So your wife has an eating disorder and now you are worried about it?!?!

You can't be supportive just now because of the baby. She won't listen/trust you because you liked how nice and slim she was when not pregnant. You are messed up and not helping her with her mental issues either. Get the doctors involved now, shut your trap and make sure postpartum she is healthy. She needs support from people who aren't you.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend who had an eating disorder in college only gained 18 pounds with both of her pregnancies. Healthy babies. I think she still has food issues.

Both pregnancies prompted comments from her OB to eat more/gain more. But she ended up with babies weighing 7-8lbs.

OP here. The baby is doing well and is measuring fine. Slightly smaller for a boy but the doctor isn’t concerned.

I think it is food issues. I want to see if she will see a therapist but I don’t want to make her feel bad about it. I know she has issues from past weight gain. She has worked really hard to get her body into shape at a point she felt happy about and then we got pregnant. She had told me she doesn’t plan to breastfeed because she would like to lose the weight quickly and you can’t diet while breastfeeding.

Going to call troll now. There's been a poster who has obsession with posting about pregnant or postpartum women and how much say their husbands should have in things like selecting the OB, breastfeeding, and now weight gain.

If not a troll I feel very sorry for his wife.

OP here. I’m not a troll. Why should you feel sorry for my wife when all I want to do is ensure the safety of her and our baby? I don’t post about any of those other topics on anything. I haven’t cared about who her doctor is or if she breastfeeds. I do care that she has a healthy pregnancy and making sure she does is part of my responsibility as a partner and soon to be parent. I have never said anything or commented about her weight before pregnancy. It’s very different when her health and that of our baby is important.

Yeah, you're definately " the dad has a say" poster.

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Anonymous wrote:How far along is she? How much has she gained? How much did she weigh prior to pregnancy?

OP here. She is 27 weeks and has gained 12lbs. She weight 120lbs or somewhere around there before she got pregnant.

But has the OV told her she needs to gain more weight at this juncture?

OP here. The doctor has told her twice she needs to eat more because she is isn’t gaining enough weight.

It’s concerning that if the doctor told her that she should gain weight — you decided not to mention that in your initial post, but rather added it in three pages in. It’s also concerning that if the doctor believes she should eat more and gain weight you are apparently soliciting suggestions from anonymous strangers INSTEAD of consulting the doctor who surely has some suggestions. Maybe go with her to her next OB appointment so that you’re all hearing the same thing — and ask the doctor for recommendations and possible referrals. This might be everything from meeting with a nutritionist, to suggestions about nutritional supplements to telling you to back off.

This totally reads like trolling though.

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Anonymous wrote:What does she eat in a day? Give us a look into her diet.

OP here. She does eat. She was using app at first to make sure she was getting adequate nutrient level which is how I know how much she eats. I cook most of our meals.

She ate today

Bk: 1 scrambled eggs, 1 piece of whole grain toast, and half of a banana
Snack: 100 calorie pack nuts
Lunch: Salad with veggies and grilled chicken and avocado
Snack: about 2tbsp is hummus with some cucumbers
Dinner: Pasta. About a cup of pasta and sauce with a little of Parmesan cheese

She doesn’t eat anything big for snacks and doesn’t eye anything for about 3 hours before bed because it makes her full. Some days she will chug water as snacks if she had too big of a meal or heavy like pasta for lunch.

So your pan is what? Force her to eat so she feels uncomfortamble and gets sick?

Anonymous wrote:What does she eat in a day? Give us a look into her diet.

OP here. She does eat. She was using app at first to make sure she was getting adequate nutrient level which is how I know how much she eats. I cook most of our meals.

She ate today

Bk: 1 scrambled eggs, 1 piece of whole grain toast, and half of a banana
Snack: 100 calorie pack nuts
Lunch: Salad with veggies and grilled chicken and avocado
Snack: about 2tbsp is hummus with some cucumbers
Dinner: Pasta. About a cup of pasta and sauce with a little of Parmesan cheese

She doesn’t eat anything big for snacks and doesn’t eye anything for about 3 hours before bed because it makes her full. Some days she will chug water as snacks if she had too big of a meal or heavy like pasta for lunch.

Babies are born during war and famine - baby will likely be fine - your wife is probably
Depleted though - the baby is probably taking everything - her eating does sound disordered - perhaps anxiety snd stress w pregnancy have made it worse / a therapist isn’t a bad suggestion

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Anonymous wrote:My friend who had an eating disorder in college only gained 18 pounds with both of her pregnancies. Healthy babies. I think she still has food issues.

Both pregnancies prompted comments from her OB to eat more/gain more. But she ended up with babies weighing 7-8lbs.

OP here. The baby is doing well and is measuring fine. Slightly smaller for a boy but the doctor isn’t concerned.

I think it is food issues. I want to see if she will see a therapist but I don’t want to make her feel bad about it. I know she has issues from past weight gain. She has worked really hard to get her body into shape at a point she felt happy about and then we got pregnant. She had told me she doesn’t plan to breastfeed because she would like to lose the weight quickly and you can’t diet while breastfeeding.

