Anonymous
Post 09/18/2021 15:04     Subject: Re:What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Regular ear piercings but anything else has to wait until they're 18 and pay for it themselves. We've gone over extensively the piercings that can be more problematic like tongue piercings.


Not trying to call out this poster specifically, but I see a lot of references like the bolded. And I find it interesting. It seems that much of the concern is based on doing something that society does not view as "regular." Of course, there are issues with certain piercings that can lead to permanent damage, but most do not- nose, cartilage, navel, etc. The only difference is what is "regular" or "normal." I side on letting my kid (15yo) get whatever she wants that she can pay for, so long as it isn't permanent. I don't set up conflicts on things that are personal expression. I have LOTS of battles to fight elsewhere!


Your post brings up an interesting point, many of these opinions are based around white, fundamental Christian norms even if the posters are not aware of it. For example, the idea that more than one ear piercing or a nose piercing is trashy.


That very well may be, but I challenge you to go into professional setting and observe if the people running things have a bunch of piercings in their face or tattoos all over their body. My GYN is not white or male. Neither is the cardiologist I saw a few years ago. And pretty much all of the people I work with in the USG (more white and male than elsewhere, but not entirely) don't have visible piercings or tattoos.

The simple truth is that people don't take you seriously as an adult if you are all tatted up and punched full of holes. Make of it what you will.


Sure, but your 17yo isn't currently a cardiologist, so the nose stud won't matter. And I'm willing to bet that a good percentage of those doctors you go to have a tattoo somewhere, and may have had more piercings when they were younger....
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2021 15:02     Subject: Re:What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.



+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.


How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.



You threaten to stop paying their college tuition.

Honestly, it’s all about family rules and expectations.


This is what I started the other thread about. I'm with you on having rules and expectations. But sometimes kids break those rules and fail to meet those expectations. Your kid comes home for winter break with a nose stud. Do you really stop paying tuition?
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2021 13:19     Subject: Re:What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.



+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.


How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.



You threaten to stop paying their college tuition.

Honestly, it’s all about family rules and expectations.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2021 13:08     Subject: Re:What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Regular ear piercings but anything else has to wait until they're 18 and pay for it themselves. We've gone over extensively the piercings that can be more problematic like tongue piercings.


Not trying to call out this poster specifically, but I see a lot of references like the bolded. And I find it interesting. It seems that much of the concern is based on doing something that society does not view as "regular." Of course, there are issues with certain piercings that can lead to permanent damage, but most do not- nose, cartilage, navel, etc. The only difference is what is "regular" or "normal." I side on letting my kid (15yo) get whatever she wants that she can pay for, so long as it isn't permanent. I don't set up conflicts on things that are personal expression. I have LOTS of battles to fight elsewhere!


Your post brings up an interesting point, many of these opinions are based around white, fundamental Christian norms even if the posters are not aware of it. For example, the idea that more than one ear piercing or a nose piercing is trashy.


That very well may be, but I challenge you to go into professional setting and observe if the people running things have a bunch of piercings in their face or tattoos all over their body. My GYN is not white or male. Neither is the cardiologist I saw a few years ago. And pretty much all of the people I work with in the USG (more white and male than elsewhere, but not entirely) don't have visible piercings or tattoos.

The simple truth is that people don't take you seriously as an adult if you are all tatted up and punched full of holes. Make of it what you will.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2021 13:03     Subject: What is your Body Piercing Policy?
I’ve said that they can do what they want when they go to college but I’d assume they’ll do due diligence in investigating pros and cons and talk to people who have done it already before making a decision.

Oldest has zero interest in anything beyond her single ear piercings (she’s squeamish and not into trendy looks anyway) and the younger has 3 ear piercings but says she won’t go further after spending an evening in the ER with a roommate who got an infection in a piercing. I feel like she may get a discreet tattoo someday but she’s been vocal about not liking extensive ones that other friends/family have.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2021 12:24     Subject: What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Anonymous wrote:Can you show it to Dad? Can it cause damage (that one is specifically for something like the tongue). Thats our only policy. That and to make sure its a reputable and clean place.

All it ended up being was double ears and a helix.


I'm sorry but when people say this (about anything regarding their kids, especially their daughters), it makes my skin crawl.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2021 12:21     Subject: Re:What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
My kids would have a heart attack if they knew about my piercing that they can't see.

My policy is make a case, I will listen, we can discuss pros and cons, then go from there.


Go on...


I have a hood piercing


Is that something you get on your car?


Do you really not know the female anatomy?


Do you really not know sarcasm? -NP


I studied anatomy. There was no mention of a hood.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2021 00:18     Subject: Re:What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.



+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.


How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2021 00:06     Subject: Re:What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Regular ear piercings but anything else has to wait until they're 18 and pay for it themselves. We've gone over extensively the piercings that can be more problematic like tongue piercings.


Not trying to call out this poster specifically, but I see a lot of references like the bolded. And I find it interesting. It seems that much of the concern is based on doing something that society does not view as "regular." Of course, there are issues with certain piercings that can lead to permanent damage, but most do not- nose, cartilage, navel, etc. The only difference is what is "regular" or "normal." I side on letting my kid (15yo) get whatever she wants that she can pay for, so long as it isn't permanent. I don't set up conflicts on things that are personal expression. I have LOTS of battles to fight elsewhere!


Your post brings up an interesting point, many of these opinions are based around white, fundamental Christian norms even if the posters are not aware of it. For example, the idea that more than one ear piercing or a nose piercing is trashy.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2021 23:31     Subject: What is your Body Piercing Policy?
I don't have a policy but my kids know how sad it looks on people over 40.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2021 23:13     Subject: Re:What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.



+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2021 22:39     Subject: What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Single ear piercing and that’s it. Nose piercing is the trashiest thing ever. Don’t let them do it
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2021 22:37     Subject: What is your Body Piercing Policy?
My son wanted to get his ear pierced at 13. We said no, you have to wait until you're 16. He got his ear pierced at 16. Our reasoning was to get him to dwell on it for awhile and be certain he really wanted it. He did.

Our daughter wanted her ears pierced at age 6 and we had her wait until she was 10. A bit of a double standard I know but the basic principle was the same.

Tattoos, only at 18 and they pay for it. I have been shocked at how much young people will pay for tattoos, like over $500. Total waste of money to me.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2021 22:13     Subject: Re:What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2021 21:25     Subject: What is your Body Piercing Policy?
Can you show it to Dad? Can it cause damage (that one is specifically for something like the tongue). Thats our only policy. That and to make sure its a reputable and clean place.

All it ended up being was double ears and a helix.