Anonymous wrote:I'm going to try to analyze present state.

So Rebecca and Miguel are married and live in the NYC suburb (or near to) where Randall lives.

Kate and Kevin lived in LA. Kevin of course is moving.

Kate has Jack's ashes. It seems like the last two episodes were indicating they had a tighter relationship.

We've seen Rebecca go to Randall's house. But when Kevin's in trouble, he calls Kate. And Kate thus far hasn't been shown to interact with mom. And there is the country-wide distance.

I'm starting to feel like whatever happened led to a mom & Randall, and Kevin-Kate split. With Kevin obliviously in the middle. But you can tell Randall is still mad at him for stuff.

Anonymous wrote:so the end of the show when they showed Randall packing up his fathers things... i found that kind of odd. Were they looking ahead to his biological father dying?

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one that doesent really like Kate's boyfriend? I don't know what it is but he seems super pushy. I've thought this from day 1.

Anonymous wrote:This is the first episode where I got misted up at the end, with the painting scene. Not understanding all the other tearjerker references. Are many of you in early mommyhood? I was more prone to tearing up when my kids were young, too.

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Anonymous wrote:I love that this show is tackling racial issues. Randall picking a pool that he knows more black people go to because even at 8 years-old he understands that he's different and wants to be around people that look like him. I'm glad that the mother put her ego aside and asked for help from the black woman.

That black woman at the pool was such a snot to Rebecca. Why did she feel the need to humiliate Rebecca, simply because Rebecca was the white adoptive mom of a black child? She could have kindly offered advice re: the rash on Randall's neck, but instead she chose to loudly patronize Rebecca simply because Rebecca hadn't run right over to the black families and introduced Randall. WTF? I was really glad Rebecca went back and schooled that know-it-all.

Of course, we know they'll become friends regardless, but the whole scene made me mad.

I agree. It was over the top. I don't like the idea that someone who is selflessly raising another person's child being ridiculed over something like the child's hair.

A. I understand where the black woman is coming from. A white family with a black child doesn't bother to introduce (or even acknowledge) themselves to the other black families is a big snub. With the history of black-white relations white people adopting black children is still a sensitive topic (rightfully so), the least she could do is be friendly to other black people for Randall's sake.

B. Rebecca isn't selflessly raising another person's child*, she's raising her own child, and she adopted for the same selfish reasons that people have biological children. If her bio son hadn't died they would have went home with 3 white bio kids. She 'selfishly' wanted to come home with 3 kids because that is what they had planned on, period!

*We have to stop looking at adoption as some savior act when it's just as arrogant and selfish as having a biological child.

You are nuts. First of all, Rebecca was not obligated to go and start chatting up a bunch of strangers at a pool simply because they are black. If this was so important to the black folks, then why would they not approach her? Second of all, how is raising another person's child, or for that matter, having one's own biological child, "selfish and arrogant?" Would you prefer that children get tossed around from foster home to foster home rather than living with loving families who happen to be of a different race than the child. Would that be some kind of moral victory? If this is such a concern, then why don't more minority families step up and adopt these children? Or why don't people just not have children at all since, as you say, it is just an arrogant and selfish pursuit.

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, missed it again. Thought it was in at 10!