Anonymous
Post 09/30/2021 09:26     Subject: Gym don'ts
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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?


Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.


There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".


There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.


For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.


Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2021 09:25     Subject: Re:Gym don'ts
Never knew the gym was such a stressful place. I go in, do my workouts, do not speak to anyone, and leave feeling great. Certainly have no time/reason to complain.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2021 09:14     Subject: Re:Gym don'ts
You need to go to a different gym. The gym I use has plenty of women in the weight room doing upper body work. Male lifters are happy to see them there.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2021 08:24     Subject: Gym don'ts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?


Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.


There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".


There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.


For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2021 16:28     Subject: Gym don'ts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?


Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.


There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".


There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2021 12:40     Subject: Gym don'ts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?


Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.


There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 22:58     Subject: Gym don'ts
Go take your uptight ass somewhere else
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 22:57     Subject: Gym don'ts
STFU I will do as I please as a paying member
GFO
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 11:19     Subject: Gym don'ts
Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?


Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 10:24     Subject: Gym don'ts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wear a headset so I dont care about other people's conversations or phone calls as long as they are not conversing while hogging equipment I want to use.

My biggest pet peeve is blocking the squat rack to do anything else than squatting or overhead pressing.

I also find people doing circuits on several machines annoying.


I jump between upper and low body machines (e.g quad and chest press, and then hamstring and shoulder). What is the problem with this? I feel like I'm the one that has to be flexible because often I end up mixing up sets on different machines if someone gets on the lower body, while I'm on the upper body. Or do you mean people "save" machines while they are on another?


Yes, I was talking about people saving the machine while they are not on it. I generally don’t give AF and tell them I will use it while they are not there, but there are people to shy to do that.


I once had a trainer at the gym tell me he and his client were using the assisted pull up machine. They were using it for maybe a minute every 10-15 minutes because his client was doing a stupid long circuit. I told him I was going to work in. Wasn't about to wait 45 min to use it because they "claimed it."
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 10:21     Subject: Gym don'ts
Stand directly in front of the dumbbells rack doing arm curls/whatever. Step back so there is ample room for someone else to walk over to pick up or return weights.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 09:37     Subject: Gym don'ts
Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 09:17     Subject: Gym don'ts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So, I'll flip this script.

Don't roll your eyes and sigh when you ask me how many sets I have left and I give you a big number.

And don't side-eye me when I'm taking 3-5 minutes of rest between my sets in the squat rack.

Also, don't be too shy or awkward to ask to work-in with someone if you need that equipment. I've never said no.


Up to 5 minutes of rest?! I reserve the right to side-eye you, but I would definitely ask to work in (because I’d assume you were done and just lazing at that point).


That's what my program calls for on some days. 3-5 minutes between sets.

But I do hope you ask to work-in. I'm a super extrovert and love talking to people during workouts but I'm also fully aware that about 99% of people don't want conversation at the gym.

So if you ask to work-in, its a good way to get to know people (but only if you take off the headphones I promise not to bother you if you keep your headphones in)

Also, the funny part about it is that the power lifters are the gym are generally the friendliest and most welcoming of all the gym members. So we love it whenever anyone wants to work in with us


I'm the PP you are responding to. Great response, even though I still think 5 minutes is ridiculous. But I've never been shy about asking to work in, and most lifters are totally cool about it.


FWIW, sometimes I feel ridiculous waiting 5 minutes between sets, but that's really what you need to do at that load. But in a commercial gym, I know I look lazy. But it is what it is


I don't think it looks lazy, but it is just inconvenient when there are other people who want to use the equipment. I get that you can work in, but that's also annoying... I'm a 5'2" woman and we are not going to have the same set up at the squat rack. So we'll have to adjust the height of the bar in between every set? It just seems so inefficient that I just don't end up doing it.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 09:03     Subject: Gym don'ts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So, I'll flip this script.

Don't roll your eyes and sigh when you ask me how many sets I have left and I give you a big number.

And don't side-eye me when I'm taking 3-5 minutes of rest between my sets in the squat rack.

Also, don't be too shy or awkward to ask to work-in with someone if you need that equipment. I've never said no.


Up to 5 minutes of rest?! I reserve the right to side-eye you, but I would definitely ask to work in (because I’d assume you were done and just lazing at that point).


That's what my program calls for on some days. 3-5 minutes between sets.

But I do hope you ask to work-in. I'm a super extrovert and love talking to people during workouts but I'm also fully aware that about 99% of people don't want conversation at the gym.

So if you ask to work-in, its a good way to get to know people (but only if you take off the headphones I promise not to bother you if you keep your headphones in)

Also, the funny part about it is that the power lifters are the gym are generally the friendliest and most welcoming of all the gym members. So we love it whenever anyone wants to work in with us


I'm the PP you are responding to. Great response, even though I still think 5 minutes is ridiculous. But I've never been shy about asking to work in, and most lifters are totally cool about it.


FWIW, sometimes I feel ridiculous waiting 5 minutes between sets, but that's really what you need to do at that load. But in a commercial gym, I know I look lazy. But it is what it is
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 21:38     Subject: Gym don'ts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wear a headset so I dont care about other people's conversations or phone calls as long as they are not conversing while hogging equipment I want to use.

My biggest pet peeve is blocking the squat rack to do anything else than squatting or overhead pressing.

I also find people doing circuits on several machines annoying.


I jump between upper and low body machines (e.g quad and chest press, and then hamstring and shoulder). What is the problem with this? I feel like I'm the one that has to be flexible because often I end up mixing up sets on different machines if someone gets on the lower body, while I'm on the upper body. Or do you mean people "save" machines while they are on another?


Yes, I was talking about people saving the machine while they are not on it. I generally don’t give AF and tell them I will use it while they are not there, but there are people to shy to do that.