Of course! We can also see the difference between our kids. I’m not blind

My kids are average looking. They look good when they dress up because they have decent hair, teeth, skin and are neither fat nor thin, neither tall nor short. They are regular looking people. Thank goodness!

The moment my child was born, naked and screaming and covered in goo, something broke in my brain and I considered her the most beautiful child ever. Sometimes another part of my brain tries to talk sense into me, but I tell it to go away. I do understand that most parents think their child is the most beautiful, but those parents are just biased and wrong. If they would be objective they would admit that my child is the most beautiful.

I think most people you run into are realistic about their kids. There is a substantial fraction that are less so.

I've got a kid who is homely at best, and another who is gorgeous. Homely child is exceedingly intelligent; gorgeous child will probably be on the vocational track in high school.

My kid is super cute. Like people stop us and tell us she's super cute. I can tell when a kid is cuter than her. Seeing another cute kid and acknowledging that cuteness in no way diminishes the cuteness of my snowflake.

Cats on the other hand no one can tell me they have a cat cuter than my little angel.

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and can be very culturally dependent. I have a coworker who makes a lot out of her daughter’s platinum blonde hair. I feel sorry for the kid if it darkens because that is all her mother ever brags about.

well to be fair probably most moms are going to be sad when their kids blonde hair starts to darken so she wouldn't be in the minority.

??? My kids are blond and I have brown hair and my DH has very dark brown hair. We were both blond as kids. I will not care one whit when my kids' hair darkens. I hope it gets as dark as my DH's hair.

OK great that you think that way, but you know you are in the minority.
Why do you think most adult women we see out on the streets with blonde hair are bottle blondes?

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and can be very culturally dependent. I have a coworker who makes a lot out of her daughter’s platinum blonde hair. I feel sorry for the kid if it darkens because that is all her mother ever brags about.

well to be fair probably most moms are going to be sad when their kids blonde hair starts to darken so she wouldn't be in the minority.

We live in a country full of Nazis.

Np. My family is very liberal and still likes their blonde hair and blue eyes. It’s just unique. (I have neither)

It’s the same as me hoping my kids have my own curly hair.

Lol you ppl are not liberal. Hoping your kids stay blonde and being sad when it inevitably, for most ppl, changes is straight up Nazi attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and can be very culturally dependent. I have a coworker who makes a lot out of her daughter’s platinum blonde hair. I feel sorry for the kid if it darkens because that is all her mother ever brags about.

well to be fair probably most moms are going to be sad when their kids blonde hair starts to darken so she wouldn't be in the minority.

??? My kids are blond and I have brown hair and my DH has very dark brown hair. We were both blond as kids. I will not care one whit when my kids' hair darkens. I hope it gets as dark as my DH's hair.

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and can be very culturally dependent. I have a coworker who makes a lot out of her daughter’s platinum blonde hair. I feel sorry for the kid if it darkens because that is all her mother ever brags about.

well to be fair probably most moms are going to be sad when their kids blonde hair starts to darken so she wouldn't be in the minority.

We live in a country full of Nazis.

Np. My family is very liberal and still likes their blonde hair and blue eyes. It’s just unique. (I have neither)

It’s the same as me hoping my kids have my own curly hair.

My kids were seriously ugly babies- big foreheads, bald, weird noses, fat. I overheard people talking about our kids looks too. Dh and I are both very good looking (especially Dh!) and people wondered why our babies were so ugly. No clue! But they grew into adorable toddlers and good looking kids who grew into their faces. My son especially was so ugly as a baby. His nose and eyes were huge! But he grew into them and is going to be a tall man. I don’t mind either way what my kids look like. There’s more to life than looks. And clothes, hair and attitude go a long way.

I love my three kids to death but I have a long time friend with three kids, now adults, who are incredibly good looking and they have been since childhood. They come from a great gene pool and that’s life! They are great kids and they are good friends of my kids.

Interesting question. For me, my DD is the most beautiful kid in the world, but I understand that what our culture considers beautiful may be different. It's the same with my H, he is by far the most attractive, gorgeous man in the world to me, even though he looks different than what our culture holds as ideal beauty. I can tell when a person fits societal beauty norms, but that doesn't necessarily mean I find them beautiful or attractive. I find most beauty norms fairly generic and bland.

But that being said, I have been working to stop defaulting to noticing/commenting on peoples' looks. I was classically beautiful my whole life and have heard non-stop commentary since I was a very young child. It was not good for me to hear and did damage to my self-esteem, since I thought that was all I was good for. And I was a total wreck once I hit my 30s, had kids, and suddenly wasn't "hot" anymore. So I've been training myself to notice other aspects of children and adults other than their looks, and to never comment on someone's looks to either them or other people. Humans are more valuable than that.

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and can be very culturally dependent. I have a coworker who makes a lot out of her daughter’s platinum blonde hair. I feel sorry for the kid if it darkens because that is all her mother ever brags about.

well to be fair probably most moms are going to be sad when their kids blonde hair starts to darken so she wouldn't be in the minority.

We live in a country full of Nazis.

It's not a contest.

Anonymous wrote:Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and can be very culturally dependent. I have a coworker who makes a lot out of her daughter’s platinum blonde hair. I feel sorry for the kid if it darkens because that is all her mother ever brags about.

well to be fair probably most moms are going to be sad when their kids blonde hair starts to darken so she wouldn't be in the minority.