Anonymous wrote:Is diet soda ok?

The mechanism in your stomach that detects sugar and tells your brain to release insulin responds to sugar or fake sugar. You're still telling your brain you've consumed sugar. Now, the sugar compound doesn't reach your blood, or brain, because it isn't there with diet soda. But you're body has already responded to the need to process it.

Is diet soda ok?

I eat healthy foods. I don't starve ever. If I don't feel satiated I eat more, but I eat what gives me nutrition.

Also, I taught my body to not crave sugar. It takes a long time, years really. When I do eat something sugary now (like cake or soda) I feel nauseous. Our bodies are not made to digest such huge amounts of processed sugar in one sitting.

Anonymous wrote:Greek yogurt with fruit is not dessert.

Well, for thin women in shape, Greek yogurt with fruit is desert. It's not about starving or constantly exercising. It is about being conscious about what you eat.

I am in a great shape and basically the same weight since high school (size XS), and eat a very healthy diet without counting calories. But yes, I rarely have a "traditional dessert" (ice cream, cake, pastry, etc.). I do love dark chocolate and have some daily. Also, a glass (or two) of red wine. Also almost daily.

Greek yogurt with fruit is not dessert.

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Anonymous wrote:WHY do most men favor very thin women though?? Not exactly a sign of fertility. Embarrassing to admit but I love the willowy look, too. Is this all just programming or an innate preference? It seems the smartest thing a woman can do for herself is to get borderline underweight

Conditioning from the porn industry/Hollywood. Think about the body type they hold up as perfect. A teeny tiny dancer's body (waif like, no belly fat, prominent clavicle and hip bones, thigh gap, visible ribs if the woman raises her arms) with big, fake boobs. That is a body type that does exist naturally (think someone like Misty Copeland) but it's pretty rare ime. Usually when you lose enough weight to be a size 0 or 2, or jeez 00, you don't have much fat in the boob area left.

It's not as rare as you think.

I don't know if I have the body described perfectly, but I'm 5'5", 120 lbs with a bra size that's 34D. (On my period, my bras are too small)

I do work out a lot and eat a very good diet. I am skinny as I eat a good weight, and particularly don't eat a lot of carbs (which means I don't retain water). But I'm strong and toned as I lift very heavy weights.

I think many more people here would have this body type if they just watched what they ate and lifted weights.

I'd rather eat carbs and be 150 than avoid them and be 120.

That's your choice.

I eat some carbs, for example rice in sushi or lentil soup. I also eat desserts, which is often Greek yogurt with fruit which I love. Most pastries here suck so I'm rarely tempted, but if come across a really good one, I'll eat some. Like a good macaron or creme brulee.

Anonymous wrote:I think 5'5 120 sounds good but you'd probably have Hollywood producers telling you to lose 10-15 lbs if you were going up for film roles.

I wouldn't be surprised. But I'm 120 lbs and toned. Many celebrities aren't. So 120 lbs on them looks different.

I'm 35, and I've pretty much had the same weight since I got out of college. When I started lifting I was also 120 lbs, but my body fat % was high. Since then, I lost fat and gained muscle and stayed at 120 lbs about. People who haven't seen me in awhile comment that I look like I've lost weight.

Not many women lift. I seriously believe that if everyone lifted and ate the same, they would lost 5 within a month.

If you lifted and ate better (not even eat less food but maybe even more food), I would guess most people would lose 10 lbs within 3 months.

Anonymous wrote:I think 5'5 120 sounds good but you'd probably have Hollywood producers telling you to lose 10-15 lbs if you were going up for film roles.

Yep, you would have to be around 105, and then your boobs would be smaller. I am 5'6", 125 and a 34 DD, and I have a really small waist, but I certainly don't look like a model/celebrity. I have had two kids and can barely work out. I am guessing you don't either, just based on the women I see walking around.

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Anonymous wrote:WHY do most men favor very thin women though?? Not exactly a sign of fertility. Embarrassing to admit but I love the willowy look, too. Is this all just programming or an innate preference? It seems the smartest thing a woman can do for herself is to get borderline underweight

Conditioning from the porn industry/Hollywood. Think about the body type they hold up as perfect. A teeny tiny dancer's body (waif like, no belly fat, prominent clavicle and hip bones, thigh gap, visible ribs if the woman raises her arms) with big, fake boobs. That is a body type that does exist naturally (think someone like Misty Copeland) but it's pretty rare ime. Usually when you lose enough weight to be a size 0 or 2, or jeez 00, you don't have much fat in the boob area left.

It's not as rare as you think.

I don't know if I have the body described perfectly, but I'm 5'5", 120 lbs with a bra size that's 34D. (On my period, my bras are too small)

I do work out a lot and eat a very good diet. I am skinny as I eat a good weight, and particularly don't eat a lot of carbs (which means I don't retain water). But I'm strong and toned as I lift very heavy weights.

