Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 01:07     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
That’s messed up, I’m sorry OP! Opening a package addressed to you is beyond!
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:57     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:She’s horrible!


Plus 1
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:54     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Tell her you just heard there was a recall on these!
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:50     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
She ate your Sees Candy????
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:49     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:I mean… she stayed overnight with your kids? Worth a few chocolates I think.


Worth opening OP’s mail (illegal) and helping herself without being invited? No. She’s an aduit, not a 4-year-old.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:46     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:That's rude of her but you are overreacting. Surely she left some for you, right? And wouldn't you have offered to share since they were at your house anyway?


Please don’t defend the MIL being a selfish, childish jerk. NP
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:44     Subject: Re:MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If younger, I’d have gone really crazy. It would have ruined my outing.

Now I’d get upset, but I’d reason it away from my mind.

What’s more, the cost of the babysitter of the chocolate? Next time mail it to your MIL for her bday.

What brand was it? I’d love to try it.


So much the same. I learned to chill way out.


Me too. But I cannot even imagine. I am the family mail opener and I wouldn’t even think of opening a package for my spouse. Even with Amazon packages, if I’m not expecting something, I don’t open it even though most packages are family and household stuff. It is just so far out of bounds.


+1. Setting aside what the gift was for a moment, OP’s MIL went through their mail, opened OP’s birthday gift from her parents, and then used it without permission, before OP had even seen it. What decent person thinks that is okay?


People that twist themselves into pretzels to argue against the OP in literally any and every thread. Gotta keep riding that high from "winning" a thread.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:16     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:You should be thankful she came and babysat for free. Next time do something nice for her as a thank you, like a box of chocolates since you know she likes them.


OP has already explained that the babysitting was more a favor to the MIL and FIL than to OP and her spouse.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:15     Subject: Re:MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If younger, I’d have gone really crazy. It would have ruined my outing.

Now I’d get upset, but I’d reason it away from my mind.

What’s more, the cost of the babysitter of the chocolate? Next time mail it to your MIL for her bday.

What brand was it? I’d love to try it.


So much the same. I learned to chill way out.


Me too. But I cannot even imagine. I am the family mail opener and I wouldn’t even think of opening a package for my spouse. Even with Amazon packages, if I’m not expecting something, I don’t open it even though most packages are family and household stuff. It is just so far out of bounds.


+1. Setting aside what the gift was for a moment, OP’s MIL went through their mail, opened OP’s birthday gift from her parents, and then used it without permission, before OP had even seen it. What decent person thinks that is okay?
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:13     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
You should be thankful she came and babysat for free. Next time do something nice for her as a thank you, like a box of chocolates since you know she likes them.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2021 00:12     Subject: Re:MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If younger, I’d have gone really crazy. It would have ruined my outing.

Now I’d get upset, but I’d reason it away from my mind.

What’s more, the cost of the babysitter of the chocolate? Next time mail it to your MIL for her bday.

What brand was it? I’d love to try it.


So much the same. I learned to chill way out.


Me too. But I cannot even imagine. I am the family mail opener and I wouldn’t even think of opening a package for my spouse. Even with Amazon packages, if I’m not expecting something, I don’t open it even though most packages are family and household stuff. It is just so far out of bounds.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2021 23:44     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s the lack of boundaries that is bothering me—opening a package addressed to me is beyond. This will be her last time watching my kids without me around. She will never be alone in our house again. She has proven to be nosy and meddlesome and snoop-y before; this is the last straw.

Luckily we have no shortage of babysitters. My local aunt, my parents, my cousin, friends with whom we already swap overnight sitting duties, and a few trusted former daycare teachers. We didn’t need the “favor” from her; this was a way for she and FIL to spend quality time with the kids, which they ask for.

Oh well. She can’t be trusted alone in my house, so she never will be again.


You’re setting the right boundaries, OP. She has shown she has zero respect for you, your home, your privacy, etc. Ignore the people who are trying to browbeat you into giving in on this, they probably show the same disrespect for other people’s boundaries as your MIL.

I admit I’m really curious to know about this chocolates, though. 😁
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2021 23:33     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
I'm confused. They were to come to babysit for dinner and weekend, but were at your house all day? And ow you are on the computer venting about this instead of dinner and whatever you were going to do at the hotel tonight?

Did you send MIL home?


I mean yed it was rude and greedy of her, but don't cut off your nose to spite your face.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2021 23:30     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s the lack of boundaries that is bothering me—opening a package addressed to me is beyond. This will be her last time watching my kids without me around. She will never be alone in our house again. She has proven to be nosy and meddlesome and snoop-y before; this is the last straw.

Luckily we have no shortage of babysitters. My local aunt, my parents, my cousin, friends with whom we already swap overnight sitting duties, and a few trusted former daycare teachers. We didn’t need the “favor” from her; this was a way for she and FIL to spend quality time with the kids, which they ask for.

Oh well. She can’t be trusted alone in my house, so she never will be again.



So you let this spoil your night out?

Let me guess you didn't really want her to sit, but your husband talked you into it, and now you have a "justified" warpath.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2021 23:30     Subject: MIL ate my birthday chocolates
You should have her babysit overnight again and this time have a giant dildo delivered addressed to your husband, or something similarly guaranteed to horrify his mother. Problem solved.