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Anonymous wrote:I’m not impressed with those of you dismissing or snarking on this post because OP is a man. The fact that large men have an easier time losing significant weight than menopausal women doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t celebrate any poster who takes the very healthy steps OP has outlined to improve his health. I find it inspiring because most of it is relatively easy to copy (other than, as Is mentioned above, limiting alcohol and sweets) and even if we don’t lose as much doing the same things, it’s a healthy approach to follow.

This forum is generally supportive of anyone who makes an effort to lose weight and get healthy, and that’s one of its good features.

Sure, but the reaction to the post comes from the implication that anyone can lose weight the same way. That is what people are reacting to: "it didn't take a crash diet" to lose 4 lbs a week. For most people it would require a daily 2000 calorie deficit to lose 4 lbs in a week. Most women, especially short women, don't even have a 2000 calorie a day diet allotment, unless they are exercising an extreme amount or doing hard physical labor 8 hours a day.

So yes, great for OP. It sounds like it was relatively easy for him to lose that much weight eating more than 1600 calories a day, and best of luck continuing it. Just don't imply losing that much weight that quickly on that many calories a day is something everyone else can do just as easily.

He’s sharing his weight loss story! He never said we can all lose 16 lbs over the same time period he did, and he didn’t imply it either. I know plenty of guys who have followed crash diets in the past to lose weight. Maybe the OP has tried this approach in the past too and is happy to have discovered a healthy and more sustainable way.

OP wrote that it didn't take a "crash diet" for him to lose 4 lbs a week, that "The recipe is simple and something we all know - Caloric deficit." That "something we all know" implies others can follow his example (which he later clarified was eating more than 1600 calories a day) to lose weight. That is what people are reacting to. If he had said, "I realize I can still eat more than many of you do and still lose weight" or just "I cut x calories out of my daily diet" then there wouldn't have been the reaction.

Losing 4 lbs a week sounds great but it is not possible or even healthy for most people to lose that much, because it usually means they are losing water weight or even muscle. Women especially should not be aiming for more than 1-2 lbs a week weight loss.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not impressed with those of you dismissing or snarking on this post because OP is a man. The fact that large men have an easier time losing significant weight than menopausal women doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t celebrate any poster who takes the very healthy steps OP has outlined to improve his health. I find it inspiring because most of it is relatively easy to copy (other than, as Is mentioned above, limiting alcohol and sweets) and even if we don’t lose as much doing the same things, it’s a healthy approach to follow.

This forum is generally supportive of anyone who makes an effort to lose weight and get healthy, and that’s one of its good features.

Sure, but the reaction to the post comes from the implication that anyone can lose weight the same way. That is what people are reacting to: "it didn't take a crash diet" to lose 4 lbs a week. For most people it would require a daily 2000 calorie deficit to lose 4 lbs in a week. Most women, especially short women, don't even have a 2000 calorie a day diet allotment, unless they are exercising an extreme amount or doing hard physical labor 8 hours a day.

So yes, great for OP. It sounds like it was relatively easy for him to lose that much weight eating more than 1600 calories a day, and best of luck continuing it. Just don't imply losing that much weight that quickly on that many calories a day is something everyone else can do just as easily.

He’s sharing his weight loss story! He never said we can all lose 16 lbs over the same time period he did, and he didn’t imply it either. I know plenty of guys who have followed crash diets in the past to lose weight. Maybe the OP has tried this approach in the past too and is happy to have discovered a healthy and more sustainable way.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not impressed with those of you dismissing or snarking on this post because OP is a man. The fact that large men have an easier time losing significant weight than menopausal women doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t celebrate any poster who takes the very healthy steps OP has outlined to improve his health. I find it inspiring because most of it is relatively easy to copy (other than, as Is mentioned above, limiting alcohol and sweets) and even if we don’t lose as much doing the same things, it’s a healthy approach to follow.

This forum is generally supportive of anyone who makes an effort to lose weight and get healthy, and that’s one of its good features.

Sure, but the reaction to the post comes from the implication that anyone can lose weight the same way. That is what people are reacting to: "it didn't take a crash diet" to lose 4 lbs a week. For most people it would require a daily 2000 calorie deficit to lose 4 lbs in a week. Most women, especially short women, don't even have a 2000 calorie a day diet allotment, unless they are exercising an extreme amount or doing hard physical labor 8 hours a day.

