Get over yourself OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m over it. People can do what they want and I can go or not go, and I am not going to feel bad if kids weren’t invited and I can’t go.

I will say one side of my family didn’t invite kids historically, but then I invited kids to my wedding and they thought it was so nice that now they have started to invite kids.

This. My own parents are deceased and I had to go to herculean efforts to attend my brother-in-law's wedding without kids. I was asked to be a "reader" in the church service before I was told it was kids-free wedding on the other coast. So I had to fly my kids across the country and then drive hours to leave them with a trusted friend to attend the wedding. I was irritated the whole weekend. Would have been much happier skipping it.

Nope, reading is not a requirement. You didn't have to go. You could have chosen to decline.

Don't bitch about your own choices. Own your choices.

She was asked and said yes before the no kids dictate came down. So not on her but on brother for not telling her before commuting.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m over it. People can do what they want and I can go or not go, and I am not going to feel bad if kids weren’t invited and I can’t go.

I will say one side of my family didn’t invite kids historically, but then I invited kids to my wedding and they thought it was so nice that now they have started to invite kids.

This. My own parents are deceased and I had to go to herculean efforts to attend my brother-in-law's wedding without kids. I was asked to be a "reader" in the church service before I was told it was kids-free wedding on the other coast. So I had to fly my kids across the country and then drive hours to leave them with a trusted friend to attend the wedding. I was irritated the whole weekend. Would have been much happier skipping it.

Nope, reading is not a requirement. You didn't have to go. You could have chosen to decline.

Don't bitch about your own choices. Own your choices.

OP didn't have a wedding so no cute kids and no family so basically she can STFU about what SIL wants to do for her wedding.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of people will agree with you, but a lot of people here won’t. When I was a kid, kids were invited to all the weddings my family was invited to. I’m not sure when this changed.

Weddings are in large part a celebration of the idea of family. Circle of life and all that conveys.

When weddings are in the local fire hall with the community coming together to prepare the food and make traditional cookies, then the kids are invited. When the wedding is $100/plate at a fancy venue, they aren't invited.

Even the fanciest places do a children's plate for $20ish. NBD.

These are things you negotiate with the hotel/caterer.

NP I had a black tie wedding. Didn’t know any kids other than my ringbearer who was invited of course. His kids meal was$100 plus I provided him with a bucket of entertainment likes camera and bubbles and coloring books. $100 gets expensive quick, especially when parents aren’t giving larger gifts because their kids were invited.

I’m in the no kids camp unless they’re your nieces and nephews. I don’t believe kids should be there with alcohol and dancing

What's wrong with kids being around dancing? Why can't kids be around alcohol? Does that mean you never drink in front of your kids at home?

Dancing gets crowded and wild, esp with a live band. Kids rolling like logs on the dance floor is an accident waiting to happen. And no, I don’t get drunk in front of my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of people will agree with you, but a lot of people here won’t. When I was a kid, kids were invited to all the weddings my family was invited to. I’m not sure when this changed.

Weddings are in large part a celebration of the idea of family. Circle of life and all that conveys.

When weddings are in the local fire hall with the community coming together to prepare the food and make traditional cookies, then the kids are invited. When the wedding is $100/plate at a fancy venue, they aren't invited.

Even the fanciest places do a children's plate for $20ish. NBD.

These are things you negotiate with the hotel/caterer.

NP I had a black tie wedding. Didn’t know any kids other than my ringbearer who was invited of course. His kids meal was$100 plus I provided him with a bucket of entertainment likes camera and bubbles and coloring books. $100 gets expensive quick, especially when parents aren’t giving larger gifts because their kids were invited.

I’m in the no kids camp unless they’re your nieces and nephews. I don’t believe kids should be there with alcohol and dancing

What's wrong with kids being around dancing? Why can't kids be around alcohol? Does that mean you never drink in front of your kids at home?

Anonymous wrote:I’m over it. People can do what they want and I can go or not go, and I am not going to feel bad if kids weren’t invited and I can’t go.

I will say one side of my family didn’t invite kids historically, but then I invited kids to my wedding and they thought it was so nice that now they have started to invite kids.

This. My own parents are deceased and I had to go to herculean efforts to attend my brother-in-law's wedding without kids. I was asked to be a "reader" in the church service before I was told it was kids-free wedding on the other coast. So I had to fly my kids across the country and then drive hours to leave them with a trusted friend to attend the wedding. I was irritated the whole weekend. Would have been much happier skipping it.

I didn’t invite children to my wedding because several of my cousin’s kids are little terrors, and I didn’t want to have to justify inviting some children but not others. In order for no one to feel their kids were excluded, we just decided no kids at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Fml we were just invited to dhs cousins wedding. Our toddler and baby weren’t invited and dh isn’t interested in leaving them so we were going to rsvp no. If we were closer to the cousin or didn’t need to fly it would be different.

Anyways, MIL is raising hell that my babies weren’t invited. Ugh. I’m so embarrassed for the bride. We don’t want to go and they don’t want us. My infant sleeps at 6:30pm! I wish we could get a babysitter there but dh is really overprotective and this wouldn’t happen.

This is happening here, except it’s my cousin and my mother and grandmother who are being crazy.

I’m going, DH is staying home with our kid. Everyone in our house is fine with this, but my mother and grandmother literally will not let it go. I’ve asked them repeatedly to knock it off.

Pp here. Dh doesn’t want to go without me. I offered that up. But it’s also not fair to our nuclear family. He travels every week mon-thurs. I need his help and my kids need their dad on weekends. I think my MIL is being unfair to the bride to even ask her. Weddings aren’t family reunions.

Anonymous wrote:Fml we were just invited to dhs cousins wedding. Our toddler and baby weren’t invited and dh isn’t interested in leaving them so we were going to rsvp no. If we were closer to the cousin or didn’t need to fly it would be different.

Anyways, MIL is raising hell that my babies weren’t invited. Ugh. I’m so embarrassed for the bride. We don’t want to go and they don’t want us. My infant sleeps at 6:30pm! I wish we could get a babysitter there but dh is really overprotective and this wouldn’t happen.

This is happening here, except it’s my cousin and my mother and grandmother who are being crazy.

I’m going, DH is staying home with our kid. Everyone in our house is fine with this, but my mother and grandmother literally will not let it go. I’ve asked them repeatedly to knock it off.

Anonymous wrote:Those of you who want to bring your kids to weddings- what time are your kids going to bed?! Most weddings go until 11 or 12. I seriously don't want to see cranky kids at a wedding that late. And it's exceptionally rude to leave wedding at 8pm. I just don't see the appeal of kids at weddings. Maybe it's okay at the actual wedding, but no kids at receptions please!

We had our wedding at 3, ending at 6. My Dad hosted an after party. Different people, different weddings.

To the PP can your DH email both your MIL and SIL and explain that the timing of the wedding means that y our kids will be in bed and that you are not comfortable wiht using a babysitter you don’t know. You appreciate the invite and hope that it will be a beautiful evening and that you are truly sorry to miss it. Hopefully that will get your MIL off your SIL back but at the very lest your SIL knows that the insanity is not coming from your side.

Fml we were just invited to dhs cousins wedding. Our toddler and baby weren’t invited and dh isn’t interested in leaving them so we were going to rsvp no. If we were closer to the cousin or didn’t need to fly it would be different.

Anyways, MIL is raising hell that my babies weren’t invited. Ugh. I’m so embarrassed for the bride. We don’t want to go and they don’t want us. My infant sleeps at 6:30pm! I wish we could get a babysitter there but dh is really overprotective and this wouldn’t happen.

Just rsvp no. Problem solved.