Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 14:46     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
Honestly your envy and insecurity may be holding you back from more success and friendships.

I’m in my 40s and my worst “friendships” have been with women who I could literally see envy in their expressions. It made it so I could never talk about anything good - not brag, mind you, but just anything happy. And even then, eventually they would lash out randomly about something, repressed anger about life being unfair to them or me not deserving success or happiness. Even though I was not any more privileged than them.

I have cut these women out of my life and can tell pretty quickly now when I meet new women if they are like this. I deeply believe jealous insecure people are incapable of good relationships now.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 14:35     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
OP, are you sock-puppeting? The writing style on some of these responses is suspiciously similar. And yes, we are tired of this story. Pick a new one.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 14:30     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
The truth is lots of people are better than you. In a world of 8 billion people, even if you at the 99 percentile there’s 80 million people ahead of you. Ask yourself why it matters that of the millions (and let’s face it probably billions) of people that are better than you one of them happens to be your sister. Be better.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 13:01     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
You could use it as a strength and lean into her good skills to get better yourself. It's better than having to pay for a loser sibling that is mean and not useful.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 12:41     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
Anonymous wrote:My brother was like your sister. Everything handed to him on a silver platter and he was nice. Then.... life came up and slapped him in the face. His wife's father, who helped them financially, died. His BIL committed fraud and stole his the inheritance and spent it. His wife got stressed, depressed, then terminally I'll, right after their 3rd child was born. Their middle child began to have chronic health problems. Two years later the youngest had an accident that caused a traumatic brain injury. During the medical appointments for her injury they discovered a heart problem. All the while, my brother lost his job and was forced to take a job at half the pay or move when his wife and kids were on the middle of life saving medical treatments. Yeah, you don't know what's coming.


Aren’t you the gloating envious b i . ch?
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 12:00     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
Good Lord, how many times are you going to post about this? Honestly it's pretty pathetic at this point. Take some responsibility for how your life has turned out. And please don't have children until you sort yourself out.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 11:58     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
OP, the level of victimhood you carry from your childhood is honestly sad. You need to let things go. Stop blaming her because your life didn't turn out how you wanted it. You chose to marry your DH. You chose your career. You need therapy to get yourself out of this victimhood mentality. Even in your posts, when you're called out it's more whining about you feeling bad and being the victim again.

And be careful. Because eventually something bad will happen to your sister. And you will secretly gloat about it. And if anyone finds out that you're finally feeling like your sister "got hers" it will ruin your relationship with people. I've seen it happen.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 11:47     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
Anonymous wrote:OP, think about how you use the word “better.” Isn’t the word “different” also accurate?

Consider whether you want to beat your sister or maintain a lifelong relationship with her.

My sister is (and always has been) a natural, classic beauty. She is athletically gifted and landed a massive scholarship to an exclusive college/university. She married a nice guy who has done extraordinarily well financially.

I realized in high school that what appears to be good fortune comes with a cost. As long as I can remember, people made incorrect assumptions about her without knowing her (she was a snob, she was mean/dumb, she skated by on her looks — none of which were true).

Have you thought about therapy? I mean this with deep compassion and kindness. People have essentially asked me outright why I never hated my sister. I grew up with parents who, to this day, never demonstrated a hint of favoritism or compared us publicly, and always encouraged us and celebrated our successes. I think that’s a huge part of the equation here.



DP
Sounds lie you had good parents. My parents compared us to each other and everyone else. When we did well they would point out someone that did better, even when the comparison was absurd.

I'm trying to be more like you and have to fight the impulses of my youth all the time. I think I have brain damage from it.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 11:41     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
My brother was like your sister. Everything handed to him on a silver platter and he was nice. Then.... life came up and slapped him in the face. His wife's father, who helped them financially, died. His BIL committed fraud and stole his the inheritance and spent it. His wife got stressed, depressed, then terminally I'll, right after their 3rd child was born. Their middle child began to have chronic health problems. Two years later the youngest had an accident that caused a traumatic brain injury. During the medical appointments for her injury they discovered a heart problem. All the while, my brother lost his job and was forced to take a job at half the pay or move when his wife and kids were on the middle of life saving medical treatments. Yeah, you don't know what's coming.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2025 11:33     Subject: Re:My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
Would love insight on this!
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2021 16:22     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
OP, think about how you use the word “better.” Isn’t the word “different” also accurate?

