Anonymous
Post 09/20/2021 10:20     Subject: S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My younger DD is very cute and objectively more beautiful than my average-looking older one, but the older one is much more confident, outgoing, and popular. Younger DD is just naturally more sensitive and anxious, and being attractive doesn’t cure that.


Same experience for me but flipped. My older daughter is objectively very beautiful, with striking features that strangers frequently come up and comment on. She also loves to dress up and is have her hair done in fancy styles, but she is more reserved/timid and has struggled with making friends in elementary school. My younger daughter in contrast. My younger daughter, in contrast, I of course think is adorable, but doesn’t elicit outside commentary, battles me on a daily basis to just pull her hair out of her face and manages to come home each day looking like a tornado hit her. However she is extremely outgoing and confident and very popular among her classmates with constant requests for play dates, always at the center of games, etc.


This is like a friend of my DD's, who's 12, who I think is objectively incredibly beautiful -- green eyes with long dark eyelashes that outline her eyes (that kid will never need eyeliner), really beautiful features. She is not popular at all. Because she is also socially awkward, shy, can't seem to fit in the "flow" of tween conversation. I don't think she has ASD (because I'm sure someone will suggest it), it's just that she's not a naturally extroverted social kid. I can absolutely see her growing up to be some famous model who then claims she was bullied as a kid, and nobody will believe it's true, but it will be.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2021 07:03     Subject: S/O what makes a little kid good looking
My kids are model level gorgeous (I hear from strangers all the time) and not particularly successful socially.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2021 03:50     Subject: Re:S/O what makes a little kid good looking
I have a kindergartner and I have zero idea if she’s popular are not, are you kidding me?! I know she has at least 3-4 friends she talks to because I see her play with them at the playground. But I think the idea of K popularity, other than wanting your own child not to get picked on and to be happy with at least 1 friend, is strange. On the other hand, I admit to some anxiety about my 6th grader…
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2021 03:32     Subject: S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Drop the naive act. Of course some kids are better looking than others.

Even if you lived in a wolf pack as a child, or with a tribe of gorillas, physical beauty is an early and constant determiner of social rank.

You are just being obtuse to provoke comment.


This. Come on OP. You don’t find some kids more pleasant to look at than others?! I don’t buy it for one second.


I might be projecting, but I think she’s implying that very few people are objectively beautiful. I often see people who I consider plain/just cute receiving the label.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 21:14     Subject: S/O what makes a little kid good looking
My 5 year old son is a clone of his father and already a handsome little devil. Genetically my son is northern European with a quarter Mexican in his bloodline. He has dirty blonde hair and green eyes.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 20:43     Subject: Re:S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Everyone has a different opinion of beauty but some kids are just naturally more attractive.

We are Asian. My daughter is an Asian beauty. Who knows if her little blonde friends think she is pretty?


If other Asians besides mom & dad think that she's beautiful, then so would the blondes. The fundamentals of beauty are more cross-cultural than you would think.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201403/is-beauty-in-the-eye-the-beholder


NP. That's not what that article says at all.

I was going to come here and immediately say "blonde hair and blue eyes." That is very clearly an OVERSTATEMENT, but if I had a nickel for every rather plan white kid who was mooned over by adults because they had light eyes and hair, I could quit my job for at least six months. Yes blah blah it's getting better, and more kids of color are being recognized as beautiful by even white people, but I basically don't know a blue-eyed blonde who isn't gushed over, no matter their facial symmetry or literally any of their other features, assuming no disfigurement or visible disability (another issue).


I don’t think this is true at all. Not all blondes are beautiful. There are some who are but definitely not all. There are several who are super plain. I actually think some Hispanic little girls are beautiful and mixed race kids. I feel style, money and grooming may matter more as they get older but when they are young, I think these girls are the most beautiful.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 19:55     Subject: Re:S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Everyone has a different opinion of beauty but some kids are just naturally more attractive.

We are Asian. My daughter is an Asian beauty. Who knows if her little blonde friends think she is pretty?


If other Asians besides mom & dad think that she's beautiful, then so would the blondes. The fundamentals of beauty are more cross-cultural than you would think.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201403/is-beauty-in-the-eye-the-beholder


NP. That's not what that article says at all.

