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Anonymous wrote:My parents are immigrants and I would never say that to my parents even if that’s what I was doing. We simply don’t have that buddy, wink-wink kind of relationship. Doesn’t seem appropriate in our culture.

Mine are also but complete opposite. It’s not wink wink. Alcohol is not taboo at all and no one would think anything of the grandparents watching the kids so the parents can relax and drink.

+1. My MIL is East African and she is always trying to push us out the door to go get drinks; “let me watch the kids so you can go to a bar and have drinks and go dancing, stay out late!” I’m not a big drinker but I love that it’s an option and that she always makes a big pot of “hangover soup” in the morning when we do go out lol

I know two couples in the Annapolis area that dump their children on the grandparents so they can go out and get hammered or take elaborate trips without their children only to spend the weekend getting plastered.

I moved a thousand miles away from my grandkids so no one can ask me to babysit. Not my circus, not my monkeys.

So much better than a night of drinking and debauchery when you have a sitter. With the grandparents staying over or the kids staying at their house it means you don't have to come home and embarrass yourself in front of a sitter and then try to figure out who can drive them home, much less properly calculate how much to pay them while inebriated.

Also, if something happened to the little ones while staying with grandparents at least they are family and could probably get them to the ER and authorize treatment, stuff a sitter might struggle with.

I'm all for it! And I am a grandparent who does not and has never been a drinker.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a couple who asks the grandparents to babysit overnight on the weekends so they can go out and get drunk. They feel like it’s a great way to unwind for the weekend. The grandparents told me this like they think it’s funny.

They do what?! Clutch those pearls!

Np. It has nothing to do with pearl clutching. At some point, you grow up and don't drink to get drunk. It isn't healthy and you on your way yo alcoholism.

You’re such a loser.

Anonymous wrote:Irresponsible. No one is saying you can’t leave the kids with the grands overnight, go out, have a good time and have some drinks. But to get drunk? Drunks make stupid decisions and can harm themselves and others. What if they decide to drive (whether out and about or leave the house) and catch a DUI and spend a night in jail or cause an accident due to being drunk? What if an emergency happens at the grandparents house and people are trying to reach the parents and they’re passed out somewhere drunk?

You are inane. I bet you don’t get invited out much so I wouldn’t worry about it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple who asks the grandparents to babysit overnight on the weekends so they can go out and get drunk. They feel like it’s a great way to unwind for the weekend. The grandparents told me this like they think it’s funny.

They do what?! Clutch those pearls!

Np. It has nothing to do with pearl clutching. At some point, you grow up and don't drink to get drunk. It isn't healthy and you on your way yo alcoholism.

That’s correct. Adults shouldn’t drink just to get drunk. They should drink to drown their sorrows.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a couple who asks the grandparents to babysit overnight on the weekends so they can go out and get drunk. They feel like it’s a great way to unwind for the weekend. The grandparents told me this like they think it’s funny.

They do what?! Clutch those pearls!

Np. It has nothing to do with pearl clutching. At some point, you grow up and don't drink to get drunk. It isn't healthy and you on your way yo alcoholism.

Anonymous wrote:So the grandparents watch the kids overnight so the parents can “go out”? Like on a date? Where they drink alcohol? And stay out late? Quelle horreur.

This is simply horrifying! /s

And jealousy-inducing

Anonymous wrote:We do this about once a month. Both sets of grandparents are local, helpful and active. On a Fri or Sat night, kids (2 and 5) will have a sleepover at one of the homes and we'll go out or chill at home, always with quite some alcohol involved. It's awesome 👌

I am so envious it's hard to put in words. But good for you! That's great that you have that support. Enjoy!

Irresponsible. No one is saying you can’t leave the kids with the grands overnight, go out, have a good time and have some drinks. But to get drunk? Drunks make stupid decisions and can harm themselves and others. What if they decide to drive (whether out and about or leave the house) and catch a DUI and spend a night in jail or cause an accident due to being drunk? What if an emergency happens at the grandparents house and people are trying to reach the parents and they’re passed out somewhere drunk?

If I have two glasses of wine at dinner my dad says I'm hammered. So I wouldn't trust that the grandparents aren't exaggerating a bit, maybe for comedic effect.

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Anonymous wrote:We do this about once a month. Both sets of grandparents are local, helpful and active. On a Fri or Sat night, kids (2 and 5) will have a sleepover at one of the homes and we'll go out or chill at home, always with quite some alcohol involved. It's awesome 👌

Do you tell your parents that you’re planning on getting “totally wasted”?

Nope, since that's not the main goal. Honestly, it does sound a bit ridiculous to say that vs anything else pertaining to having a night without kids.

Lol!

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Anonymous wrote:When my parents take my kids overnight, we have a 2nd glass of wine or a cocktail because we know we won’t be woken up at 5:45-6:15am by our early rising preschooler. How is this any different?

The difference is that they are stating their plans to get totally wasted. Not calling it date night or whatever. And the grandparents think it’s cute or healthy.

They could be shooting up with the kids in the backseat. Or abusing prescription drugs all week long. An occasional night of not being on parent duty, with proper support is not inherently awful. They might phrase it differently. Or they are problem drinkers…and you are not describing it well. Who knows? But it sounds like they are protecting children from experiencing their inebriation.