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Anonymous wrote:Hoping for an update from OP when this trip takes place!

OP here. The trip is next week. current status: after DC spit out the chicken nuggets, the next night we tried grilled cheese on gluten free bread which was a battle royale. As predicted, DH resisted owning up to this situation (his family dynamic is mom slips crazy stuff by people and no one makes waves) and instead yelled at the 4 year old for not eating it. He was really miffed at me for pushing him on this (again, he didn't want to make waves and I forced the issue), but he finally conceded that 5 days of DC not eating much would not go well, and he called his mom. I still do not know what the rules of the road are, but she called me to ask what brand of bread they like, so at a minimum we have pb&j as a backup, which is enough to get us through it.

I like you, Op.
You were proactive.
You made the attempt in good faith.
You did it in front of DH thereby making him aware and now part of the problem and solution
DH had to man up and deal, most likely knowing you weren't going to do it for him
And your MIL called YOU and waved the white flag

Well done.

Thank you for this, truly. I really agonized over this (and so did the DCUM community judging from the 20 page thread ) and wanted to do as best I could by everyone, so I really appreciate the kind words.

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Anonymous wrote:Hoping for an update from OP when this trip takes place!

OP here. The trip is next week. current status: after DC spit out the chicken nuggets, the next night we tried grilled cheese on gluten free bread which was a battle royale. As predicted, DH resisted owning up to this situation (his family dynamic is mom slips crazy stuff by people and no one makes waves) and instead yelled at the 4 year old for not eating it. He was really miffed at me for pushing him on this (again, he didn't want to make waves and I forced the issue), but he finally conceded that 5 days of DC not eating much would not go well, and he called his mom. I still do not know what the rules of the road are, but she called me to ask what brand of bread they like, so at a minimum we have pb&j as a backup, which is enough to get us through it.

I like you, Op.
You were proactive.
You made the attempt in good faith.
You did it in front of DH thereby making him aware and now part of the problem and solution
DH had to man up and deal, most likely knowing you weren't going to do it for him
And your MIL called YOU and waved the white flag

Well done.

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Anonymous wrote:Hoping for an update from OP when this trip takes place!

OP here. The trip is next week. current status: after DC spit out the chicken nuggets, the next night we tried grilled cheese on gluten free bread which was a battle royale. As predicted, DH resisted owning up to this situation (his family dynamic is mom slips crazy stuff by people and no one makes waves) and instead yelled at the 4 year old for not eating it. He was really miffed at me for pushing him on this (again, he didn't want to make waves and I forced the issue), but he finally conceded that 5 days of DC not eating much would not go well, and he called his mom. I still do not know what the rules of the road are, but she called me to ask what brand of bread they like, so at a minimum we have pb&j as a backup, which is enough to get us through it.

I like you, Op.
You were proactive.
You made the attempt in good faith.
You did it in front of DH thereby making him aware and now part of the problem and solution
DH had to man up and deal, most likely knowing you weren't going to do it for him
And your MIL called YOU and waved the white flag

Well done.

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Anonymous wrote:Hoping for an update from OP when this trip takes place!

OP here. The trip is next week. current status: after DC spit out the chicken nuggets, the next night we tried grilled cheese on gluten free bread which was a battle royale. As predicted, DH resisted owning up to this situation (his family dynamic is mom slips crazy stuff by people and no one makes waves) and instead yelled at the 4 year old for not eating it. He was really miffed at me for pushing him on this (again, he didn't want to make waves and I forced the issue), but he finally conceded that 5 days of DC not eating much would not go well, and he called his mom. I still do not know what the rules of the road are, but she called me to ask what brand of bread they like, so at a minimum we have pb&j as a backup, which is enough to get us through it.

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Anonymous wrote:Hoping for an update from OP when this trip takes place!

OP here. The trip is next week. current status: after DC spit out the chicken nuggets, the next night we tried grilled cheese on gluten free bread which was a battle royale. As predicted, DH resisted owning up to this situation (his family dynamic is mom slips crazy stuff by people and no one makes waves) and instead yelled at the 4 year old for not eating it. He was really miffed at me for pushing him on this (again, he didn't want to make waves and I forced the issue), but he finally conceded that 5 days of DC not eating much would not go well, and he called his mom. I still do not know what the rules of the road are, but she called me to ask what brand of bread they like, so at a minimum we have pb&j as a backup, which is enough to get us through it.

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Pasta - try Barilla, that's our favorite and I think the most like regular pasta. Just remember the gentle boil and stir. Spaghetti is the hardest because it tends to clump - if We're making that I actually break it in half and stir with tongs to pull it apart.