I was going to come here and immediately say "blonde hair and blue eyes." That is very clearly an OVERSTATEMENT, but if I had a nickel for every rather plan white kid who was mooned over by adults because they had light eyes and hair, I could quit my job for at least six months. Yes blah blah it's getting better, and more kids of color are being recognized as beautiful by even white people, but I basically don't know a blue-eyed blonde who isn't gushed over, no matter their facial symmetry or literally any of their other features, assuming no disfigurement or visible disability (another issue).
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 19:36     Subject: Re:S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

What does defined patterns mean wrt hair?


I think she means there are no "it" hairstyles that all the kids are trying to do. The hairstyles range widely. Different than when I was in school - the girls all wore their hair the same.

No, it's a mom of boys talking about use of product. They think you should use product to style boy hair.


It means defining your curls. Your curl pattern
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 18:58     Subject: S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:My younger DD is very cute and objectively more beautiful than my average-looking older one, but the older one is much more confident, outgoing, and popular. Younger DD is just naturally more sensitive and anxious, and being attractive doesn’t cure that.


Same experience for me but flipped. My older daughter is objectively very beautiful, with striking features that strangers frequently come up and comment on. She also loves to dress up and is have her hair done in fancy styles, but she is more reserved/timid and has struggled with making friends in elementary school. My younger daughter in contrast. My younger daughter, in contrast, I of course think is adorable, but doesn’t elicit outside commentary, battles me on a daily basis to just pull her hair out of her face and manages to come home each day looking like a tornado hit her. However she is extremely outgoing and confident and very popular among her classmates with constant requests for play dates, always at the center of games, etc.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 17:26     Subject: Re:S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:Stringy, undone hair on a girl never helps. If you don't want to do your daughter's hair or they won't let you, then cut it into a bob.


What is “undone” hair? You mean wearing it down?
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 17:22     Subject: S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:Re: the popularity in kindergarten thread, it seems that besides being eaay going, the popular kids are good looking. But I'm wondering what makes a little kid physically attractive? Of course I think my 5 yo DS is the most adorable but that's clouded by my mommy love. Kids that age aren't doing any enhancements like highlights, brow shaping, make-up etc.

They're all just cute little kids and for the life of me I don't see any one that stands out in DS's K. Or do kids gauge attractiveness differently amongst themselves and I should be cutting DS's hair differently or stepping up his outfits. There's one preppy boy in his class with super coordinated mini prepster outfits but even though I think they're cute, DS told me the other boys think he dresses weird and don't really play with him. Yes, that became a lesson on kindness and inclusion.

Just my Sunday musings. Popularity in little kids is such a foreign concept to me.


I haven’t noticed that the popular kids are necessarily always the most attractive kids. But it usually is true that more “popular” adults tend to be more attractive in my experience so it would make sense that popular adults have popular kids and if popular adults are more likely to also be attractive they probably are also more likely to have attractive kids.

But come on, op. Some kids are way cuter than others. Every kid is cute in their own way (to people who like kids at least) just by virtue of being little kids but some kids are a lot cuter than others.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 16:48     Subject: Re:S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

What does defined patterns mean wrt hair?


I think she means there are no "it" hairstyles that all the kids are trying to do. The hairstyles range widely. Different than when I was in school - the girls all wore their hair the same.

No, it's a mom of boys talking about use of product. They think you should use product to style boy hair.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 16:47     Subject: Re:S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Stringy, undone hair on a girl never helps. If you don't want to do your daughter's hair or they won't let you, then cut it into a bob.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 16:41     Subject: Re:S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

What does defined patterns mean wrt hair?


I think she means there are no "it" hairstyles that all the kids are trying to do. The hairstyles range widely. Different than when I was in school - the girls all wore their hair the same.


I took it to mean something totally different. I assumed kid had curly hair and mom is using product to make ringlets or clean up the curl pattern. So maybe I'm way off.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2021 16:37     Subject: Re:S/O what makes a little kid good looking
Anonymous wrote:

What does defined patterns mean wrt hair?


I think she means there are no "it" hairstyles that all the kids are trying to do. The hairstyles range widely. Different than when I was in school - the girls all wore their hair the same.