So yes, great for OP. It sounds like it was relatively easy for him to lose that much weight eating more than 1600 calories a day, and best of luck continuing it. Just don't imply losing that much weight that quickly on that many calories a day is something everyone else can do just as easily.

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you, OP! Keep it up.

-A non-bitter woman

NP. I'm not bitter. I think OP is doing great! Congrats, OP! But I also agree with the female PPs who said it's so hard as a perimenopausal/menopausal woman. I don't drink alcohol, eat dessert, etc., and at my height (5'3") have to really watch what I eat just not to gain.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not impressed with those of you dismissing or snarking on this post because OP is a man. The fact that large men have an easier time losing significant weight than menopausal women doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t celebrate any poster who takes the very healthy steps OP has outlined to improve his health. I find it inspiring because most of it is relatively easy to copy (other than, as Is mentioned above, limiting alcohol and sweets) and even if we don’t lose as much doing the same things, it’s a healthy approach to follow.

This forum is generally supportive of anyone who makes an effort to lose weight and get healthy, and that’s one of its good features.

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Anonymous wrote:Reading this is not motivating for my peri-menopausal self who has done all that to lose one pound during the last month(minus cheat meals). But congrats!

I was thinking the same. Men have no idea

It is true - losing is so much easier for men and they don’t get it. For us 40+ women, It takes work, discipline and more time than any of us have. 41F here who gained, no joke, 30 lbs during covid. I lost 18 lbs in the past 2 months but I work out roughly 2-2.5 hrs daily (3 mile run, 1 hour of weights, additional walk later in the day) and track all of my calories w/ a 1200 calorie daily limit. So it can be done but it’s time-consuming and virtually impossible w/ a job and young-ish kids etc. All my husband has to do is fart and he loses 10 lbs.

I'm thankful my mid-40s wife (works full time, 2 elementary aged kids, no family help nearby) doesn't make excuses and instead works on her fitness and health. It would be miserable being married to some of the women here.

Did I make excuses? Did you even read my post? I said I work out 2.5 hrs/daily but I acknowledge how difficult it is for many women to find the time and discipline to do this Bc kids, work, life obligations tend to get in the way. Men don’t need to put in this much exercise time, nor do they need to essentially starve to lose weight. Further, women are usually carrying the bulk of the family load, so there’s that hurdle too. I’m thankful for an incredibly supportive husband who knows how important exercise is for my mental and physical well-being so he tackles all the morning kid stuff to give me the time to do this. I know that’s not the case in most marriages.

Anonymous wrote:My MIL has always kept her weight down and is honest that it takes skipping dinner to do it. Men, could you even skip dinner every day for decades?

Anonymous wrote:Reading this is not motivating for my peri-menopausal self who has done all that to lose one pound during the last month(minus cheat meals). But congrats!

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Anonymous wrote:Reading this is not motivating for my peri-menopausal self who has done all that to lose one pound during the last month(minus cheat meals). But congrats!

I was thinking the same. Men have no idea

It is true - losing is so much easier for men and they don’t get it. For us 40+ women, It takes work, discipline and more time than any of us have. 41F here who gained, no joke, 30 lbs during covid. I lost 18 lbs in the past 2 months but I work out roughly 2-2.5 hrs daily (3 mile run, 1 hour of weights, additional walk later in the day) and track all of my calories w/ a 1200 calorie daily limit. So it can be done but it’s time-consuming and virtually impossible w/ a job and young-ish kids etc. All my husband has to do is fart and he loses 10 lbs.

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Anonymous wrote:Reading this is not motivating for my peri-menopausal self who has done all that to lose one pound during the last month(minus cheat meals). But congrats!

I was thinking the same. Men have no idea

It is true - losing is so much easier for men and they don’t get it. For us 40+ women, It takes work, discipline and more time than any of us have. 41F here who gained, no joke, 30 lbs during covid. I lost 18 lbs in the past 2 months but I work out roughly 2-2.5 hrs daily (3 mile run, 1 hour of weights, additional walk later in the day) and track all of my calories w/ a 1200 calorie daily limit. So it can be done but it’s time-consuming and virtually impossible w/ a job and young-ish kids etc. All my husband has to do is fart and he loses 10 lbs.

I'm thankful my mid-40s wife (works full time, 2 elementary aged kids, no family help nearby) doesn't make excuses and instead works on her fitness and health. It would be miserable being married to some of the women here.