Going to call troll now. There's been a poster who has obsession with posting about pregnant or postpartum women and how much say their husbands should have in things like selecting the OB, breastfeeding, and now weight gain.

If not a troll I feel very sorry for his wife.

OP here. I’m not a troll. Why should you feel sorry for my wife when all I want to do is ensure the safety of her and our baby? I don’t post about any of those other topics on anything. I haven’t cared about who her doctor is or if she breastfeeds. I do care that she has a healthy pregnancy and making sure she does is part of my responsibility as a partner and soon to be parent. I have never said anything or commented about her weight before pregnancy. It’s very different when her health and that of our baby is important.

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Anonymous wrote:How far along is she? How much has she gained? How much did she weigh prior to pregnancy?

OP here. She is 27 weeks and has gained 12lbs. She weight 120lbs or somewhere around there before she got pregnant.

But has the OV told her she needs to gain more weight at this juncture?

OP here. The doctor has told her twice she needs to eat more because she is isn’t gaining enough weight.

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Anonymous wrote:What trimester? Can you make sure she has more healthy food around? What does she consider healthy? Yogurt, fruit, nuts, vegetables… proteins. It’s a struggle to cook and figure out what sounds appealing when you’re pregnant sometimes.

OP here. She is almost in the third trimester. We keep our fridge and pantry well stocked with healthy food. She eats everything you mentioned above. We stick to eating lean proteins, veggies, complex carbs, healthy fats, etc. She doesn’t eat much diary but does eat yogurt regularly. It’s the amount that she is eating that worries me. It doesn’t seem like enough. She also doesn’t eat many foods or won’t treat herself because it’s “ too unhealthy”.

I'm sorry she feels that way. 12 lbs is low for going into the third trimester. And one egg for five hours? Wow. Definitely some eating issues there.

The baby does need fat to develop its brain. If she's planning on nursing this could become an issue also. Babies who aren't fed enough don't sleep well and that tends to create maternal stress and so on. Have you consulted with anyone professional about this? Eating issues this deep definitely need professional help, and you're right that it's better to get a handle on it before the baby comes. Good luck!

OP here. She does eat healthy fats. She doesn’t plan to breastfeed because she plans to do a diet.

What does she eat in a day? Give us a look into her diet.

I think it’s fine. I was a healthy weight with my first and gained 20lb, overweight with my second and gained 10lb. Had gestational diabetes both times and severe vomiting with both as well. Both babies were born full term, a bit over 6lb, which is on the smaller side but still healthy (and I am a pretty small woman so I couldn’t have delivered an 8lb baby vaginally anyway.) If the baby is measuring fine, I would back off. And even if she controls her eating, as long as she’s not anorexic, I’d back off also. Not your body and none of your business since it’s harming neither the baby nor your wife.

Anonymous wrote:I would start buying high calories foods. Full fat diary, protein bars, adding oils and butter to food, etc.

Np. It sounds like op's wife wouldn't eat it. Not sure what you can do op.

Not a doctor but have been pregnant. Unless she’s super tall, her weight gain sounds fine. What does her DOCTOR say? Don’t police her eating. When you’re pregnant, your body tells you when baby is having a growth spurt. There were weeks when I was ravenous but those were few and far between. She should listen to her doctor and her body. OP—you sound anxious and maybe controlling.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend who had an eating disorder in college only gained 18 pounds with both of her pregnancies. Healthy babies. I think she still has food issues.

Both pregnancies prompted comments from her OB to eat more/gain more. But she ended up with babies weighing 7-8lbs.

OP here. The baby is doing well and is measuring fine. Slightly smaller for a boy but the doctor isn’t concerned.

I think it is food issues. I want to see if she will see a therapist but I don’t want to make her feel bad about it. I know she has issues from past weight gain. She has worked really hard to get her body into shape at a point she felt happy about and then we got pregnant. She had told me she doesn’t plan to breastfeed because she would like to lose the weight quickly and you can’t diet while breastfeeding.

Going to call troll now. There's been a poster who has obsession with posting about pregnant or postpartum women and how much say their husbands should have in things like selecting the OB, breastfeeding, and now weight gain.

If not a troll I feel very sorry for his wife.

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Anonymous wrote:Is the doctor concerned with what she's eating and how she's gaining?

OP here. The doctor has told her she needs to bump up calories because she is on the thin side. She’s 27 weeks and has only gained 12lbs. She eats roughly 1500 calories I would guess. She started at 120lbs.

It’s not even the weight. It’s more so the way that I notice she doesn’t eat as much anymore. I know women eat smaller meals as they get further along, but she will eat like a boiled egg and claim she is full for 5 hours. If she is hungry and she has “ ate too much”, she just drinks a ton of water to stop the hunger. She does this with with her cravings too.

I wouldn’t nag her about this, OP. I think for many people, weight comes at the end as she’s still got close to 3 months to go.

Exactly.