Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 10:05     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Everyone in my immediate family has it and none of us think about it.

I think my 13-year old was very late and not responding I would certainly want to track location.

It’s never used to stalk.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 10:03     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would never: I am divorced in my 40s. I made my boyfriend at 23 return a cell phone for my birthday. I did not want to be accessible to anyone 24/7. Of course, now we are not where I am going is my privacy. No one is tracking me 24/7. No way in hell.


I’m one of the pp’s above who has device location sharing turned on with my husband. It’s not like we “track” each other 24/7. Honestly I think we both forget that it’s even enabled most of the time. But every once in a while, I’ll see if he’s left the office so I don’t need to bug him / text him about whether he’s left yet. The main use case for us is for travel, especially since we don’t need to be glued at the hip. I might spend an afternoon shopping in a town while he goes snorkeling, but it’s nice to know I could find him in an emergency. We don’t track and zero trust issues.


I would never allow anyone to have that kind of ability to find me at any time. This society has gone way too far with this stuff. If I want to be at the grocery store, no one needs to know I am there. Especially a spouse. You know I am coming home. That is all you need to know. Having the ability to track my location is creepy.


You really feel a way about this don't you?


Look, I don't like it when people call me to say "I'm coming home." No shit. As long as you arrive, that is all I care about. I don't need or want to know anyone's life on a minute to minute basis nor should anyone be apprised of mine. It is freaking weird.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 09:33     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
I think this is weird but know people who do it who don't seem crazy
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 08:53     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
I've only done it on long bike rides when I didn't want to pull out my phone to update on where I was going. Strava has a location sharing live feature. And on long Uber rides late at night.

Otherwise, it's weird.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 08:36     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
If it's for safety, ok. If you feel insecure and need to track whereabouts, just split up already. If you trust so little, no need to prove it by tracking them. Either they trigger you to distrust them by their behavior, or you need to work on your trust issues within yourself.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 08:31     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
I don't do it but perhaps if I had I would have known my (ex)husband was cheating. Oh well, que sera sera.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 08:30     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would never: I am divorced in my 40s. I made my boyfriend at 23 return a cell phone for my birthday. I did not want to be accessible to anyone 24/7. Of course, now we are not where I am going is my privacy. No one is tracking me 24/7. No way in hell.


I’m one of the pp’s above who has device location sharing turned on with my husband. It’s not like we “track” each other 24/7. Honestly I think we both forget that it’s even enabled most of the time. But every once in a while, I’ll see if he’s left the office so I don’t need to bug him / text him about whether he’s left yet. The main use case for us is for travel, especially since we don’t need to be glued at the hip. I might spend an afternoon shopping in a town while he goes snorkeling, but it’s nice to know I could find him in an emergency. We don’t track and zero trust issues.


I would never allow anyone to have that kind of ability to find me at any time. This society has gone way too far with this stuff. If I want to be at the grocery store, no one needs to know I am there. Especially a spouse. You know I am coming home. That is all you need to know. Having the ability to track my location is creepy.


You really feel a way about this don't you?
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 08:22     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
I don’t do it. I do share with my young teen, we both know where we are. This lessens my anxiety when they go on long bike rides.

I have a couple of friends who share with each other. MIL tried to share with me but I didn’t accept.

I think it’s a little odd. We just text if we need to know where the other is in the event something unplanned is happening.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 08:07     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dating. Weird.

Marriage. Not weird.

I have nothing to hide and could careless


Still weird in a marriage. It’s not an issue of “having something to hide.”


It’s not weird and it’s not invasive. It’s for safety and common sense. I use it maybe 3x a year, but it can be incredibly helpful and reassuring on those rare occasions. To each their own.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 07:26     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dating. Weird.

Marriage. Not weird.

I have nothing to hide and could careless


Still weird in a marriage. It’s not an issue of “having something to hide.”


I don’t think so.

It’s the default setting on the iPhone. It would be stranger to actively turn it off.

But, neither of us are bothered by it.

Completely understand having it on a tween’s phone if they walk from school or out alone on bike, etc. And teens that start driving and staying out later.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 07:15     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Don’t do it with DH but don’t think it’s weird at all. I know tons of parents (of high schoolers ) who use it to make sure their kids are where they claim to be. I think that’s smart, especially once your kid drives, and will do the same thing.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 07:01     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:We don't, I have an iPhone, Dh has a Samsung. I feel like we could go either way if we both had an iPhone, but I don't think it should be used as a way to track to make sure no one is cheating. The trust has to be there. We would only do it it was to see how close by someone was if they were driving or something.



You can do it via google/gmail if want to.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 05:44     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Not in a new relationship; that’s a red flag, for sure.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 05:30     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
I share mine when I’m driving alone long distances. I tend to drive overnight when it’s 8+ hours and he likes being able to see that I’m making progress and that I’ve arrived (I tend to promptly fall asleep and don’t send an “arrived” text while I’m getting situated). I also share it when I feel a little unsafe while I’m out at night.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 05:08     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
We also use it for logistics, safety. But that started years into the marriage when we got sick of "where are you" back and forth texts trying to coordinate things.

Either of us can turn it off whenever we want, and it's not suspicious at all. Just less convenient at times.

I definitely wouldn't have done this while dating. You don't need to be that coordinated unless you're running a household together.