unless you live in a polygamist community.


What would be hard on the kids? Be specific. Lots of definitive statements with zero evidence to back it up.


DP. Everyone has the sister wife fantasy. Basically an au pair you don’t have to take care of. I’m beginning to think I might want a brother husband though… especially if both cook. If I was in love with both, all the better. I can multitask.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:24     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Are you that desperate?
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:24     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Depends on the people. Do I love and trust them and have an interest in building our lives together? Or have I met them on Craigslist as I was searching for a date?

The former? In a heartbeat with the right paperwork and agreed upon boundaries. The latter? Batshit.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:23     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:Would you join an established couple ( married) to become a throuple? On the table is a child/children of your own plus becoming a parenting partner to other children, friendship with current wife, and romantic relationship with husband?


By romantic you mean sexual I assume since you’re getting your own kids. So would I become someone’s live in mistress, and raise their illegitimate child in their household, with their wife as mu “friend” until she wanted me gone and got to keep my child 50% of the time? No I would not.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2021 20:23     Subject: Women Late 30s single and looking for marriage and family
Anonymous wrote:No better way to find out than talk to the fundamentalist Mormons. I think they could talk to you about the lifestyle without dwelling on religion if you can get them to talk to you at all. Sometimes I think I want a sister wife, but really I just want a full time housekeeper and full time nanny. I can’t imagine sharing a husband or living a life that is so abnormal. I think it’d be extremely hard on the kids, especially as they get older, unless you live in a polygamist community.


What would be hard on the kids? Be specific. Lots of definitive statements with zero evidence to back it up.