Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 12:50     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

I wouldn't bring anything.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 12:49     Subject: Re:If an adult invite says no gifts

Random party that says no gifts = NO GIFTS

A wedding = I'll make a donation in their name
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 12:46     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as an adult, your presence is enough. Just show up, don't start any drama, and enjoy the party like a nice guest.



This. I also don't want a generic card with a stock message and your signature.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 12:45     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

It means don't bring a gift. I don't understand the confusion.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 12:44     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

When my parents had their 50th anniversary party about 10 years ago, the invitation said "No gifts." Some people brought gifts. My mom laughed. "I'm 73, not 13!"

I did give them a 5x7 gold frame that weekend (but not at the party). They put a photograph from the party in it. My mom died (unexpectedly) less than a year later. My dad treasures that photo.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 12:33     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

No.

DON'T BRING A GIFT.

People who do this have everything they want. Gifts just add unwanted clutter to their homes. They value your presence and friendship more than getting a gift from you.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 12:07     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

Honestly, as an adult, your presence is enough. Just show up, don't start any drama, and enjoy the party like a nice guest.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 12:06     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:bring a nice card and leave it at that


Np why? That nice card is going to be recycled and you will have wasted your money.

No gifts mean NO Cards, wine, chocolates or any gifts!


I like getting cards that have specific notes on them. So a generic "happy birthday hope you have a great day!" doesn't mean much and should just be skipped, but the ones with memories or nice sentiments about why we're friends or whatever mean a lot to me.


PS I don't care at all if it's a "nice card" from papyrus. It could be notebook paper for all I care.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 12:05     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:bring a nice card and leave it at that


Np why? That nice card is going to be recycled and you will have wasted your money.

No gifts mean NO Cards, wine, chocolates or any gifts!


I like getting cards that have specific notes on them. So a generic "happy birthday hope you have a great day!" doesn't mean much and should just be skipped, but the ones with memories or nice sentiments about why we're friends or whatever mean a lot to me.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 11:49     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

Anonymous wrote:bring a nice card and leave it at that


Np why? That nice card is going to be recycled and you will have wasted your money.

No gifts mean NO Cards, wine, chocolates or any gifts!
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 11:41     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

For a regular adult party that didn't say no gifts, I probably wouldn't bring anything other than a card and a hostess gift, like wine, flowers, or chocolates. Do people generally give grown adult friends gifts on their birthdays?
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 11:35     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.


"Some crystal"??? Seriously???

I'm using that for target practice the minute you leave.


This made me laugh
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 11:31     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I always bring a gift. If it says no gifts, that really means no huge boxed gifts. Something small and expensive is what they want


It means you don’t know how to read.


Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 11:12     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

Anonymous wrote:I always bring a gift. If it says no gifts, that really means no huge boxed gifts. Something small and expensive is what they want


It means you don’t know how to read.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2021 11:11     Subject: If an adult invite says no gifts

bring a nice card and leave it at that