Anonymous
04/10/2019 11:37
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.
Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.
Yes, and a lot of you are nuts too.
Here is the thing. In this thread, you have been absolutely and totally freaking out about people who use #boymom. You are prejudiced against them, labeling them, accusing them of raising rapists, equating little boys to being sexual assaulters (see the slam book post, though strangely quiet about the fact that both boys and girls engage in that behavior).
I've never used #boymom in my life and am unlikely to start, but I have never once seen it used in anything other than a wry, humorous fashion by moms of toddlers and little boys. I have never seen anything close to behavior that warrants the vitriol and nastiness spouted on this thread. Prior to this thread, I thought it was kind of a stupid thing you would see on Twitter maybe, or possibly Instagram, and not too often. If I thought about it, I thought it was stupid at best.
Now that I've read this thread and seen the level of paranoia, nastiness, and just plain irrational hate directed at these women (and their little boys, for God's sake!), I want to cheer the women who use #boymom on. I still will never use it, but the reactions in this thread are so over-the-top and literally irrational, that it's pretty hard for me to take you seriously. I mean, there was a mom here who linked it to femicide in rural third world countries, which is just so beyond rational it's hard to believe. (And subsequently accused those moms who use #boymom of not caring about femicide.) I am sorry, but that's wholly irrational and frankly bizarre behavior. There are real problems in life. The use of #boymom by a few toddler moms on Insta is not one of them.
I think that the mom who is talking about how the lot of you must be jealous of sporty sons is also nuts. But it's just plain outright true that the majority of the really crazy posts on this thread, the ones that are nasty, out-of-control, and show deep instability, have been from the anti-boymom posters.
You have attributed to me multiple posts that aren't mine (although, I wasn't saying the boymoms don't care about femicide, I was saying it's laughable for them to whine that girls are the preferred sex in this country, given not only femicide but, hello, much higher rates of violence perpetrated towards girls and women). You've posted multiple times on this thread things that are absolutely ludicrous.
See the PP directly above for a cogent explanation of why the boymom thing is an issue. If you disagree, fine. But stop disparaging those of us who refuse to (1) parent based on gender stereotypes and (2) ignore our children's poor behavior. If your takeaway from this thread is that gender stereotypes and poor behavior are grand things, then you're the one with the problem.
+1. Very well said.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 11:16
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.
Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.
Yes, and a lot of you are nuts too.
Here is the thing. In this thread, you have been absolutely and totally freaking out about people who use #boymom. You are prejudiced against them, labeling them, accusing them of raising rapists, equating little boys to being sexual assaulters (see the slam book post, though strangely quiet about the fact that both boys and girls engage in that behavior).
I've never used #boymom in my life and am unlikely to start, but I have never once seen it used in anything other than a wry, humorous fashion by moms of toddlers and little boys. I have never seen anything close to behavior that warrants the vitriol and nastiness spouted on this thread. Prior to this thread, I thought it was kind of a stupid thing you would see on Twitter maybe, or possibly Instagram, and not too often. If I thought about it, I thought it was stupid at best.
Now that I've read this thread and seen the level of paranoia, nastiness, and just plain irrational hate directed at these women (and their little boys, for God's sake!), I want to cheer the women who use #boymom on. I still will never use it, but the reactions in this thread are so over-the-top and literally irrational, that it's pretty hard for me to take you seriously. I mean, there was a mom here who linked it to femicide in rural third world countries, which is just so beyond rational it's hard to believe. (And subsequently accused those moms who use #boymom of not caring about femicide.) I am sorry, but that's wholly irrational and frankly bizarre behavior. There are real problems in life. The use of #boymom by a few toddler moms on Insta is not one of them.
I think that the mom who is talking about how the lot of you must be jealous of sporty sons is also nuts. But it's just plain outright true that the majority of the really crazy posts on this thread, the ones that are nasty, out-of-control, and show deep instability, have been from the anti-boymom posters.
You have attributed to me multiple posts that aren't mine (although, I wasn't saying the boymoms don't care about femicide, I was saying it's laughable for them to whine that girls are the preferred sex in this country, given not only femicide but, hello, much higher rates of violence perpetrated towards girls and women). You've posted multiple times on this thread things that are absolutely ludicrous.
See the PP directly above for a cogent explanation of why the boymom thing is an issue. If you disagree, fine. But stop disparaging those of us who refuse to (1) parent based on gender stereotypes and (2) ignore our children's poor behavior. If your takeaway from this thread is that gender stereotypes and poor behavior are grand things, then you're the one with the problem.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 11:05
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.
Sorry.. is this even English?
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:56
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.
Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.
Yes, and a lot of you are nuts too.
Here is the thing. In this thread, you have been absolutely and totally freaking out about people who use #boymom. You are prejudiced against them, labeling them, accusing them of raising rapists, equating little boys to being sexual assaulters (see the slam book post, though strangely quiet about the fact that both boys and girls engage in that behavior).
I've never used #boymom in my life and am unlikely to start, but I have never once seen it used in anything other than a wry, humorous fashion by moms of toddlers and little boys. I have never seen anything close to behavior that warrants the vitriol and nastiness spouted on this thread. Prior to this thread, I thought it was kind of a stupid thing you would see on Twitter maybe, or possibly Instagram, and not too often. If I thought about it, I thought it was stupid at best.
