Op, I could be you in that story, only I have five sisters. They’ve always treated me differently and judged my decision on career, marriage, children, just everything. I never do anything right and am constantly criticized to my face and behind my back, both of which hurt tremendously. This is my family, it just hurts. My dh sat me down after one of our family get togethers and made it clear to me that I had distance myself from the mess that is my sibling rivalry or he would leave our marriage. He was not interested in the bs about our lifestyle from my sisters who he said were clearly jealous I took a different path in life and quite frankly had a better lifestyle than they chose. Think vacations, larger home, date nights, amazingly rewarding job and a pretty f g incredible man for my dh. You know what, he nailed it. He’s been in my life for ten years and has witnessed time and again their pettiness and mean girl treatment of me. I listened to him and no longer go around my sisters as a group. I see them individually and while not perfect, it’s better for my sanity. I’m a good, generous person and the talking behind my back was painful. I’ve never not been there for anyone in my family but that had changed. Haters are gonna hate, that’s what I finally realize. I love my life and my family and I’m sorry my sisters can’t be genuinely happy for me. That is their problem now.

You clearly look down on your sisters. You should be ashamed of yourself; such a petty, miserable and unkind person you are OP.

Anonymous wrote:Op if they do put you down and have this petty jealousy going on they probably won't change any time soon.

Next time they come over for dinner make it pizza or something simple. Stop with the filet mignon. They don't bring anything even a bottle of wine, they don't help clean up. I think you would feel better if you stood up for yourself a little. Just put a casual pizza night together and sit back and relax. Why put in so much effort for people that will criticise you and mock you?

Leave the filet mignon's for your true friends, the ones who will appreciate the effort. I think then you will feel better. You don't need to act better around them you can simple exit the race/game and simply enjoy your own life.

But pizza doesn't give OP the opportunity to show off. There is no way the OP comes off as a good person here

Op if they do put you down and have this petty jealousy going on they probably won't change any time soon.

Next time they come over for dinner make it pizza or something simple. Stop with the filet mignon. They don't bring anything even a bottle of wine, they don't help clean up. I think you would feel better if you stood up for yourself a little. Just put a casual pizza night together and sit back and relax. Why put in so much effort for people that will criticise you and mock you?

Leave the filet mignon's for your true friends, the ones who will appreciate the effort. I think then you will feel better. You don't need to act better around them you can simple exit the race/game and simply enjoy your own life.

Are they jealous, or realize that you look down on them? Very different issues.

OP, it's nothing more than 2 women being catty. You all just happen to be sisters. There's 3 of you, one of you is going to be/feel excluded. And it's you. They have more in common. they just do. Even if there wasn't judging going on. Sorry. They aren't your friends. Accept. And enjoy your other friends

Anonymous wrote:My hunch is that they feel that you consider yourself superior to them based on your lifestyle and choices.

+1. Bet OP thinks they don’t know she feels superior… but they clearly do.

Anonymous wrote:I can see why your sisters don't like you

Same. Op sounds insufferable for what seems like a pretty average life.

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Anonymous wrote:What's your bedroom workout? Genuinely curious.

In middle school I would alternate doing crunches and push ups each day. Then I was talking to a guy friend in 10th grade who explained the concept of legs/abs days and arms/back days, and I added a couple of exercises. Then in college I took yoga for gym credit and got really into that, and since then have done 20 minutes of yoga each morning. I do weights 3 times a week for about ten minutes.

This is hardly working out. The fact that you think this is brag worthy is prettt hysterical

I can see why your sisters don't like you

I feel sorry for your sisters. I'm sure they know how you feel towards them and it can't feel good.

Crabs in a Bucket

-look this up

Anonymous wrote:What's your bedroom workout? Genuinely curious.

In middle school I would alternate doing crunches and push ups each day. Then I was talking to a guy friend in 10th grade who explained the concept of legs/abs days and arms/back days, and I added a couple of exercises. Then in college I took yoga for gym credit and got really into that, and since then have done 20 minutes of yoga each morning. I do weights 3 times a week for about ten minutes.

The OP makes me appreciate that I have 3 brothers.

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Anonymous wrote:The secret workout thing was a red flag to me. “When my sisters weren’t around” —op, why did you have to hide your fitness when you were a teen? That made the whole thread a little sour to me.

Have you talked to them? I’m guessing you don’t have good communication/rapport with them.

NP. Wowwwwww, so as a *teenager,* OP should have handled body image issues and navigating how to be healthy with no shame or hang-ups like an adult? Wow. Hope your daughter or son doesn't struggle with finding balance when it comes to their changing bodies, societal pressure, body image issues and anxiety/control issues.

+1. Hey PP, I exercised in secret when I was a teen. You know why? My older sister and younger brother called me fat and mocked me for even trying.

Got any other wise words to share?