Bread - this is probably one of the hardest ones, and most mass produced aren't great. We actually got a bread maker to make our own. The really good GF breads tend to be from smaller, GF bakeries. Can you live without bread for the week?

Nuggets - I think we've done apple gate and they were OK, but honestly I generally make my own, though that's more for my non-GF kid anyway.

What other foods do your kids eat? I've found that focusing on naturally GF foods can really be easier. Do they eat rice or potatoes? What about corn tortillas?

Thanks PP. I'll try Barilla. What coating do you use for your own nuggets? I can try that at home first. Do you have a soy sauce you like?

The older one is more adventurous and will probably be OK - hot dog, hamburger, nachos, French fries... The 4YO eats almost nothing I can think of that doesn't have some gluten. Meal staples are grilled cheese, turkey sandwiches, pb& j, nuggets, variants of pizza, grilled chicken with a specific marinade (this is a possibility for replacement)... Plain white rice, I guess. No tortillas, no potatoes other than fried. Eggs rarely and only if made just so. [and before I get more grief about their diets, they eat plenty of fruit, cheese, yogurt, etc. we just need dinner!]

Your kids are way too picky. You've let this go on way too long. Our pediatrician warns that, for picky eaters, "Fix it by 5 or it won't change."

Actually my ped said the opposite. When I ask her about my picky eaters she brushes it off and says I shouldn't stress or worry about it. My 5 yo eats similar to OP's. My 8 yo started branching out a lot starting a it age 7.

And frankly, I wouldn't go GF for a week, so I wouldn't ask my kids to. We'd be skipping this vacation with DH's full support. And he'd have some words for his mother too.

Some words about how she was protecting her 2yo grandson? What a peach! Don't go, fine; politely decline. But take your "words" and keep them to yourself.

Not a chance. My MIL would be told exactly why we wouldn't be coming. No sugar coating. But she'd never be so unreasonable in the first place. She'd give the Celiac family the cabin and be done with it. She wouldn't alter her 50 year old delicious recipes or GF her kitchen.

Troll.

This is a toddler's medical condition, not some insufferable cousin who's imposing their dietary habits on the rest of the family.

Not a troll! I wouldn't take the trip and I wouldn't lie about the "flu." It's not a reasonable thing to ask of others for a week. And a lot of people on this thread agree.

So decline POLITELY, and move on with your like. No need to try to control their decisions and the way the want the vacation to go. If it's not for you, just peace out.

I would. I would POLITELY state the real reason we would not be going on this "vacation." If not wanting to eat like a prison inmate on my "vacation" makes me a jerk, I can live with that.

Good luck OP! You are being more than understanding - they are being unreasonable.

I'm pretty sure they serve gluten in prison.

Probably so! Because not doing so would be considered cruel and unusual!

How sad that carb-y, processed foods have you so addicted.

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Anonymous wrote:GF mom.

Pasta - try Barilla, that's our favorite and I think the most like regular pasta. Just remember the gentle boil and stir. Spaghetti is the hardest because it tends to clump - if We're making that I actually break it in half and stir with tongs to pull it apart.

Bread - this is probably one of the hardest ones, and most mass produced aren't great. We actually got a bread maker to make our own. The really good GF breads tend to be from smaller, GF bakeries. Can you live without bread for the week?

Nuggets - I think we've done apple gate and they were OK, but honestly I generally make my own, though that's more for my non-GF kid anyway.

What other foods do your kids eat? I've found that focusing on naturally GF foods can really be easier. Do they eat rice or potatoes? What about corn tortillas?

Thanks PP. I'll try Barilla. What coating do you use for your own nuggets? I can try that at home first. Do you have a soy sauce you like?

The older one is more adventurous and will probably be OK - hot dog, hamburger, nachos, French fries... The 4YO eats almost nothing I can think of that doesn't have some gluten. Meal staples are grilled cheese, turkey sandwiches, pb& j, nuggets, variants of pizza, grilled chicken with a specific marinade (this is a possibility for replacement)... Plain white rice, I guess. No tortillas, no potatoes other than fried. Eggs rarely and only if made just so. [and before I get more grief about their diets, they eat plenty of fruit, cheese, yogurt, etc. we just need dinner!]

Your kids are way too picky. You've let this go on way too long. Our pediatrician warns that, for picky eaters, "Fix it by 5 or it won't change."

Actually my ped said the opposite. When I ask her about my picky eaters she brushes it off and says I shouldn't stress or worry about it. My 5 yo eats similar to OP's. My 8 yo started branching out a lot starting a it age 7.