Now that I've read this thread and seen the level of paranoia, nastiness, and just plain irrational hate directed at these women (and their little boys, for God's sake!), I want to cheer the women who use #boymom on. I still will never use it, but the reactions in this thread are so over-the-top and literally irrational, that it's pretty hard for me to take you seriously. I mean, there was a mom here who linked it to femicide in rural third world countries, which is just so beyond rational it's hard to believe. (And subsequently accused those moms who use #boymom of not caring about femicide.) I am sorry, but that's wholly irrational and frankly bizarre behavior. There are real problems in life. The use of #boymom by a few toddler moms on Insta is not one of them.
I think that the mom who is talking about how the lot of you must be jealous of sporty sons is also nuts. But it's just plain outright true that the majority of the really crazy posts on this thread, the ones that are nasty, out-of-control, and show deep instability, have been from the anti-boymom posters.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:52
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.
Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.
So you are anti boy and you have sons? Wow
I’m sick of the crazy moms. I’ve had a few #boymom type friends who I’ve had to drop. They were happy to commiserate and laugh about the boys needing to burn off energy at the playground even after a full morning of sports camp. We joked about all the laundry. But the moment I mentioned anything that was easier with my sons vs my daughter they would go nuts that I must be mistaken because NOTHING is easier with boys! When I said that it was easier to teach my oldest son table manners than my daughters, they insist this cannot be. #Boymom to me is all about creating a narrative that boys are wild animals and give yourself excuses not to parent - because everything is so much easier with girls. My children are well behaved and my (former) friend used to suggest that I had it easier with 2 boys and 1 girl because the sister would be a calming influence on the boys. Never mind all the kids were super athletic and high energy. According to her it was much harder to take care of 2 boys than 2 boys and 1 girl.
#Boymoms need to get over themselves. It’s very much possible to have active boys who are well behaved.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:49
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op of the ranking post - these are actually the “dumb jock” type of kids who made this ranking system. So, basically the potential future Kavanaughs. These boys are so entitled and little jerks already.
But when the girls do it, you are totally fine with it, let me guess.
No, and I’m the one you accused. And he mom who punished her DD for this behavior is I guess a girlmom by default as she has 2 DDs, no sons. Good moms correct their children.
There are so many confused people on this thread. Being a mom to a boy doesn't make you a #boymom. Having only daughters doesn't make you a #girlmom. It's what you're doing with your parenting that puts you in the hashtag realm.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:47
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op of the ranking post - these are actually the “dumb jock” type of kids who made this ranking system. So, basically the potential future Kavanaughs. These boys are so entitled and little jerks already.
But when the girls do it, you are totally fine with it, let me guess.
But at all. I’m a mom of girls and boys and don’t condone any of this bs.
So then if it's #boymom that causes this in boys, can you tell me what causes this in girls? Because I distinctly get the feeling that many of the (granted, more unhinged) anti-boymom posters in this thread would celebrate this behavior in girls. The fact they think it's #boymom in boys... but nothing? nbd? in girls is pretty awful.
I'm:
a mom to a boy
anti #boymom
anti mean girls
anti ranking system by either gender
I believe #boymoms and #meangirlmoms are cut from the same cloth and often times both at once.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:47
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.
Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.
So you are anti boy and you have sons? Wow
DP. Man, you’re awful. PP who is anti-boymom, the rational world understands you.
Thanks, PP. I completely agree the PP who referred to me as anti-boy is awful.
I don't condone bad behavior in my sons or in my daughter, nor do I ascribe their every action to their sex. Period.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:43
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op of the ranking post - these are actually the “dumb jock” type of kids who made this ranking system. So, basically the potential future Kavanaughs. These boys are so entitled and little jerks already.
But when the girls do it, you are totally fine with it, let me guess.
But at all. I’m a mom of girls and boys and don’t condone any of this bs.
So then if it's #boymom that causes this in boys, can you tell me what causes this in girls? Because I distinctly get the feeling that many of the (granted, more unhinged) anti-boymom posters in this thread would celebrate this behavior in girls. The fact they think it's #boymom in boys... but nothing? nbd? in girls is pretty awful.
You’re making things up.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:43
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op of the ranking post - these are actually the “dumb jock” type of kids who made this ranking system. So, basically the potential future Kavanaughs. These boys are so entitled and little jerks already.
But when the girls do it, you are totally fine with it, let me guess.
No, and I’m the one you accused. And he mom who punished her DD for this behavior is I guess a girlmom by default as she has 2 DDs, no sons. Good moms correct their children.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:43
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op of the ranking post - these are actually the “dumb jock” type of kids who made this ranking system. So, basically the potential future Kavanaughs. These boys are so entitled and little jerks already.
But when the girls do it, you are totally fine with it, let me guess.
But at all. I’m a mom of girls and boys and don’t condone any of this bs.
So then if it's #boymom that causes this in boys, can you tell me what causes this in girls? Because I distinctly get the feeling that many of the (granted, more unhinged) anti-boymom posters in this thread would celebrate this behavior in girls. The fact they think it's #boymom in boys... but nothing? nbd? in girls is pretty awful.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:41
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.
Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.
So you are anti boy and you have sons? Wow
DP. Man, you’re awful. PP who is anti-boymom, the rational world understands you.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:32
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.
Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.
So you are anti boy and you have sons? Wow
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:31
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
*Not at all.
Anonymous
04/10/2019 10:30
Subject: I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T
Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.
Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.