Consider whether you want to beat your sister or maintain a lifelong relationship with her.

My sister is (and always has been) a natural, classic beauty. She is athletically gifted and landed a massive scholarship to an exclusive college/university. She married a nice guy who has done extraordinarily well financially.

I realized in high school that what appears to be good fortune comes with a cost. As long as I can remember, people made incorrect assumptions about her without knowing her (she was a snob, she was mean/dumb, she skated by on her looks — none of which were true).

Have you thought about therapy? I mean this with deep compassion and kindness. People have essentially asked me outright why I never hated my sister. I grew up with parents who, to this day, never demonstrated a hint of favoritism or compared us publicly, and always encouraged us and celebrated our successes. I think that’s a huge part of the equation here.

Anonymous
Post 09/29/2021 15:56     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
Anonymous wrote:I have a sister that constantly compares herself to me. She has an amazing life yet still laments that I have a better life - I was thinner than her as a child, or had easier kids, or better work/life balance, etc. She internalizes most of it which is awful for her mental health.

I wish she would stop comparing herself and start living and embracing the life she has. She would be much happier for it. Much like social media, you never know what someone else's demons and challenges are so you are comparing yourself to a fictional story.

But she can't. She thrives on some unhappiness and nothing will ever be good enough or nice enough for her. Some people seek content within themselves, because they are that smart and emotionally secure to know that they are responsible for their own happiness, life choices, etc.
Others can't find it within, and keep comparing to others, always a victim of something, never the person responsible for their own happiness, unhappiness. It is easier to do this than to take responsibility for your own actions. Once again, emotional vampires.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2021 15:40     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are an insecure bully. Your sister is the one that has an abusive sister.


OP, hugs. People can be really harsh here about siblings.


OP here. I already feel bad about my sister's obvious superiority in talents and better decision making ability. Now I am feeling bad about feeling bad.

You should feel bad, your envy and insecurity is not about her superiority in talents! Now you posted better decision making? But, so far she was just naturally better? Hm, no.
Now you are still feeling bad? Does it ever stop with bullies? The whole world is against you, just like it is against all bullies who are always victims in their own eyes.


PP, you are kind of mean. Is this personal for you?

Yes, in a way. I am right now being bullied at work, and I am new here. The bully exhibits these same traits, the world is against him. Sorry if I took it out on OP.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2021 15:04     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are an insecure bully. Your sister is the one that has an abusive sister.


OP, hugs. People can be really harsh here about siblings.


OP here. I already feel bad about my sister's obvious superiority in talents and better decision making ability. Now I am feeling bad about feeling bad.

You should feel bad, your envy and insecurity is not about her superiority in talents! Now you posted better decision making? But, so far she was just naturally better? Hm, no.
Now you are still feeling bad? Does it ever stop with bullies? The whole world is against you, just like it is against all bullies who are always victims in their own eyes.


PP, you are kind of mean. Is this personal for you?


Np but come on. Ops posts are so pathetic and self absorbed. Op is the type of Ahole who is secretly happy when something bad happens to someone
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2021 14:52     Subject: My sister is naturally better than me in EVERYTHING. Is it bad that I wish I could outdo her ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are an insecure bully. Your sister is the one that has an abusive sister.


OP, hugs. People can be really harsh here about siblings.


OP here. I already feel bad about my sister's obvious superiority in talents and better decision making ability. Now I am feeling bad about feeling bad.

You should feel bad, your envy and insecurity is not about her superiority in talents! Now you posted better decision making? But, so far she was just naturally better? Hm, no.
Now you are still feeling bad? Does it ever stop with bullies? The whole world is against you, just like it is against all bullies who are always victims in their own eyes.


PP, you are kind of mean. Is this personal for you?