And frankly, I wouldn't go GF for a week, so I wouldn't ask my kids to. We'd be skipping this vacation with DH's full support. And he'd have some words for his mother too.

Some words about how she was protecting her 2yo grandson? What a peach! Don't go, fine; politely decline. But take your "words" and keep them to yourself.

Not a chance. My MIL would be told exactly why we wouldn't be coming. No sugar coating. But she'd never be so unreasonable in the first place. She'd give the Celiac family the cabin and be done with it. She wouldn't alter her 50 year old delicious recipes or GF her kitchen.

Troll.

This is a toddler's medical condition, not some insufferable cousin who's imposing their dietary habits on the rest of the family.

Not a troll! I wouldn't take the trip and I wouldn't lie about the "flu." It's not a reasonable thing to ask of others for a week. And a lot of people on this thread agree.

So decline POLITELY, and move on with your like. No need to try to control their decisions and the way the want the vacation to go. If it's not for you, just peace out.

I would. I would POLITELY state the real reason we would not be going on this "vacation." If not wanting to eat like a prison inmate on my "vacation" makes me a jerk, I can live with that.

Good luck OP! You are being more than understanding - they are being unreasonable.

I'm pretty sure they serve gluten in prison.

Probably so! Because not doing so would be considered cruel and unusual!

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why the GF family just doesn't take the cabin and handle their food there? Why make 2 places subject to strict rules when than inconveniences more people than necessary? That is strange and very selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:GF mom.

Pasta - try Barilla, that's our favorite and I think the most like regular pasta. Just remember the gentle boil and stir. Spaghetti is the hardest because it tends to clump - if We're making that I actually break it in half and stir with tongs to pull it apart.

Bread - this is probably one of the hardest ones, and most mass produced aren't great. We actually got a bread maker to make our own. The really good GF breads tend to be from smaller, GF bakeries. Can you live without bread for the week?

Nuggets - I think we've done apple gate and they were OK, but honestly I generally make my own, though that's more for my non-GF kid anyway.

What other foods do your kids eat? I've found that focusing on naturally GF foods can really be easier. Do they eat rice or potatoes? What about corn tortillas?

Thanks PP. I'll try Barilla. What coating do you use for your own nuggets? I can try that at home first. Do you have a soy sauce you like?

The older one is more adventurous and will probably be OK - hot dog, hamburger, nachos, French fries... The 4YO eats almost nothing I can think of that doesn't have some gluten. Meal staples are grilled cheese, turkey sandwiches, pb& j, nuggets, variants of pizza, grilled chicken with a specific marinade (this is a possibility for replacement)... Plain white rice, I guess. No tortillas, no potatoes other than fried. Eggs rarely and only if made just so. [and before I get more grief about their diets, they eat plenty of fruit, cheese, yogurt, etc. we just need dinner!]

Your kids are way too picky. You've let this go on way too long. Our pediatrician warns that, for picky eaters, "Fix it by 5 or it won't change."

Actually my ped said the opposite. When I ask her about my picky eaters she brushes it off and says I shouldn't stress or worry about it. My 5 yo eats similar to OP's. My 8 yo started branching out a lot starting a it age 7.

And frankly, I wouldn't go GF for a week, so I wouldn't ask my kids to. We'd be skipping this vacation with DH's full support. And he'd have some words for his mother too.

Some words about how she was protecting her 2yo grandson? What a peach! Don't go, fine; politely decline. But take your "words" and keep them to yourself.

Not a chance. My MIL would be told exactly why we wouldn't be coming. No sugar coating. But she'd never be so unreasonable in the first place. She'd give the Celiac family the cabin and be done with it. She wouldn't alter her 50 year old delicious recipes or GF her kitchen.

Troll.

This is a toddler's medical condition, not some insufferable cousin who's imposing their dietary habits on the rest of the family.

Not a troll! I wouldn't take the trip and I wouldn't lie about the "flu." It's not a reasonable thing to ask of others for a week. And a lot of people on this thread agree.

So decline POLITELY, and move on with your like. No need to try to control their decisions and the way the want the vacation to go. If it's not for you, just peace out.

I would. I would POLITELY state the real reason we would not be going on this "vacation." If not wanting to eat like a prison inmate on my "vacation" makes me a jerk, I can live with that.

Good luck OP! You are being more than understanding - they are being unreasonable.

I'm pretty sure they serve gluten in prison.

Probably so! Because not doing so would be considered cruel and unusual!