Anonymous wrote:Rehoming adopted kids is much more common than you'd think. However, it's not usually a big deal like this because it is done by "ordinary" people instead of "pseudo-celebs" like this.

And for all of those fighting over whether or not an agency can control if you get pregnant after adoption, no, they obviously can't control your sex life, but they can deny finalization for any number of reasons, one of which is getting pregnant soon after adopting.

I grew up in the system and was legally free (aka, a ward of the state, which usually means a quick adoption). I was rehomed twice.

First time, the adopted family got pregnant right after adopting me. I was their good luck charm. They'd wanted a baby forEVer! They couldn't believe it. Tried for years! YEARS! So much money was spent and then they adopted me and boom, pregnant. Can you believe it? "Please, feel free to take anything we bought for you in your room."

Second time I don't know why, but I suspect it was because a baby became available for fostering to adopt or adoption.

I am so sorry that happened to you. You deserved better. You are right that an agency can stop finalization for a domestic adoption, because in domestic adoption there's a period of time between placement and finalization.

In this case, the adoption was finalized in China, at which point she wasn't pregnant.

This is what happens to rehomed kids (warning-sensitive):
https://people.com/crime/tenn-couple-charged-skeletal-remains-little-girl/

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, how many videos does she have? Does she even spend any time outside the taping with her kids? Who would even watch that stuff when its pure marketing products?

Hahaha oh sweetie. Are you new to the world of social media influencers? This is the “it” thing now. I know a family on YouTube with a big channel, four kids and the parents are 27 and 29 and they make over $200k a year on YouTube alone, living in NC.

No I'm not and I know they can make a fortune but its just sick they'd do that to their kids.

Rehoming adopted kids is much more common than you'd think. However, it's not usually a big deal like this because it is done by "ordinary" people instead of "pseudo-celebs" like this.

And for all of those fighting over whether or not an agency can control if you get pregnant after adoption, no, they obviously can't control your sex life, but they can deny finalization for any number of reasons, one of which is getting pregnant soon after adopting.

I grew up in the system and was legally free (aka, a ward of the state, which usually means a quick adoption). I was rehomed twice.

First time, the adopted family got pregnant right after adopting me. I was their good luck charm. They'd wanted a baby forEVer! They couldn't believe it. Tried for years! YEARS! So much money was spent and then they adopted me and boom, pregnant. Can you believe it? "Please, feel free to take anything we bought for you in your room."

Second time I don't know why, but I suspect it was because a baby became available for fostering to adopt or adoption.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, how many videos does she have? Does she even spend any time outside the taping with her kids? Who would even watch that stuff when its pure marketing products?

Hahaha oh sweetie. Are you new to the world of social media influencers? This is the “it” thing now. I know a family on YouTube with a big channel, four kids and the parents are 27 and 29 and they make over $200k a year on YouTube alone, living in NC.

So low class and tacky to make a living off exploiting your kids’ privacy. What nasty people. Do people follow these people for the train wreck aspect?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

Or, if they misbehave they will be given away.

Oh shut the hell up

This would be a very real concern for a child after a sibling is given away by the parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

Or, if they misbehave they will be given away.

Oh shut the hell up

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Anonymous wrote:She duct tape his hands because she didn't want Huxley to suck his thumbs. What I don't understand is, if Huxley was high needs, why did they decide to have another baby after adopting him? They're obviously incredibly irresponsible, and were abusive to Huxley. I'm glad he is no longer with them.

She put tape on his thumb to stop him from sucking it which was recommended by a dr. YEARS ago (5+), i nannied for a 5 year old girl with autism and the therapist told the mom to do this as well.

ABA therapists are often abusive and tell parents things like that. It's your job to be educated when you choose medical providers for your child.

In this case, however, in the video mom says the recommendation was made by a dentist. Any adoptive parent who has done anything knows that attachment and self regulation are the most important pieces during those first months. Where were the post adoption professionals when she allowed that?

We did ABA. There was absolutely no abuse involved and the provider was sweet and lovely. It did nothing for my child but that's a different issue. There are abusive providers and therapists everywhere and its a parents job to monitor and find a good one.

No excuse for taping a child's hand.

I'm glad you had a good experience. I didn't say ABA providers are all abusive, but it's common enough that parents need to be evaluating carefully and continually. Taping a child's hand with duct tape is abusive. And a parent who allows it is enabling that abuse.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, how many videos does she have? Does she even spend any time outside the taping with her kids? Who would even watch that stuff when its pure marketing products?

Hahaha oh sweetie. Are you new to the world of social media influencers? This is the “it” thing now. I know a family on YouTube with a big channel, four kids and the parents are 27 and 29 and they make over $200k a year on YouTube alone, living in NC.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised they didn’t try to cocoon with him, that is big in adoption circles.

Moving and having a new baby soon after adopting are big no no’s in that community.

The adoption agency should never have approved a new baby right after adoption. Most have rules against it or ask you to put your adoption on hold.

It doesn't work that way.

Some agencies have strict rules against it, others don't.

Lmao & what is an agency going to do if the mom gets pregnant again? Force her to abort? Like really?

They stop the adoption process and put the application on hold a year.

He'd been home a year when she got pregnant. You can't stop an adoption process and put it on hold when the child is home and finalized.

This

Have never heard of these people before but wow, what vapid gross animals. Poor Huxley and Her poor other kids, living their childhood in fear that they will be given away too.

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Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

Many families who have children with severe autism have them in residential care.

Untrue. There is a tiny percentage of kids in residential care. They have to qualify for medicaid and impossible to care for at home. That is almost never a 4 year old. It is mostly big strong teenagers who can no longer be safely contained at home.

There really aren't many places in the entire country for children 8 and under. I have seen some incredibly violent 4 year olds in my classroom and there is nowhere for them to go and not much help available to them. It's heartbreaking.

Yes, there are but she could have gotten more supports in the home. Our insurance approved us for 40 hours a week of ABA, plus OT and ST. There are options out there. Thankfully we didn't need close to it but there is help to most depending on your insurance. Plus, the school system. She didn't put the effort into it.

Have kids been getting services during this Coronavirus stuff?

No.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

Or, if they misbehave they will be given away.

Right! There is no longer any doubt that Mom will take the nuclear option if she gets fed up enough. Watch out!

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

Or, if they misbehave they will be given away.

Wow, how many videos does she have? Does she even spend any time outside the taping with her kids? Who would even watch that stuff when its pure marketing products?