I think many more people here would have this body type if they just watched what they ate and lifted weights.

I'd rather eat carbs and be 150 than avoid them and be 120.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps if you can retrain what you are craving. For instance, I have a huge sweet tooth and I used to eat candy, cookies, cake, ice cream, etc. every day back when I had a faster metabolism. Now I eat an apple or a handful of grapes for dessert. Still sweet but fewer calories. Or I'll have a frozen fruit or sorbet bar instead of ice cream, that kind of thing. If I order a cheeseburger I'll have a third instead of the whole thing. No alcohol.

So what do you do for fun instead of eat?

Same things as everyone else. Read, watch tv, go out to movies, etc. I just don't eat a bunch of cookies for dessert anymore.

I go out for dinner plus wine for fun.

I think 5'5 120 sounds good but you'd probably have Hollywood producers telling you to lose 10-15 lbs if you were going up for film roles.

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Anonymous wrote:WHY do most men favor very thin women though?? Not exactly a sign of fertility. Embarrassing to admit but I love the willowy look, too. Is this all just programming or an innate preference? It seems the smartest thing a woman can do for herself is to get borderline underweight

Conditioning from the porn industry/Hollywood. Think about the body type they hold up as perfect. A teeny tiny dancer's body (waif like, no belly fat, prominent clavicle and hip bones, thigh gap, visible ribs if the woman raises her arms) with big, fake boobs. That is a body type that does exist naturally (think someone like Misty Copeland) but it's pretty rare ime. Usually when you lose enough weight to be a size 0 or 2, or jeez 00, you don't have much fat in the boob area left.

It's not as rare as you think.

I don't know if I have the body described perfectly, but I'm 5'5", 120 lbs with a bra size that's 34D. (On my period, my bras are too small)

I do work out a lot and eat a very good diet. I am skinny as I eat a good weight, and particularly don't eat a lot of carbs (which means I don't retain water). But I'm strong and toned as I lift very heavy weights.

I think many more people here would have this body type if they just watched what they ate and lifted weights.

If it's not that rare, then why do so many celebrities get boob jobs?

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Anonymous wrote:WHY do most men favor very thin women though?? Not exactly a sign of fertility. Embarrassing to admit but I love the willowy look, too. Is this all just programming or an innate preference? It seems the smartest thing a woman can do for herself is to get borderline underweight

Conditioning from the porn industry/Hollywood. Think about the body type they hold up as perfect. A teeny tiny dancer's body (waif like, no belly fat, prominent clavicle and hip bones, thigh gap, visible ribs if the woman raises her arms) with big, fake boobs. That is a body type that does exist naturally (think someone like Misty Copeland) but it's pretty rare ime. Usually when you lose enough weight to be a size 0 or 2, or jeez 00, you don't have much fat in the boob area left.

It's not as rare as you think.

I don't know if I have the body described perfectly, but I'm 5'5", 120 lbs with a bra size that's 34D. (On my period, my bras are too small)

I do work out a lot and eat a very good diet. I am skinny as I eat a good weight, and particularly don't eat a lot of carbs (which means I don't retain water). But I'm strong and toned as I lift very heavy weights.

I think many more people here would have this body type if they just watched what they ate and lifted weights.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps if you can retrain what you are craving. For instance, I have a huge sweet tooth and I used to eat candy, cookies, cake, ice cream, etc. every day back when I had a faster metabolism. Now I eat an apple or a handful of grapes for dessert. Still sweet but fewer calories. Or I'll have a frozen fruit or sorbet bar instead of ice cream, that kind of thing. If I order a cheeseburger I'll have a third instead of the whole thing. No alcohol.

So what do you do for fun instead of eat?

Same things as everyone else. Read, watch tv, go out to movies, etc. I just don't eat a bunch of cookies for dessert anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree about thinness adding to attractiveness in men's eyes. I don't think I have an especially pretty face but I've always been thin and have always had more than my share of attention from guys.

I don't get it. The fertility thing is plausible, but when the guy and woman are both in their 40s, who cares about fertility? I've been slightly surprised that less attractive but thin women are more highly prized. I'm much more into a guy's face and mannerisms than his body shape.

I'm only 35 so I don't know how it'll go in my forties. People do say you have to choose between your ass and your face so maybe I will be ok with gaining a few lbs. by then I can only tell you that I've had a lot of (mostly unwanted) attention from men in my teens and twenties and even early thirties and I don't think my face is that pretty (I have freckles and I hardly ever bother to wear makeup) so I have to figure it was my body. Lots of catcalls on the street, lots of come ons and corny pick up lines from strangers in bars, etc. Plus I've always had guys asking me out. Even now I catch men checking me out in restaurants when I'm with my kids. I don't know what else it could be. (I do have nice hair, now expensively maintained to combat the gray, but do men go for hair? idk).