Anonymous wrote:Had this discussion with a group of friends today. One of them had a bad argument a few months ago with their spouse. They only recently noticed on FB they are no longer friends and on the spouse's page it shows nothing for relationship status. My friend doesn't use FB often so it wasn't noticed until today. But, what are people's thoughts on this? They are fine now. But, should YOU be okay with your spouse removing you from their FB page and changing their relationship status to "none"?

I would absolutely not be ok with that. Are they teenagers? This behavior is so immature and ridiculous coming from a grown adult.

He is definitely cheating or has put himself out there.

No other plausible explanation….

I’m not sure I’d even know since I rarely look at FB and he never posts.

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I married young and have been fb friends since high school. Even when we were young and stupid we didn’t delete or block each other. If he did this now I would assume he had lost his mind or was having an affair. That’s just really bizarre behavior.

Yes, like others have said it would indicate an incredibly vindictive mean streak or a desire to cheat by making it appear that he is now single.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting how most replies seem to assume the spouse is a man. What is the spouse is the wife?

Literally no one assumed the spouse was a man.

I thought the spouse was the husband. Pretty sure most here do.

Fair assumption since most posters here are women. Strange behavior coming from a man or woman, though. I would feel equally suspicious in either case

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Doesn’t matter the gender, it’s weird to declare your relationship status publicly and then un-declare it, as others have posted.

I think facebook drama is weird and lame generally but if my spouse took some proactive action to remove our marriage from Facebook that wasn't part of some general overall stripping of personal information due to privacy.

The problem is they had to go out of their way to do it. And a person going out of their way to deemphasize their marriage is weird and a bad thing. Had their marriage never been on FB at all that would have been totally normal, what is abnormal is going to lengths to adjust it after many years of marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting how most replies seem to assume the spouse is a man. What is the spouse is the wife?

Literally no one assumed the spouse was a man.

I thought the spouse was the husband. Pretty sure most here do.

Fair assumption since most posters here are women. Strange behavior coming from a man or woman, though. I would feel equally suspicious in either case

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting how most replies seem to assume the spouse is a man. What is the spouse is the wife?

Literally no one assumed the spouse was a man.

I thought the spouse was the husband. Pretty sure most here do.

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Anonymous wrote:I blocked my husband. I can’t remember why. Anyway, I live with the guy. I don’t need to follow him online. He’s not even active in FB. Your spouse doesn’t need to know everything about you. At least I’m not tagging him and Bragg about my love for him.

These kinds of responses are wild to me. I had an on again/off again boyfriend in college and we fought and unfriended or blocked each other once or twice but why do this in a mature, adult relationship? I think sometimes there is a generational component? How old are you?

Dp, but Facebook is such a tiny part of our life and communication with spouse.

Pp. I’m 31 so DH and I started following each other when we became friends and then obviously continued to follow as we were dating and eventually got married and engaged. It would be very strange to me if he suddenly, 8 years into marriage, severed our online connection and removed any trace of me from his social media. It’s not that it’s a major part of how we communicate, both of us use Instagram fairly infrequently, but it would be suspicious and offensive if he one day decided to put a bunch of effort into removing any proof of a connection to me without comment. Like..why don’t you want people to know I exist all of a sudden…

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting how most replies seem to assume the spouse is a man. What is the spouse is the wife?

Literally no one assumed the spouse was a man.

Wrong. I assumed it was a man.

A man-child to be more precise.

Is he actually still on FB? Maybe he deleted his account in some kind of tantrum.

My spouse and I have been on Facebook for a loooong time. We don't really use it much, but if he erased my presence from his page at this point it would be a major red flag. I mean, what would be the point unless you wanted to cheat?

Anonymous wrote:People with FB friend deleting drama are IMO mentally ill. I think mental illness reveals itself so clearly on social media. I’d be worried about that.

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Anonymous wrote:I blocked my husband. I can’t remember why. Anyway, I live with the guy. I don’t need to follow him online. He’s not even active in FB. Your spouse doesn’t need to know everything about you. At least I’m not tagging him and Bragg about my love for him.

These kinds of responses are wild to me. I had an on again/off again boyfriend in college and we fought and unfriended or blocked each other once or twice but why do this in a mature, adult relationship? I think sometimes there is a generational component? How old are you?

Dp, but Facebook is such a tiny part of our life and communication with spouse.

You mean he unfriended you or removed you from “married to”? If it matters that much to you, tell him. I don’t care enough so we never had “married to” in each other’s Facebook.

People who have a whole thing about not following their spouse or who unfollow them are either extremely overdramatic and petty or they don’t like their spouse. Obviously both situations are not ideal.